In-Laws and Dog - Baby on way

Curious_George_2

cheepskate wrote: »

I find it GREAT how the in-comming and usually the daughter in law can cause 101 problems before they even arise.
Hopefully my son will never marry or will turn out to be GAY so i never have to deal with the daughter in laws from hell.

a little over the top dont you think??
she doesnt want a muscle dog all over her newborn baby and that makes her the daughter in law from hell??
shes trying to find a solution BEFORE it becomes a problem and your wishing homosexuality on your son rather than deal with a female threat to your position?

for the sake of any girl who might fall for your son i hope he IS gay...
it will save the poor cow a lifetime of misery from the stereotypical nightmare mother in law

OP - how about a text or a call when your on your way over to say "we are 5 minutes away can you shut the dog away please"
i wouldnt think twice about doing this... At the very least the dog will be over excited and jump about a bit, i dont think asking them to pop it in the other room while you visit will cause world war 3

kindofagilr

cheepskate wrote: »

I find it GREAT how the in-comming and usually the daughter in law can cause 101 problems before they even arise.
Hopefully my son will never marry or will turn out to be GAY so i never have to deal with the daughter in laws from hell.

What a silly and weird thing to say!

I am sure OP would say the same if they werent here in laws and were her aunty or uncle or grandparents or something.

rach83

cheepskate wrote: »

I find it GREAT how the in-comming and usually the daughter in law can cause 101 problems before they even arise.
Hopefully my son will never marry or will turn out to be GAY so i never have to deal with the daughter in laws from hell.

If you havent got anything constructive to say why bother making judgement. You dont know me and I was looking for advice. Good luck if you do ever become a grandparent.

*Louise*

cheepskate wrote: »

I find it GREAT how the in-comming and usually the daughter in law can cause 101 problems before they even arise.
Hopefully my son will never marry or will turn out to be GAY so i never have to deal with the daughter in laws from hell.

It's that sort of ignorant attitude that causes daughters in law so much trouble.

If certain people were a little more open to discussion there wouldn't be such problems. The OP is trying to find a way to sort it without causing upset to her inlaws, or did you conveniently ignore that sentence?

*Louise*

Btw OP - I think you should allow the dog to be introduced to the baby, but make it clear that they are never to be left alone together.

A lot of people feel insulted and say their dog wouldn't hurt a fly - but how many times has everyone heard that??

Better to be too safe than too complacent.....

cheepskate_2

Curious_George wrote: »

sh and your wishing homosexuality on your son rather than deal with a female threat to your position?

Threat to my position......? In my household we dont hold positions, But obviously you feel the need to do so in your household

cheepskate_2

rach83 wrote: »

If you havent got anything constructive to say why bother making judgement. You dont know me and I was looking for advice.

(QUOTE)but I know that as dogs they do not have the best reputation for one reason or another.

He is a very strong dog and I am not overly happy about the baby being around him full stop. >(QUOTE)>

I think you had already made up your mind before you even posted, AND i did give you advice, just not the advice you wanted to hear.

Just on a side note. Some of the advice that Kay Peel has given is very good advice. If at this early age of the baby you do not allow the dog to have interaction and bang it in another room everytime you visit as some have advised then come when baby is toddling/running about/ teenager(you get my drift) you will be back on here as the dog has no way to learn the right order in the household.

debjam

I have a boxer and whenever my grandaughter(8), niece(5) or nephew(3) come to visit he is allowed to say hello and is then sent to his basket, where he sits with such a sulk on, until they are ready to play with him, if they want to and then chaos ensues. Any other visitors come to visit he is sent straight to his basket after being allowed to bark at the door (I let him do this as it deters unwanted callers from staying too long), he loves all the attention but being white and very boisterous he covers everyone in hair, it's embarassing.

I know which of my relatives have a fear of dogs and make sure that when they call he is put straight out into the conservatory. I know my dog is the soppiest of animals and just loves being the centre of attention but he needs to know his place, and I would certainly never leave him with a child/baby unattended, and I would not take offence if anyone I knew who came to my house asked me to remove him from the room.

Could the OP's OH approach them with "their" concerns. She doesn't mention his thoughts on the subject does she? Or did I miss that (sorry only did a quick read through).

littlerat

Hmmm..

Even on dog forums the general consensus is you don't leave young children alone with dogs. Even with the best intentions, a dog could hurt a baby/toddler by accident, especially medium or large dogs.

However, I wouldn't take kindly to somebody coming to MY house and telling me I had to shut MY dog away, sorry but if they came to your house, would you shut your children away so their dog could have a run around? In your house fine, your rules, but you can't expect other people to change their whole house for you, you just can't. In a year's time when the baby is crawling, would you tell them they had to hoover that morning too, so the carpet's clean for the baby to play on? Ban them from smoking for 24 hours in their house?

These may sound ridiculous to you, but to most dog owners telling them they had to shut their dog away would be every bit as offensive.


The reasons staffys have a bad rep is very little to do with them as dogs, unforunately as a breed they're overbred, undertrained and often badly treated, a lot of your stereotypical "chavs" have them to look good, some train them to be hard, they're just a victim of circumstances really. Properly socialised, trained and managed, they're no more dangerous than a spaniel or a golden retriever or labrador, or any other "friendly" breed.

If the dog's shown no behaviour suggesting aggression now, they give him/her the benefit of trust, don't get me wrong don't leave them alone, as I said baby could get hurt by accident, or little hands may grab a tail or such, but the dog is no more likely to hurt the baby than any other breed (maybe less so in fact, in the dog world away from the media and idiot owners they're known to be one of the softer temperamented breeds!) They also have the nickname of the "Nanny dog" as so many are very fond of humans (even many rescues who have been severely abused will still greet everyone with a lick!), and especially love children.

Zazen999

littlerat wrote: »

However, I wouldn't take kindly to somebody coming to MY house and telling me I had to shut MY dog away, sorry but if they came to your house, would you shut your children away so their dog could have a run around? In your house fine, your rules, but you can't expect other people to change their whole house for you, you just can't. .

Do babies attack dogs then? I must have missed THAT news report.....