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Good luck with Avon!

laurasavon

I'm an AVon rep too, let me know if you need any help!

LittleBit_2

Well have just wasted £3 on half an hour at the soft play! DS1 wouldn't leave my side and go and play on anything or with anyone. I met some girls I had been to antenatal classes with, and their children all go to nursery together so all played together quite happily. I had to sit in the baby bit with DS1 and DS2 while they all sat around and drunk coffee and had cake. In the end I said I was going home, as none of them even bothered to come in to the baby bit for 5 minutes to come and talk to me. I don't know why I bother. I hardly have any friends, and the few I do have are crap I seem to spend all my time sat in with the boys with no-one to talk to apart from people on here.

SmlSave

Sometimes people are carp littlebit ((hug)) TBH I think that they just don't have any consideration for the feelings of other people at times but I think it hurts more because you are the sort of person who would make the effort to include people.

That's cause you are lovely

How about you invite one of your friends over for coffee and a chat? Don't worry about how the house looks (wait, that's my house) or the fact that there's no biscuits in the tin (my house again, sorry) but invite them over or indeed invite yourself over theirs!

clearmydebts

(((Hugs))) sorry you are feeling so rubbish. It is horrible to feel left out. In their defence, I bet they were so busy chatting that they didn't even think to come over to you. No consolation I know, but if their little ones were playing away quite happily then they were probably glad of the break.

How about inviting them around to your house and DS1 could show the other kiddies his toys? At least all of you could sit around the kitchen table and have a proper chat.

I can empathise because I moved to where I am at 5 months pregnant and knew no-one. I have met a lot of first time Mums through groups (Family Information Service are great!) and also online. There are some people that I really feel I click with, but other days I feel like I have no proper friends here.

I try to keep as busy as possible and myself and Max have a friday off where we chill in our PJ's! Have you thought of joining any mother and baby groups? They are very friendly, although can be daunting at first.

LittleBit_2

I think they probably didn't realise that I was bothered about setting by myself to be fair, but it still upset me. I'd rushed the kids lunch, got them all ready, potty and spare clothes in the car etc and then I just wished I hadn't bothered.
DS1 is at an age where he doesn't want to play with other children at all he just wants to be with me... So I try and take them out to places, but it can get embarassing, because if other kids want to play with him he just says he doesn't like them and makes it quite obvious.

Anyway, today's another day

I'm going to collect some Avon catalogues back this morning, and hopefully some orders. Then I will drop some at the other houses. Hopefully DH will come with me to help.

This afternoon we're going to see my mum and dad as we haven't seen them for about a month. I need to buy some B&Q vouchers for my Sis and BIL anniversary present, but other than that I'm hoping there will be no unnecessary spending.

I think we will try and take the kids to the park too to get some fresh air and let DS1 run about a bit.

LittleBit_2

SmlSave wrote: »

Sometimes people are carp littlebit ((hug)) TBH I think that they just don't have any consideration for the feelings of other people at times but I think it hurts more because you are the sort of person who would make the effort to include people.

That's cause you are lovely

How about you invite one of your friends over for coffee and a chat? Don't worry about how the house looks (wait, that's my house) or the fact that there's no biscuits in the tin (my house again, sorry) but invite them over or indeed invite yourself over theirs!

Thanks, I don't know why I posted it really, I just needed to vent I think.

I ended up going round to a friends house for some drinks and cake. She is not someone I see very often, but we get on pretty well. Was nice just to have a chat and a bit of 'me' time

LittleBit_2

clearmydebts wrote: »

(((Hugs))) sorry you are feeling so rubbish. It is horrible to feel left out. In their defence, I bet they were so busy chatting that they didn't even think to come over to you. No consolation I know, but if their little ones were playing away quite happily then they were probably glad of the break.
You are probably right. In fact I think that they didn't even realise I was bothered, as I'm quite good at putting on a front and being independant IYKWIM.

How about inviting them around to your house and DS1 could show the other kiddies his toys? At least all of you could sit around the kitchen table and have a proper chat.
DS1 wouldn't share his toys with the other children and wouldn't want them to touch them. It's just his age. I've found 2 year olds are usually pretty bad at sharing with other kids, especially in their own house

I can empathise because I moved to where I am at 5 months pregnant and knew no-one. I have met a lot of first time Mums through groups (Family Information Service are great!) and also online. There are some people that I really feel I click with, but other days I feel like I have no proper friends here.

I try to keep as busy as possible and myself and Max have a friday off where we chill in our PJ's! Have you thought of joining any mother and baby groups? They are very friendly, although can be daunting at
first.
We do go to a couple of groups, and they are ok really. The only problem I find is that most of the mums know each other really well already so to try and make friends with them when they're already in establised little friendship groups is quite difficult.

Thanks for the comments though. How is your Max?

clearmydebts

LittleBit wrote: »

Thanks for the comments though. How is your Max?

No worries. I am glad you are feeling better. We defo all get days like them.

Max is great. Getting so big and interactive! How is your Max?

LittleBit_2

Hi is great too thanks. He is 8 1/2 months now, the time is going soooo quickly! He has just worked out how to crawl properly after months of commando shuffling. He is desperate to walk too. He pushed a cardboard box the length of the room the other day, so I think I'm going to have to start babyproofing the house again.