Thats another fine mess I got myself into

boredofbeingathome

Scream away and get a stress ball- or a flowerpot! very useful for chucking when stressed. x

hypno06

Lemon_Tree wrote: »

red, just think of how many cheques would have bounced a few months ago before you got control of the finances. It takes time to get thing completely turned around even when you have your OH completely on board so don't feel bad if it hasn't completely happened yet, you're still training your OH and you've got big companies to go up against as well.

Absolutely, you didn't get into this mess overnight, and you won't get out of it overnight.

But you are NOT a failure, and you WILL get through this.

REDMADCURLS

I feel like it is all crumbling around me and I can't stop it - there is no way I can find this money by tomorrow or even the next day! We are in dire straits now and I am so paniced I can't even think logically

Surely if one bank has bounced a chq then the other is going to do the same IYSWIM

pania

Hon.

nothing you can do is going to stop whatever chain of events the universe decides to put in place. All you can do is embrace it, accept it, learn the lessons it is giving you and continue on the path.
A few months ago you wouldnt have given a toot about a cheque bouncing because your head would have been so far in the sand you couldnt allow it to affect you.
look at the positivity in what you have acheived so far. a massive chunk off the business debt, getting the suppliers back on side and potentially saving your business and your income in the process. you have learnt financial management. you have become organised and decluttered massively to the process. this is one wee pebble that has been placed along your road to debt freedom, a road that is full of lessons in the shape of pebbles, rocks, boulders and even bloody great mountains to go around. the smooth bits are unfortunately few and far between.
Dont berate yourself, or OH, to do so is entirely unproductive. look on this as a lesson in perseverance and endurance and problem solving. embrace it, deal with it and then move on. You are an amazing, kind, lovely adult human being. you CAN stop it crumbling by remaining strong, keep it in perspective and not panicking. tomorrow will come and cheques or not you cant stop that. deal with what happens when it happens and not before. In the grand scheme of life you are alive, you have your health and you have love. a wee bounced cheque isnt going to take that away from you. x

Woowoo

Do you know how much you are short by Red?

REDMADCURLS

All very true honey......................as are everyone's posts...................as is DH

I am just so worried that banks will recall o'd's are such like...........actually I am getting carried away with myself and need to calm down.

It is a pebble, you are right Pania. Taxi tells me there is nothing I can do about it, she is right. Hypno tells me it will get better and I believe her, she is living proof.

But to me right now it feels like a big massive rock!

Woowoo

Well put pania.

I wish I had the money to give you Red x

REDMADCURLS

Woowoo wrote: »

Do you know how much you are short by Red?

I need to replace the £800, plus another £750 due to come out for the bloody rhubarb. I should get £1900 this week in chqs and cash sales. And then another £1200 next week from those who pay on 1st of month.

Thats the frustration.............I know its coming!

REDMADCURLS

Woowoo wrote: »

Well put pania.

I wish I had the money to give you Red x

Honey if you had the money, we would never have 'met' But the gesture is adorable (not that I would ever take it) and thank you xx

scotdebs

RED sorry you are having such an incredibly sh*T day. But you have more energy, humour and drive than most people on these boards and you will come through this and you will be so glad that you are dealing with the debts and no longer doing HIS (head in sand)

(((((HUGS)))))