Do you get small gifts for your OH just because you can?

gingin_2

No! It does't usually bother me but reading this, I agree, a little thoughtful gift would be nice once in a while, no matter how small. I do make up for it though - I buy myself lots of surprise gifts

This morning I got a Valentines Card with the price sticker on the back, starting with the words "Although we've had our ups and downs" !!!!! .... I thought we'd been happily married for 10 years! He just doesn't think and always operates at 110 mph. He got a card and a home made heart shaped cake from me :A

He knows he is in the dog house slightly and can't work out why :cool: I still love him lots though

LeeSouthEast

From a guy point of view on this, I'm in a distance relationship (it's only 60 miles, so not too bad!) but it does mean we can't see each other as often as we'd like until I move her way as I intend to do down the road.

There hasn't been one occasion when we've met up that I haven't got her a present. It might be as simple as her favourite chocolate. Once she was aching from some training we'd been doing, so I hid a bottle of Radox being held by a teddy bear in her bathroom.

I think little gifts are a nice way to show someone is on your mind, even when apart. I will never stop

Buddingblonde

I buy bits and pieces when I see them for OH and he does for me too. Often it is wee food treats but I often get flowers bought from Aldi (cheap and cheerful) for no reason (he loves flowers too so often says that he bought them for himself - lol)
In fact he is better with general gifts than he is with gifts for occassions - he is terrible for remembering birthdays, mothers day (I buy for his mum and his aunt who also brought him up) and christmas is often an struggle.

loopylulu_3

My OH doesn't often buy me little gifts cause he can. But i don't mind i don't really buy him things apart from the odd magazine. However for my birthday last year he gave me money towards my football season tickets 3 months before my birthday. However come my birthday he spent another £100 buying me an MP3 player because he knew i would like it (he did also buy himself exactly the same one at the same time!)

It really doesn't bother me at all.

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robpw2 wrote: »

men tend to buy presents impromtu when they feel guilty for something lol

Only if you live in a sitcom.

bylromarha

It's all about how your OH knowing how you feel loved.

I don't do this for OH as it isn't the best way for him to receive my love. My OH feels most loved via touch - ie he would far rather have 10 hugs and kisses than the book he's had his eye on.

Me, I feel loved by "acts of service", so OH knows I feel most loved when he does things I wouldn't expect like unload the washing machine.

So, whilst little presents are okay and they do make the other smile, we find the freebie things a far better way of conveying our love.

Whole thing about it called "languages of love" very twee, but makes a lot of sense.

Threebabes

No my husband doesnt buy me little bits and bobs. If I want a bar of chocolate I have to tell him to get me one (as well as the 3 kids).

I do buy him bits and pieces, if I buy the kids some sweets I also buy him something. I just got him a CD because weve just bought a car with a cd player.

luxor4t

robpw2 wrote: »

men tend to buy presents impromtu when they feel guilty for something lol

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Only if you live in a sitcom.

OK, it's worth a try, I'll move: he'll never get the hang of thinking of anybody else without a script, a prompter & a director yelling at him :undecided

phunkles

Yes - we both do normally silly little token things that dont cost the earth but its nice to get something that imho says i was thinking about you and thought you would like this

donquine

Jo_R wrote: »

my OH does, he'll always pick me up a favourite choccy bar

Mine will buy me a little choccy bar... on his way home from the off licence. I'm not saying he buys me a little treat costing under a pound to try and deflect attention from him spending a tenner of our money on booze for him... but he does tend to buy me little things directly after buying big things for him.