Do you get small gifts for your OH just because you can?

tabskitten

*max* wrote: »

I think it's a bit harsh to say that...the girl's OH probably didn't have a clue what she would like, and thought "well, with money, she can buy something she'll like". TBH, most guys I've been with or known would cringe at doing a treasure hunt for a poem! I know I would....lol
Getting something for your bf/gf on valentine's day doesn't mean you don't also show them love everyday. If it's a "commercial pile of poo", why do you even bother with it then??

i never have bothered with it before- but was feeling guilty as have been working for last 4 weekends and work all week so been neglectiing oh.........and it was more to keep him occupied until i got home and to let him know that i am aware he has been very patient this month.

would never be sucked into buying cards or flowers......
and as this is a money saving forum i think that a bit of thought and effort over money spent should get the majority vote!

*max*

I agree, I didn't mean to sound harsh...:o
It's just that it gets my goat when people claim to hate valentine's day, and it's all a big commercial scam to trick people into spending money, yet they still celebrate it. I'm not ashamed to say that I really loved receiving a big bunch of roses last year, and a goodies basket the year after (when I had a bf!), and to hell with being thrifty! lol You have to admit, as a woman, you don't get that many occasions when your man is thoughtful enough to get you little surprises (I know I didn't), so you're grateful for those occasions when he is tricked into it! :rotfl:

tabskitten

*max* wrote: »

I agree, I didn't mean to sound harsh...:o
It's just that it gets my goat when people claim to hate valentine's day, and it's all a big commercial scam to trick people into spending money, yet they still celebrate it. I'm not ashamed to say that I really loved receiving a big bunch of roses last year, and a goodies basket the year after (when I had a bf!), and to hell with being thrifty! lol You have to admit, as a woman, you don't get that many occasions when your man is thoughtful enough to get you little surprises (I know I didn't), so you're grateful for those occasions when he is tricked into it! :rotfl:

no not me!!
my poor oh bought me a card one year and instead of thanking the poor bloke i practically threw it at him!!
if he had made me a card i would have been swept off my feet- but to by a commercially produced meaningless one- made my blood boil!!
Divorce if he ever bought me flowers (not actually married yet- that happens in june) - but if he went out and picked my a bunch of pretty weeds- my heart would melt!!

pigpen

mine just came back from sainsbugs with prawns, a creme egg, a bag of chocolate buttons and a drumstick lolly.. so I think I can quite safely and confidently say yes mine does..

I do occasionally pick things up for him if I see something he might like.. jelly babies usually or ginger crunch cremes.. lol.. we are easy pleased.

I think it shows you are thinking of your OH even when they are not right beside you which is as it should be.

Claire_Bear

My OH doesn't, simply because he hasn't got any money because he's been out of work. On the occassions where he has had some money (birthdays or Christmas or whatever) and he pops round the shop he'll usually bring me a choccy bar back It always makes me really happy even though it's such a small gesture. Also I'm the one who's always doing the shopping and wandering around town so I'll normally pick him something small up.

*max*

I really do appreciate the small things of everyday life, I just think you shouldn't slag off Valentine's day just because it's been commercialised so much.

When I was pregnant (didn't last), he walked 3 miles in the middle of the night to get me olives, because I was craving them! Now, he came back with the ones stuffed with anchovies, which I hate...! lol He then picked the stuffing out of every single one with a pair of tweezers, rinsed them in water and put them back in the jar, bless him! At 3am, I think it's a pretty cool way of saying "I love you"!

piglet6

*Max* - that is love!

Yes, Mr P and I regularly get little gifts for each other - OK, me a little bit more often than him...! But, it is the thoughtfulness that counts. I tend to pick him up little bits and pieces on a regular basis (i.e. all the time!), whereas he tends to do less regular things which I love him for - e.g. trekking out to get me a pizza at 11pm when there was snow on the ground, because they said it would be 1hr+ delivery time (due to high demand) but if he collected it, it would be ready in 15 mins...

Another one that springs to mind is that when I was in hospital for a week (major surgery), the surgical soap that I had to wash my hands in every time I went to the loo stripped the skin off my hands. He checked with the nurses that it would still be OK to use and then went and bought me my favourite Molton Brown soap (which smelled lovely and didn't strip my skin!).

Its the little things in a relationship that count...

P x

~_SKY_~

tabsmagic wrote: »

I would be devastated to get a card with money in?!?!?
Valentines is about LOVE- love , thought and i honestly cannot fathom why you would just give someone money?!?

i would happily not have anything for val day as see it as a commercial pile of poo- you should love your OH everyday, but i did write him a poem and set it around the house in a treasure hunt.

he got me inexpensive but heartfelt things i like.....

Money has NO place in our relationship as a display of love.

*max* wrote: »

I think it's a bit harsh to say that...the girl's OH probably didn't have a clue what she would like, and thought "well, with money, she can buy something she'll like". TBH, most guys I've been with or known would cringe at doing a treasure hunt for a poem! I know I would....lol
Getting something for your bf/gf on valentine's day doesn't mean you don't also show them love everyday. If it's a "commercial pile of poo", why do you even bother with it then??

I know what you mean Tabsmagic, but it's like *max* said, to most men they think differently to women. He knows i need some new things clothes etc and that i'm saving up for something big which isn't going to be cheap tat. So in his mind he probably thought he was doing good. Yes being female and sentimental i would have liked some nice jewellery engraved n some chocs but what i'll be getting with that money will be something that will bring us both a lot of happiness in the future as well. Men have a practical view of the world at times i think and things like this.

I do agree that Valentines day isn't the be and end all of everything, love should be shown all year through not just on one day when you're meant to force it. My OH is working tonight so we're doing something next weekend when he's on his long weekend.

catkins

Yes, we both buy each other presents all the time. It can be things like a book, cd, dvd or flowers or even a bar of chocolate or a cream egg. I think it's nice that if we see something the other will like we buy it or just buy some choccy to show we care.

It's not just aboutt presents though, we both do things for the other such as my OH making me a cup of tea every morning and, if I am not up, bringing it to me in bed. Also he works long hours and I usually cook but if I am tired or a bit down he will always cook. I really appreciate things like that

neneromanova

I tend to be the more sensitive one who sees something and thinks of the OH so I buy it for him whether it's a cake or something, whereas OH just doesn't bother. I've said to him many times now, so I just buy myself flowers, show them to him and say thank you very much for them. Fair enough he earns the money and I buy them using his money