Were looing to offer a house share for a single mother and her daughter

dmg24

OP, before she does move in, could I politely suggest that you stop referring to her as a girl? She is an adult and she has a child of her own, she is far from a girl!

Vader123

blue_monkey wrote: »

Unless of course there is something you are not telling us of course.

Of course there is. This whole think stinks and smells.

At the heart of the matter is that the OP thinks he is doing something good by this young lady and her baby.

It would be better for all if she found her own property. The OP could help her

• form filling
• her benefit entitlement
• lending her a deposit and rent
• being a character reference
• being a guarantor

After all, he says him and hos wife are close and known each other for years and is a godson to the child.

But no, this person wants her in her house.

Its a 2 bedroom property, he and his wife in bedroom#1, a child and mother in bedroom #2. Hes doing the form and now providing meals.

It stinks, and the fact he can't see it suggests there is something big to hide here, like a contrived tenancy, financial problems etc.

Sorry.
Vader

GEORGYPORGY

blue_monkey wrote: »

Actually Georgy YOU are missing the point. This young lady is going to be stuck in your house forever.

She will not be squatting at all and what we have suggested is perfectly legal and is the right way to go about things. It is her home until the judge decides otherwise. If she even bothers going to the HA then they will advise her on what to do. As will Shelter. As will the CAB. You'll find it on their respective websites.

You are preaching to everyone else about not having her interests at heart but your actions will mean that she will never get a chance at having a house FOR LIFE instead of uprooting her whenever her landlord says so. She cannot stay with you forever and this might be her only chance. She needs to take it - regardless of your selfish attitude. Because, this is what it is. Selfish. Whatever you think. Get her to CAB/Shelter/HA and they will advise her on the correct routes to go down.

And having met a young lady aged 7 who had moved 8 times in her little life I can tell you that children need roots, they need to know where home is. And your 'spare room' is not itas she cannot share a room with her mother forever, regardless of what you think. And once she is too old the only option available will be private renting.

Regardless of what you think I think you are throughly selfish not to tell this young girl of her options and help her get a secure HOME for her and her daughter.

Unless of course there is something you are not telling us of course.

DO YOU THINK THAT THIS 21 YEAR GIRL IS !!!!!!?
I CAN ASSURE YOU THAT SHE IS WELL AWARE OF HERE RIGHTS AS A SINGLE PARENT, Does she want to be a bludger who is reliant on state handouts, not as far as im aware, does she really want to be held to the cycle of housing authorities and the benefit society i guess not as she works.
DOES SHE WANT TO BRING HER DAUGHTER UP ON A COUNCIL ESTATE, THAT'S AN EQUIVOCAL NO!!
She doesn't want to play the "lets get a council house or housing authority house for free by using the law, nope unlike some people out there!
I asked for some help, unfortunately, your not in a position to furnish me with that help so it would be more of an assistance if you would respectfully just observe this THREAD.
I wanted to know about the benefit forms, agreements that are on offer and that's it, not whether you believe we have any other motives or not.

Oldernotwiser

GEORGYPORGY wrote: »

she only gets £11.00 per week as it is.

So who pays her rent and council tax? What about CB and CTC?

GEORGYPORGY

Vader123 wrote: »

Of course there is. This whole think stinks and smells.

At the heart of the matter is that the OP thinks he is doing something good by this young lady and her baby.

It would be better for all if she found her own property. The OP could help her

• form filling
• her benefit entitlement
• lending her a deposit and rent
• being a character reference
• being a guarantor

After all, he says him and hos wife are close and known each other for years and is a godson to the child.

But no, this person wants her in her house.

Its a 2 bedroom property, he and his wife in bedroom#1, a child and mother in bedroom #2. Hes doing the form and now providing meals.

It stinks, and the fact he can't see it suggests there is something big to hide here, like a contrived tenancy, financial problems etc.

Sorry.
Vader

Who says its a 2 bedroom property Einstein, & WHEN DID ANYONE SAY GODSON, the girl has a daughter not a boy, please, if your going to comment, perhaps you might at least read previous posts, what say you.

Oldernotwiser

GEORGYPORGY wrote: »

DOES SHE WANT TO BRING HER DAUGHTER UP ON A COUNCIL ESTATE, THAT'S AN EQUIVOCAL NO!!

But you live in an ex council house which you bought under the right to buy!

Why would living in a 2 bed council house of her own be worst than living in a 2 bed ex council house with you and your wife?

GEORGYPORGY

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

So who pays her rent and council tax? What about CB and CTC?

That's my point, i dont know, and ive come here, to find out what i should be expected to know, not be made to feel like were trying to rob her for christ sake.

GEORGYPORGY

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

But you live in an ex council house which you bought under the right to buy!

Why would living in a 2 bed council house of her own be worst than living in a 2 bed ex council house with you and your wife?

you have made the assumption that we have done nothing the house and that it remains in the original state it was when we first brought the place, this is indeed incorrect.
we indeed have spent a great deal of money on extensions etc etc, not that i need to justify that to you or anyone else!

Oldernotwiser

GEORGYPORGY wrote: »

That's my point, i dont know, and ive come here, to find out what i should be expected to know, not be made to feel like were trying to rob her for christ sake.

Why haven't you asked her?

She will have been getting all her rent paid for by LHA, just as she would if living with you. The difference is that she would have had a proper home for her child as opposed to living together in someone else's spare room.

You may have good intentions (benefit of the doubt and all that) but your plans will stop this young woman and her child from having their own secure home and push them into a cramped life in part of yours. As I said before, intentionally or not, you're doing them a grave disservice.

DX2

GEORGYPORGY wrote: »

DOES SHE WANT TO BRING HER DAUGHTER UP ON A COUNCIL ESTATE, THAT'S AN EQUIVOCAL NO!!
She doesn't want to play the "lets get a council house or housing authority house for free by using the law, nope unlike some people out there!

Well if that's the case please just ignore my previous post, I didn't realise we were talking about private rents. Strange that she will be happy in your ex council house...........