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Help - What to do when they won't accept it's over.
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I wasn't sure that I wanted to continue our relationship, I didn't feel that I loved him anymore.
It felt that seeing him was becoming a chore.
Since then I've tried to end our relationship, I don't love him (he insists that it's just a phase and that I'll change my mind) I'm not that keen on his company either anymore. I have told him that I don't love him on quite a few occassions but it's like he refuses to believe me, that's where the problem lies - I think.
I want to move on with my life, there isn't anyone else I'm interested in I just don't want to be his girlfriend anymore. I haven't slept with him in well over a year, I won't kiss him, hold hands or anything like, why? because I don't love him and no matter how many times I tell him he still won't leave me alone. I won't let him stay over at my house either.
We do get on well but for me it's as mates, we share very similar interests etc, but when we do go out most of the time I wish he wasn't there, he stands there constantly complaining about anything and everything that could be wrong with the venue or people there, rather than try and have a good time.
He's annoyed with me for not going out with him this weekend, I had already told him I was meeting a friend (female) on Saturday night, a friend I've not seen for months and wouldn't get the chance to see again for at least 4 weeks.
He keeps telling me how much he loves me and when I tactfully and as nicely as possible tell him that I don't feel the same he says well I'm not throwing nearly 5 years away. The last three years I've felt like this and I've told him until I'm blue in the face. I'm not a horrible person
I've not told him where I'm going on Saturday as I know he'd turn up and spoil it.
I feel my life is shrouded by a black cloud that is him and I can't seem to get away from it.
Any words of wisdom will be greatfully received.
I cant give you words of wisdom Gothdolly, but for what its worth I am in the same situation as you, only I am married, and hoping to get a divorce sorted out this year.
Everything you have said is how I feel, I could write on A4 sheets of paper evrything that is wrong with our marriage, or everything that is wrong with him and how I feel about him, I would struggle to write something good about how I feel for him on a postage stamp.:(
Sad, I know, but I have to sort this out, I like you, have said it to him time and time again whats wrong, but I get nothing, he makes no coment, they dont want to hear it, why?, cause they are in thier own bubble/cocoon, they are alright mate, s0d you.
I know its a lost cause, so now I have to go to plan B and get a divorce.
There is loads of things wrong, and if I want a solution to the problem then I have to get rid of the problem.
You on the other hand are not married, you have no ties, if you feel like this before you get married or live as a man and wife, then you know deep down it will never improve, you will end up in my situation, god forbid.:eek:
You know in your gut feeling what to do, a woman intuition is very rarely wrong.:)
Let us know how it all goes.:)0 -
Gothdolly, how did it go?0
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