Same as everyone else?

tartantotty

We are having a mix of the traditional and not so traditional. We are having black, white and hot pink theme. Our pocketfold invites are going to be black, pink and damask, the bridesmaids will be in black and hot pink, and I am going to carry a wire and crystal bouquet rather than flowers. We are not having favours, a wire cake topper, I am going to do a wee speech, a fast song as our first dance, no line up, a disco and ceilidh. I cant think of anything else as the mo, but there will be other things too!

Although we have family members who would prefer the whole traditional ivory and gold, chair covers and bows, sugared almonds type of wedding, its not really us, so we are doing what we want, not what anyone else does! (there is nothing wrong with a trad wedding though, I dont mean to sound offensive or anything! H2B's sis had a v traditional wedding and I know family will compare, and hers was about £20k, 4 times out budget, so having it exactly our way cuts down the opportunity for snippy comments!)

mrsW2b

Taadaa wrote: »

I am going to put flip flops in a basket next to the dance floor for the ladies, as if they are anything like me, fab shoes but killing feet by the evening aren't compatible with dancing;


Would you mind telling me where you're getting your flipflops from? I think its a great idea but is it working out to be expensive?

Stephb1986_2

What a fantastic idea!! with flipflops being tall myself I hate wearing heels so this is a fab idea

Steph xx

Taadaa

I don't have them yet. The plan is that when the nicer weather comes along, we will keep our eyes out in the likes of Primark and Tesco. I reckon we could get some fo £1 a pair, and not everyone will want them so planning to get about 20 pairs. If I find any bargains I will post! x

gorgeouslatinrose

Have a look in Primark, you can get some fab glittery ones for under a £1, and if your lucky they may be cheaper now due to time of the year.

Lexxi

Some of the rules are restrictions these venues have are outrageous, we were thinking of getting here registered for the small, informaly type weddings but I'd never be able to be so strict with people, if we were doing one a day, or more, then I can see that there would need to be boundries but most to all of these places have dedicated wedding planners, that obviously can't plan otherwise they wouldn't be so strict! Then there's their fees, I couldn't ask someone for £3.50 per chair cover, to hire :eek: and keep a straight face!

Could you not start asking people whether they want your money or not? I'd be getting a bit snippy if people were being awkward with me, with very little reason.

Carmen_Queasy

angel13 wrote: »

you can make your wedding as different and personal as you like. go to offbeat bride as menioned before. as for the comment about you have to have dress, cake, etc so they are bound to be simialr well you DONT have to have those things! you ahve whatever you want.

We have not found venue as proving hard but things we are definitely planning for are:
non white dress
afternoon tea or picnic food all vegetarian and as much vegan food as possible
no alcohol
no speeches
no best man or moh
no top table
no bridesmaids
no flowers
non romantic music if any
cake of cheese or if we cannot afford it no cake at all
small gathering for about 3-4hours and then we are leaving on honeymoon

this my not be that unusual but i have not been to a wedding where any of this has been the case so it is different for me.

Strangely enough, most of this that I've bolded is exactly what we're doing! Sooo, hi there, are you my fiance and have you changed your username?;) Seriously though, it's nice to see somebody doing something similar!

ETA- I'm just looking through the offbeat brides- great link, thanks so much for posting!

angel13

Carmen_Queasy wrote: »

Strangely enough, most of this that I've bolded is exactly what we're doing! Sooo, hi there, are you my fiance and have you changed your username?;) Seriously though, it's nice to see somebody doing something similar!

ETA- I'm just looking through the offbeat brides- great link, thanks so much for posting!

hi carmen it is not just me then and no i am not your fianc! unless you are mine in disguise and he doesnt really worry too much about the details so i am sure you are not! :rotfl:have you found a venue????

jjbargaingal

angel13 wrote: »

thanks so much! i have tried some of them and they just aren't right for us. the forestry commission one is too far from us but looks amazing is anyone in here using it? I love trees so i think that would be fantastic.

Hi ok here are a few more. What is your ideal venue location ?

http://www.overtherainbowwales.co.uk/ceremonies.html

http://www.follyfarm.org/weddings
http://www.eco-friendlyweddings.co.uk/venues_receptions.htm
http://www.huntstileorganicfarm.co.uk/
http://www.greenunion.co.uk/weddings/8210venues/index.html

This one is really pretty - you may know it if you are from west country

http://clovelly.co.uk/weddings.php

http://www.rydon-inn.com/weddings.html

One more in devon

http://www.itsagreatcottage.co.uk/#/weddings/4533878977

Reasonable for a castle, then go to a restaurant for the meal

http://www.haldonbelvedere.co.uk/Civil_Ceremonies_Partnerships.html

Think someone may have already mentioned this one - starts at £450.

http://www.waterlily.co.uk/weddings/tropicalhouse.php

good luck searching

angel13

jjbargaingal wrote: »

Hi ok here are a few more. What is your ideal venue location ?

http://www.overtherainbowwales.co.uk/ceremonies.html

http://www.follyfarm.org/weddings
http://www.eco-friendlyweddings.co.uk/venues_receptions.htm
http://www.huntstileorganicfarm.co.uk/
http://www.greenunion.co.uk/weddings/8210venues/index.html

This one is really pretty - you may know it if you are from west country

http://clovelly.co.uk/weddings.php

http://www.rydon-inn.com/weddings.html

One more in devon

http://www.itsagreatcottage.co.uk/#/weddings/4533878977

Reasonable for a castle, then go to a restaurant for the meal

http://www.haldonbelvedere.co.uk/Civil_Ceremonies_Partnerships.html

Think someone may have already mentioned this one - starts at £450.

http://www.waterlily.co.uk/weddings/tropicalhouse.php

good luck searching

thank you so much the one i like the most i can't use as a close friend has already used it!! as for ideal location i am in kent/east sussex border so needs to be within an hour of here. i had considered back home but if so would want to be near people i know and there is'nt anything so just want it to be near us now. this is the venue back home that were not any good for me but might be ok for someone else and some others:

http://www.abbotsbury-tourism.co.uk/wedding-day/index.htm
http://larmertree.co.uk/
http://www.hestercombe.com/weddings/

also this is the nearest garden to us in kent but we cannot afford it but might be ok for someone else again:
http://www.walledgardencowdray.co.uk/

I think our main problem as well as our list of needs is that our budget is small