question to those who dont bother with Valentines day

mintymoneysaver

I used to get really upset if I didn't get a Valentine's card, but now I'm of the 'What a waste of money' brigade. Told OH not to bother, and his reply " Oh, I'll get you one, they're only 59p in the card shop!" Who says romance is dead........

Oldernotwiser

vixarooni wrote: »

I think people forget the meaning of valentines day!

The meaning of Valentine's Day is to send a card to someone you fancy from afar,as opposed to someone you've been in a relationship with for years!

red_devil

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

The meaning of Valentine's Day is to send a card to someone you fancy from afar,as opposed to someone you've been in a relationship with for years!

not according to the shops they say for my wife/husband on valentines day. I think its become a national love day for all.

I have heard of parents sending their kids cards too.

SingleSue

We always did Valentines day but it was also jumbled up into a larger celebration to cover the date we met, Valentines day and our wedding anniversary...so one meal/hotel break covered all.

Don't do it now as there is no significant (or insignificant either!) other to exchange things with.

I do do Mothers and Fathers day, I do show my appreciation of my parents almost every day and will get them a treat now and again but it just makes it more official doing it on the day...Mothers day is always treated with more reverence though. For me, Mothers day is the day when I have the chance to feel special, even if it is just a cup of tea in bed or the boys (trying to) tidying up the front room. They on the other hand, want to show their appreciation by saving their pocket money and taking me out for a cheap meal (Mac Donalds one year!)..it's certainly not champagne and flowers but by god do I love it and appreciate it.

euronorris

vixarooni wrote: »

I think people forget the meaning of valentines day! My boyfriend and i will have a nice meal (in) we see it as more of an excuse to have another evening thats a bit more special rather than the "we can show our love all year round not just for one day" Which sounds more of a cop out than anything else.

People get a bit boring i think. I have got my boyfriend a big card from card factory for 99p, im going to make him a cake and hes got me something. Yea were probably feeding the business of valentines but then im sure we do that daily in other ways in the retail sector.

I think you need to do some research on St Valentine: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Saint_Valentine. Valentine's Day was, it seems, created only as an attempt to supersede the pagan holiday of Lupercalia.

And I don't think that "we can show our love all year round not just for one day" is a cop out either. I actually find that comment quite offensive. I DO show my love for my OH throughout the year. In fact, I try to do it every day, as does he. And I refuse to be told, mostly by card companies, that I should only do this on the day they dictate and in the way they want me to (ie, buying a load of carp that will end up in the bin a couple weeks later).

As for Mother's and Father's Day. I do celebrate those days, but only because I think that, without them, it is sooo easy for Mum's and Dad's to be taken for granted. And, for me personally, I don't get to see them very often anymore and so it's my way of saying 'Hi Mum/Dad. I love and miss you lots and appreciate all the sacrafices you've made for me over the years'. I do also try to do this throughout the year but the distance makes it harder. But I still don't buy any of the tat on sale in the shops. I tend to buy them each something that I know they will a) like and b) use.

Lunar_Eclipse

red_devil wrote: »

Curious? Those who think that v day is a waste of time and only for card shops to make more money etc ( comments on thread) do you feel the same about mothers and fathers day?

If you dont want to bother with v day then do you bother with other days and if so why are they different?

Could you not apply the same to those days?

In other words we can show mum we love her all year round not just on mothers day?

We've never celebrated Valentine's Day in our house. Interestingly my parents never did either. It doesn't have anything to do with shops making money; I simply find it incredibly tacky if I'm honest. The colour red doesn't help. I bollocked DH the year he sent me a dozen roses (10 years ago maybe?) that cost about £60.What was the point?

We do however acknowledge Mother's and Father's Day. Shop bought cards are a bit of a no-no in our house, but handmade cards, breakfast in bed and a small thoughtful gift or gesture is highly appreciated. But more for the children to us than us to our parents; we're adults now and frankly my parents don't do much for us in the way they do when you live with them and saying 'thanks for still being alive' seems a bit silly.

But it is also about appreciating the small things every day.:)

Oldernotwiser

red_devil wrote: »

not according to the shops they say for my wife/husband on valentines day. I think its become a national love day for all.

I have heard of parents sending their kids cards too.

But that's a comparatively recent phenomenon. When I was a teenager you only ever sent them anonymously to someone you fancied; that's why so many cards say " Be My Valentine".

margaretclare

Pee wrote: »

I do like valentine's day and do always get my boyfriend a card. Silly tat I do not buy him.

With regard to Mother's day, Mothering Sunday is actually a proper tradition to do with the Church of England. Father's day is just made up by the people who sell cards. I do always bother with mother's day, because my mum does care very much about cards. I have sometimes bothered with father's day, sometimes not. (It's very soon after my Dad's birthday, so I don't feel the need to bother, my dad doesn't mind but my mum gets so upset that in future i will always make the effort.)

I do shop around for cards, this year my boyfriend is having one from a charity shop, but it has a picture of Venice and is just the right card for the occasion.

Mothering Sunday is the fourth Sunday in Lent, which makes it a different date to the imported American 'Mother's Day'. This year, Mothering Sunday will occur on the 14th March. It's not only the Church of England, it's all the Christian churches.

It is just possible, by taking trouble to look for them, to get a Mothering Sunday card.