question to those who dont bother with Valentines day

jamespir

you should show affection and love to your partner all year round not just one day

red_devil

jamespir wrote: »

you should show affection and love to your partner all year round not just one day

whose to say those who do on v day dont do it on other days!

red_devil

Lotus-eater wrote: »

There are chasity belts for sale, doesn't mean I want to buy one!

i was responding to the bit which said its for teenagers.

ameliarate

Person_one wrote: »

I get my parents a card for mother and father's days for their sake because I know that they will appreciate it. My OH feels the same way I do about Valentine's day so it would be a complete waste of time and money to swap meaningless cards and gifts! If it mattered to him I'd get him a card.

I agree with this. OH and I have discussed it and decided but unless parents say to us not to bother we feel we should make at least a token effort. I don't get dad a card because he thinks they are a waste of money but I do get him a small token gift.

red_devil

i dont get my dad one it was getting abit silly all these cards through the post have to send as dont live near. I dont get one for daughters day.:D I asked dad if he would mind if i didnt bother and he said no. For some reason i have still sent to mum again in the post.

I am not sure why i send one to her but not dad, but thats the way it is. I would really like to stop it in a way but guess she may be hurt and who knows there may be one year where you cant send anymore due to death.:(

I thought about broaching it this year but i will probably just send it.

Puzzledbubbles

Hmmm, so i used to insist that Vday was a waste of time and effort, that people should know i love them from the way we behave on a daily basis.

Mothers day and fathers day are token gifts and cards out of respect anyways

but now, in my new reltationship i have relished buying presents (both on sale and mega bargains that i might have bought as just normal presents anyway) and creating my moonpig card etc.

We have planned to stay in and have meal together but as far as OH is aware i havent got him anything. I want it to be a surprise and know how much he cares for me without presents, i just want the pleasure of giving.

rambling now so shutting up - maybe ive been zapped by the love bug - or maybe ive been denying myself all these years ....

Person_one

Another reason I don't 'do' valentine's day is that it feels really forced and artificial to me. Maybe its nice in a new relationship but if you've been together a while then there's no reason why you'll have the most romantic special day of the year just because its some arbritrary date. It can feel a bit flat if you invest too much in it.

liley9

Oh and i dont do valentines day either i think its a commercial con, but i remember one year i had just had dd and i had a touch of the baby blues and i remember getting very upset because he had not got me a card even though he never has any other year. Mother and fathers day i do buy a token gift but that is only because i know they like it

fayhare

Me and OH don't do valentines either and we are both dead romantic, but definately not in the traditional sense. I have no desire for a hideous tacky card, cut flowers etc. Romantic for me is him finding me a copy of a book I have wanted for ages in a bin or reading me a story to fall asleep to. We do these kind of things regularly and declare our undying love ;-) several times per day.

I don't have children but if I did I wouldn't bother with Mothers/Fathers day...I do send my parents a card as they would be very upset if I didn't and I would rather make them happy.

System

I don't see any reason to make a big deal out of it. Besides met my bf on the 16th so we celebrate that instead (and its pancake day this year )