Depressed boyfriend

paddy's_mum

I feel sorry for you that you have such awful parents.

I mean, what sort of people would bear and raise a child, provide her with all that they possibly could, doing everthing in their power to keep her safe and with every chance for a happy life?


Unless of course it's you that is so wrapped up in a romantic dream that you can't or won't see the pitfalls lying in wait for you. Perhaps you should be examining your own determination to resist all wisdom, to the point where you have consciously and deliberately excluded the two people on this earth who you can guarantee have only your best interests at heart.

As an intelligent young woman, why are you so afraid of them?

littlerat

I'm a bit of a newcomer to depression and anxiety, but from what (admittedly quite little) you've posted, it seems like he can manage to socialise well, and do everything else he WANTS to - most people with severe depression struggle to do anything. As for social anxiety, that definitely doesn't assist you in having lots of friends.


But even if he is severely depressed, too much softness won't be helping. There has to be a balance between giving yourself enough time and space to get better and cope, and trying to start putting your life back together and actually doing things.

However, whichever way it is, CBT may well help to give him the tools he needs to start doing something. Depending what the issue is it may have to be slow, such as volunteering for a while, then only a part time job, but sitting around forever won't cure it. The only way to fight/manage/cure depression is to actually try, it doesn't magically self-fix.


Personally I'd not get into a relationship when I'm as I am as frankly it'd be unfair on anybody, however if you're already in 1 it's a different matter I guess.