Feeling broody,is 37 too old to do it all again?

Pee

At 35 and wishing to have children in the future, asap, I don't think you are too old. I don't think that money will be an issue if you are managing at the moment - you'll have a much better idea of what children cost - so if it feels right, go for it!

WASHER

My sister in law is currently 7 months pregnant, she's 45, and has a 17 year old son (adopted), twin girls of 13 years, and a 2 year old girl.

She was initally concerned about her age but she says their are numerous women in her anti natal group over 40.

You are certainly not too old, I would personally wait 3 months and see if you still feel broody. I felt broody when my children went to school, but I waited 3 months and the feeling had gone, life seem to move on, i had a bit of freedom and enjoyed having a wee bit of me time.

Everyone is different though, wait is my advice.

WASHER.X.

rainbowbrite_2

swiss69 wrote: »

My view on this is it all depends on why you want another baby.

Is it down to the fact that your youngest is no longer as needy as they were and you feel like something is missing? Is the body clock telling you that there might only be a few years left to try?

Definately the body clock thing,I know I dont have much time left to have children so I feel a sense or ungency,now or never.
Also theres the realisation as I get older that status and money are no longer important to me,what is important to me is relationships with people and ultimately family,leaving behind well rounded socially responsible children is the most important,or one of the most important, things I can do with my life.That is what I have grown to believe.

What happens with the proposed room sharing if they are boy/girl? This cant go on forever and nowadays there is no guarantee that the eldest will be ready to leave home when he is 18/21.

Yes,awkward,but we would manage,we have lots of space just needs re-worked.

If money is tight now, how tight will it be if another baby comes along? Can you realistically afford it?

No big purchases to be made as I still have all the baby stuff from my last one.Month to month the most expensive thing would be nappies for the first year or so but we would manage.An extra savings plan for uni funds or business start up later for the child we can do to.

You say your husband is happy either way. That is a typical man response. I would push him and see what he really wants. Are you the decision maker in the family or him? If its you then he may just be going along with it as he probably does with most decisions. If its him then probe further to get the real view.

I find that usually he just shrugs if he has no objection.If something is not what he wants he will say something but you are right,this is too important to feel like I am making the decision alone so I will push him for more words,I am married to monosyllabic man:o

If you both choose to do it then great and good luck to you.

Thanks.I will get him to talk more about it.

BitterAndTwisted

I think you're absolutely right to want a more positive response from your OH before you consider having another child but if you do you are NOT too old to have another child at only 37! I have pals who had their first child when they were older than that. What you may lack in youthful energy you may make up for with patience and experience. Your older child is becoming more independent and may even have flown the nest by the time number three is on the scene and child two might become Mum's valuable little helper. Time is running out but you probably have at least another ten years before nature makes the decision for you so there's no particular rush, really.

Sunshine12

I dont think you are too old. Im 37 too. Me and OH are only now trying for #1.

Julie67

This post really struck a chord with me as I went through this dilemma last year. We had our children young, I was 19 when I had DD and she is now 23, then along came DS aged 22 and another DS who is 21 this year. When the youngest was 7 we had a huge surprise when I found out I was expecting our youngest who is now 13 and an absolute angel but it was very difficult starting again and he really has always been like an only child although the others love him to bits.
Anyway a coule of years ago around my 40th Birthday I got really broody. My DH of 25 years was definitely against having anymore. Although he is a fab dad and loves kids he felt we had enough. Well I ummed and ahhed and I stilll felt broody and then in the October DD told us she was pregnant and our Beautiful DGS was born in May last year. He is now 9mnths and a real little bundle of energy. I look after him one day a week while his mum is at work and believe me when I say it is really hard work and although I love him to bits I am always really pleased to hand him back:D
I think you should do what you think is right and I think you both have to really want this. For us not having another baby later on was definitely the right decision. Good Luck

creased-leach

Dismiss any worries about the age difference. We had three daughters close together, and one five years later.

#1 was born in 1990
#2 1993
#3 1994
#4 1999

When there's a new baby, older kids tend to idolise it for a while, then it becomes troublesome. Our closer in age kids have always bickered and squabbled like no-ones business...but the oldest was like a mini-mum to the youngest from the start. They adore eachother.

One of my prevailing memories is that at secondary school, there was always one of my peers moaning about their younger sibling- and there'd almost inevitably be a couple of years difference between them.

I'm 36, eldest is in second year at uni, youngest is starting secondary in Sept. I've been getting terribly broody (thankfully I've had the op!) but get bought down to earth with a bump when I think of all the freedom we now have. Roll on grandkids, best of both worlds.

Curious_George_2

There is 7 years between my 2 and they get on great (at the moment)
we are considering another but im just not sure if i can do it (pregnancy hates me)

one of my friends seems to like having big gaps! her DDs are 17, 10 and 1
she must like getting her life back for a while then starting again, but it works for them,
i dont think you can judge anything by age gaps... my brother and sister have 2 years between them and they fought like cat and dog until they lived apart,
i was born 8 years after my sister (so 8 and 10 year gap between me and them) and we all hated each other too... right up until the point we all lived in separate houses!
so... close gap or big gap, there is no way of knowing if your kids will get along!

37 is only too old if YOU think it is

snowmaid

I think I would personally gouge out my eyeballs if I had to fall preggers now!! :eek::eek: (I'm 43! )

I could never go back to being pregnant and having a little baby in the house again. OH and I were talking about it and he has also said that there are definitely no more babies!

My children are 23, 21 and 11. My grandchild is 2 and while I absolutely adore having him around, it is lovely to give him back to his mother! :rotfl:

He keeps reminding me of what I have forgotten about having children! I think we do forget what it is like (for real!). It must be nature's way of ensuring the continuity of the species! :cool:

Any over 40 want to borrow my grandchild for a few hours to decide whether you want another baby at your age??:D:A

pigpen

I hope not