How do you say No to things you really need

euronorris

Just wondering if the Job Centre can offer any assistance with getting your wife back into work? Don't they have a list of companies who are more than willing to employ people with disabilities/mental health issues? Worth checking.

The kids can babysit, dog walk, paper round, gardening, cleaning for neighbours etc (especially elderly residents - they usually welcome the help for a few quid here and there as they also like the company).

Norfolk_Jim

Mrs Jim has just informed me that sons mattress needs to be replaced. Sure enough just looked at it and you can feel all the springs sticking through it and for sure I wouldnt want to try sleeping on it. We are going up to the charity furniture shop up the road to see if they have any (hope no bed bugs) but no idea how to pay for one
This is what its like every day, it just never ends.
He can sleep in my bed for now.

Norfolk_Jim

euronorris wrote: »

Just wondering if the Job Centre can offer any assistance with getting your wife back into work? Don't they have a list of companies who are more than willing to employ people with disabilities/mental health issues? Worth checking.

The kids can babysit, dog walk, paper round, gardening, cleaning for neighbours etc (especially elderly residents - they usually welcome the help for a few quid here and there as they also like the company).

She went to the job centre some weeks ago and asked for help to find work and maybe help writing a CV. Apparently they were useless. Could be true, could be excuse, hard to tell.

redsquirrel80

I really feel for you Jim!

Could you/ Mrs Jim make use of any of the ideas on the 'Up Your Income' board on here? There's quite a few things on there that can be done from home - surveys, matched betting, writing reviews etc, all little bits but they add up and help a little.

zcrat41

Mr Jim,
DDA is The Disibility and Discrimination act. To be honest I don't know a huge amount about it but might be worth looking up. Its quite hard to find retail jobs in rural areas as people stick to them once they have them; it'll get a lot easier in a bigger town. Most retailers have a staff turnover of 40% so it doesn't take long for new vacancies to pop up.

Kids jobs - depends on how old they are. Best bet is go and see your local farms; for the ones near here (I live on a farm in East Anglia) I know of kids of 12 and above that do the following....wash cars, wash tractors, cut the grass, weed beds, clean farm offices/buildings, clean farmhouse windows, sweep yards etc. For slightly older kids if their are livestock farms near you have a word; many farmers would be dead chuffed to have a resoponsible 16 yr old (under supervision) collecting eggs, milking or mucking out every saturday/sunday morning.

Good luck with the matress thing.

euronorris

Try looking on freecycle for a new (sort of) mattress. Or, I think the local councils usually run a service offering furniture to families who are struggling financially. My parents donated some stuff to them after my Grandma passed away last year and they've done it in the past also when replacing furniture (if it was still in good enough condition).

Lurleene

Norfolk_Jim wrote: »

Mrs Jim has just informed me that sons mattress needs to be replaced. Sure enough just looked at it and you can feel all the springs sticking through it and for sure I wouldnt want to try sleeping on it. We are going up to the charity furniture shop up the road to see if they have any (hope no bed bugs) but no idea how to pay for one
This is what its like every day, it just never ends.
He can sleep in my bed for now.

Just had the same problem with my bed - I put an old duvet between the mattress and the sheet and it is now very comfy. It certainly has bought the mattress a little more time!

Bagpuss741

Have you tried the blue cross for help with your dog? http://www.bluecross.org.uk/web/site/AboutUs/About_Us.asp

joedenise

Lastly...... "I keep telling them that they would act different if THEY had to pay the bill"

....make them! My dad made me pay our phone bill once with my pocket money in my teenage years. He wouldn't let me use the phone again till I'd paid my debt. Days of frantic chores ensued![END QUOTE]

I used to do this with my kids. As soon as the bill came in I would use 2 different colour highlighters to mark the kids calls and they had to pay their own bills and wouldn't be allowed to use the phone until they'd given me the money. It certainly made them think more about using the phone and they generally got their mates to call them so they didn't end up having to pay for the call! LOL!

Denise

beanielou

There should be a disability employment adviser at job centre to offer help & assistance.
Keep plodding & keep posting