Reformed shopaholic? please can you give me the benefit of your advice

Anglea

Hi girls

FR, you're of the same era to me, but do you really think it's such a good thing all this modern technology for relationships because instead of just making an arrangement for a date like in the pre-mobile days, you're now on tenderhooks waiting for a response to a text, and trying to second guess the reasons why their phone is switched off, or why there isn't an email from them when they've been online all day.

I have to admit, if I had a b/f now, I would probably do it the old fashioned way, home phone only.

If they genuinely wanted to see me or speak to me they would have to make an effort.

How long before you get back to Turkey?

NGlady2

In contrast to Anglea - I had a mobile phone aged 11, internet around that point too and unlimited internet/broadband came when I was about 13 - followed by Unlimited text msging when I was about 17, so i've really never had the 'make arrangements and stick to it' thing - I was speaking to my friend the other day, hes 37, I was having to rearrange something as I was running late, and I was asking him how they coped back in 'the day' (I make old comments, he makes young comments lol) and he brought up a couple of points: - When he started dating, 20yr ago, he had to be more organised, more aware of what he can do and what he cant do, and more direct, whereas nowadays, if im running late - I text - if I cant do something - i text or facebook. So really todays era really isnt as good as it was, and maybe, its one of the reasons romance isnt what it was. I think my mum and dad are about 15ish years older than you to Anglea and Frog, and when they started dating, they would make an arrangement for next date, on the date, and that would be the next time they would speak to each other.

Frogletina

Anglea wrote: »

FR, you're of the same era to me, but do you really think it's such a good thing all this modern technology for relationships because instead of just making an arrangement for a date like in the pre-mobile days, you're now on tenderhooks waiting for a response to a text, and trying to second guess the reasons why their phone is switched off, or why there isn't an email from them when they've been online all day.

I have to admit, if I had a b/f now, I would probably do it the old fashioned way, home phone only.

If they genuinely wanted to see me or speak to me they would have to make an effort.

How long before you get back to Turkey?

Hi Anglea

I think modern technology is probably the death of romance. Looking back at two instances when I was dating as a teenager

I once had a date and my mum would not let me out that night. We had no contact details - but I turned up at the same time the following night, and he did the same. And if my memory serves me right - it was just a meeting on the corner of a street. A text to say same time tomorrow would have resolved the problem but at least we met - short lived, maybe 6 weeks of dating, but was an ok experience.

There was another guy - I dated him for several months, my first love, and we split up (long story - I ended it, but regretted it) We met again and arranged to meet up that weekend but he didn't show. Years later we met again, and he said that he had turned up - but his recollection of the meeting place and time were half an hour apart, said he had turned up - and I believed him. When my first marriage had broken up and a further relationship broken up I wrote to his parents to pass a letter onto him - which they didn't.

A few years later he met my mum on a bus and she told him where I was living and he got off the bus and came over to see me, he told me that his parents kept the letter from him for ages

But I was married by then once more and though he said he was still in love with me, I said it was impossible for us to be together, I'd been married for just a few months, 3 children etc.

What a difference a mobile phone would have made all those years ago. We only met once more, and he still felt the same way. But that was so long ago

Looking forward to a date is so much fun, but constant or non constant contact on mobiles or emails or seeing them on line kills the romance for sure. Imagine if I just had arranged to meet Beau when I went back, it would have stopped all of this nonsence

I go back to Turkey on 7th July - still no contact from Beau, so it really is good that I did not take him up on the offer of picking me up from the airport

Frogletina

Anglea

Hi all

NGlady, I was expecting you to disagree with me.

The biggest problem I've got with relationships these days is the ease that people can cheat and get away with it. Shy, ugly whatever, they do it because all the introductory meetings are online whereas before you had to see them in person.

Most of my friends whose marriages have broken up, had hubbies that had affairs with women off the internet. Some of the stories are beyond belief - eg taking their kids on holiday abroad to meet up with other woman.

Years ago to talk to your bit on the side, you would have needed a good supply of coins for the public call box and hope that it wasn't vandalised to pull off something like that successfully.

I have to admit, I couldn't imagine trusting anyone these days

Anglea

Hi all

FR, you two stories reminded me of that segment on the radio was it Stever Wright? Where they played romantic music and related listeners experiences. Do you know the one I mean?

I don't know if you remember me saying on there that I had a few dangerous b/f's? One of them I hated on first sight, we met on location (film) at the other side of the country to where I lived and he lived in London, again nowhere near me.

Months later we had a reunion event from the film and I met him again and got on well, and we shared a taxi although he was staying in a different town from me. We arranged a date weeks ahead and he said he'd call me and took my number, he didn't have one. I didn't hear from him as expected. However, he turned up on my doorstep on the right day.

He told me that he'd lost my number but got the taxi driver to drive up and down each road to see if he remembered the house. I'm amazed he found it because when we shared the taxi it was dark.

I often wonder if it was a good thing that he turned up because every meeting was full of drama and adventure, not always a good sort.

emweaver

coke zero has no caffine its not diet coke for men lol

CompletelyLost

emweaver wrote: »

coke zero has no caffine its not diet coke for men lol

coke zero is NOT caffeine free, and it was made to appeal to men so NG is right

Anglea

I hope it's not going to be 'handbags at dawn' over the coke zero ladies

CompletelyLost

Haha Anglea... no, just saying as I always thought Coke Zero was caffeine-free, but it's not... I think it just uses a different sweetener to ordinary Diet coke.

I was making a post yesterday and then AVG popped up to say I had a virus and my PC died! Grrr indeed.

Thanks for the reassurance about the driving lessons ziggles & Anglea.
Ang: I remember you saying that you never did pass your test. I'm sure I'd be the same if I continuously failed my test... though I'd hate to be a quitter. I haven't even told my family that I'm taking lessons again so it takes the pressure off me! Hah I'd quite like to see their faces if one day I drove into the street in my own car (test passed of course) and they didn't even know I'd been taking lessons.

Err yeah, what else... I went on a couple of shopping trips (Tues and yesterday). On Tues I bought a few things in H&M and the charity shop, all of which I love - so first time in forever that I won't be returning anything! And yesterday all I spent was £1 on a necklace.

NG, wow 45% - that's a mega saving! I'm sure I'd have been able to find something that I "really needed" if I'd have known... perhaps it's a good thing that I didn't, actually.

My evening is being consumed by ebay - packaging things up, ready for the post office tomorrow. I hope that my parents take pity and give me a lift, as otherwise I'm going to need to do 3x trips into town. Plus side: decluttering feels good, and the extra money will help a lot. FE: I hope your ebaying has been as successful

NGlady2

Im so sick of my room!! I always get like this when its HOT weather outside. Because its such a clutzy mess it feels really hot in here, and its too hot to tidy it

I am also REALLY fed up of my wardrobes. I've got absoloutly tons of stuff - literally, if you weighed it on a industrial strength weigher-thingy Im sure itd be a ton and im so fed up of - my OH brought me a gorgeous dress for a 'date' next saturday, I kept it in the plastic it came in from Dorothy perkins, and put it in my wardrobe - its CREASED to high heaven all ready and its been in there 2 days.

So - my mission. Clear up all visable surfaces first. Thats my priority. When we first moved into this house - My wardrobes was so organised. 'going out' 'day wear' 'work wear' now its... BLAH must try and regain this type of organisation.

SO -

1. Visable mess.
2. Wardrobe 1
3. Wardrobe 2
4. Wardrobe 3
5. Bags
6. Shoes

Decide:

1. Are they one of my most flattering purchases - if not, Ebay, throw, save for winter - I wish I had a younger sister to do hand-me-downs to, close cousin to do the same or something.
2. Are they going to be worn - again point 1 if not.

Im going to do my personal shopper experience in 2 weeks and I dont want to be just buying stuff to put into my vortez of the unknown

Sorry for another BLAH girlies x