New year, New me (finally)

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Oh, and my little pressed glass trinket arrived today, its pretty and a bargain at 2.99 (well £5.95 including postage)

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On another positive. No spend days are going well, number two passed today, and I'm going for number 3 tomorrow. I took my switch card out of my bag, so I wouldn't be tempted. Now I've put it somewhere so secret, even I can't remember where that place was.:o

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The peace has been disturbed. OH is back from the allotment and managed to p me off within 5 minutes of getting in the door. Cooking battles are the worst because he can cook, I can cook. It is my week this week, which involves moderately healthy stuff. I'm not impressed with the white "fish?" pieces, looks like they glued together a load of different fish and sawed it into blocks (yes it was perfectly square and flat all round).

He said whoa, whoa, whoa with the olive oil as I was doing the wedges, that olive oil is very expensive (i just check tesco, because I'm perdantic like that £1.99 for 500ml, pretty standard I thought)

There is was happily motoring along in my own world making him a nice dinner, and he comes in with his 'know it all' attitude and craps all over it. I love having the allotment, at least I can send him up there once in a while and get 5 minutes peace. Don't you love that quiet you time?

Grrr, ruddy men!

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Ok. All is forgiven. He brought back nettles from the allotment and is currently boiling them up to make nettle beer. Mmmmm, beer :0)

Shoe_Gal

I live in my overdraft too - but slowly and steadily I am paying off my debts - and so are you :A

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Day two

Today was a real tester and I have to say that I am proud that I didn't come home with alcohol because of it. I did just polish off two chocolate bars in quick succession, and I did buy lunch today when I shouldn't have. £4 spent in total

I did get a free loaf of bread with a newspaper though, and that can be used for breakfasts next week.

Three things happened at work today. I nearly burst a vein I was so angry.:mad:

The serial offender was on top form today. He emailed about an appointment that had been made in his diary and basically asked who the hell this person was. I took advice given to me about keeping up relations and called him back rather than emailing as it was more personal. I explained that when this person called, they asked for an appointment, and basically made out that they knew him really well and it was one of many meetings that had taken place. Now I'm under the impression here that not being his PA it is not up to me to question that person as to why they want an appointment, as support I am merely to find a sensible free time in the diary and allocate the appointment to it.

I explained that I hadn't thought to question the guy as he had pretty much explained that Diary guy would know all about it, but had left his number 'just incase'.

He basically almost said 'I'll have to call the guy then to find out what he wants as you clearly weren't able to do your job and find this information out'

What an !!!!!

The second unbelievable thing was that my manager clearly and blatantly passed of an example of good practise that I had mentioned to them both verbally and as part of my ADR , as that of their own, and made it look as though they had come up with this novel idea to help the team, to help alleviate stress in our busy period. Damned cheek. In a very MSE style I'm considering filing expenses for management consultant fees, that's got to be good for £300 right?

Third one was this same person had asked for another member of staff to return something to the office. They then reminded me to remind them to return it today. I did this and then the person who had taken the item, emailed to ask if they could keep it until the end of the month. To which the person who had asked me to chase said 'yes, no problem' copying me in.

How much of an armhole did that make me look?


Naffed off today, I'm finishing off the ILM and then getting on with applying for jobs. Have seen three already

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I've learned something about myself tonight, in the last hour in fact whilst doing my ILM assignment.

When I've had a tough day I recognise that I will want to grab for one or all three of the below things. These are what I think are my anchors, but really what I need instead is a focus.

• Chocolate-because its all creamy and tastes nice
• alcohol-because it makes me chill out and not give a damn
• Clothes-because by putting on a new set of clothes I can physically transform myself on the outside into the confident, career savvy person I long to be.

Tonight I was unhappy so I ate chocolate, and promptly started to feel guilty because I want to lose weight.

I wanted alcohol because of the rubbish day, just to blot it out.

I didn't crave clothes so much because I am getting more confident.

After five minutes of starting on my assignment I forgot about all these things, so by the end of this week I make a promise to myself

To apply for at least three new jobs, as being unhappy in this one causes me to want all of the above, so destroying my confidence (not losing the weight), and my plan to be debt free.

I will take advantage of the free listing on ebay this weekend and put on everything that I want to sell.

I will learn to chill out more naturally, and not get wound up by work. If they don't give a carp, then I focus on myself and get the hell out of there.

My life promises to myself

• I promise that I will be debt free
• I promise myself a trip to the Grand Canyon
• I promise myself to do that climb of Mnt Kilamanjaro for charity
• I promise to take myself on a volunteer holiday to help those in need
• I promise myself to never give up on my essential values
• I promise myself to go back to Paris
• I promise myself to lose the weight and to start feeling confident
• I promise not to undersell myself
• I promise myself to live life to the max
• I promise myself some dangly diamond earrings, a cocktail dress and a trip to the opera (I dreamed of the first two at least when I was a little girl)
• I promise to keep smiling
• I promise to never let them grind me down

mrs_robinson_3

Hi Thrifty. That's a great list! Your job does seem to be a constant source of unwelcome stress/pressure - so moving on from there, along with your DFW ways, should be your top priority. Am lucky in that chocolate doesn't bother me, and clothes as you know I love but have a very distinct style, almost a uniform, and can just keep adding to it at the margins (*ignoring the £150 I spent last month, as am over that and some of it was due to Paris, so no more now*) ...but alcohol is my prob too. Not as in I have a problem, just that a single glass of white wine seems to be my signal to myself to relax. 9pm is my witching hour...but tonight I must be strong!

Mrs R

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Okay guys, today is going to be a better day -partly because i have training for half of it . Last session boooooo!

Ok, don't need to get mad with this person today, just tell him no, don't apologise and pity him because he's a fool and now doesn't have me on side, who was actually keeping him out of the carp most of the time. Good luck fella, you're on your own now.

Oooh what a rubbish day it looks outside. Better wear something super extra bright to compensate.



Have a good one

xx

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Day three was shirte,

Found an awesome job though, which would give me the next rung up in experience, and pays £5-8k more a year than my current one. Here I come. Cannot believe that guy yet again left my number for someone to call him back on, without so much as a 'do you mind taking this message for me'

This is not the 80's, this is not Wall Street, and I am not your secretary, so swivel you son!

Aaahhhh that's better. Wrote it down in my ADR too.

ILM looks good apparently, so that's cool. Have gained three nice new friends from the training. So all good. I spent today, but I bought Glamour as it had SJP on, and she is fab, and Kristin Davis who looks so classic is in red magazine, so I might buy that too.

xx