Weekly Flylady Thread 1st February 2010

Dustykitten

Thanks Serena - his birthday was Thursday, just his party today. He is fine now thanks. Unfortunately DS2 has come down with it. He is very tearful and always get's things the worst so I'm hoping he is going to be ok.

Flyladies of Wisdom I need your advice

DS1 (15) has become friendly with a boy who he was at school with who is 18 months older (17). The boy is very nice and polite. DS has started going places with him like to play squash and snooker and the other boy is a ref and has started mentoring DS1 with his reffing. His friend can drive. I have allowed DS to go in his car with him to the above places. Today one of my closest friends who lives 2 doors down rang to say that this morning the boy nearly hit her in her car in the next street when she was driving. She said he was driving like a looney and my DS was in the car. Obviously I trust everything she has said. I have asked DS in the past and he has said this lad is an excellent driver but he is 15! Neither of them said anything when they came in to the house but DS knows my friend saw him.

I need to approach this with DS later but he is very hormonal at the moment and I am already 'the worse mother in the world who is ruining his life'. I don't want him in the car anymore but need a way to sort this out.

Thanks

mummyyof5

Well done Valli,a very nice elderly neighbour of mine...she is 82 and still works... had her purse stolen in town just before Xmas and lost £80...she was so upset,hope it was the same people as she said she was jostled by a couple of ladies.

Took kids to College open day this morning and Ds1 had a look around his course and is thrilled at what they will be doing....he has everything crossed now...

Called into town for some plastic envelopes to post ebay sales:j:jI have sold 5 bundles so far:j:j

Hocks soaking overnight will boil these tomorrow and use the meat for Sunday dinner...the leftovers will be made into Ham turkey and leek pie for monday as i have some turkey drumsticks to roast too...yumyum.

Glad OH has seen sense Grateful...


2 huge bags decluttered to charity shop...had to cart them round college but at least they are gone now:A

Valli

OMG Dusty that's so hard...he'd hardly going to tell you the lad is NOT an excellent driver, is he?

just near me there is a memorial garden to the kids who burned alive in the car they were driving (girls of 17) when it came off the road and ploughed into the edge of an underpass. The younger brother of one of the girls was also killed. The girl driving was supposed to be a good driver and they were not thought to have been drunk/on drugs either...

Me I would say no. This is why.

Valli

mummyyof5 wrote: »

Well done Valli,a very nice elderly neighbour of mine...she is 82 and still works... had her purse stolen in town just before Xmas and lost £80...she was so upset,hope it was the same people as she said she was jostled by a couple of ladies.

Interestingly the other ladies who have reported their purses snatched were jostled. The ladies who did this were short (less than 5ft) dark haired, not English (some sort of European accent) and quite smartly dressed. One of them was wearing a poncho thing which was being used as a cover. I do hope these ladies were them IYSWIM.

jinky67

Dusty I would just say " you were seen in the car with him driving in an unsafe manner and until I believe he has changed his driving style, then you are not going in it again"

valli wtg, on alerting everyone, it just goes to show you, how brazen some people can be, and alo how easy it is for this to happen:eek:

Pooh, I would be complaining without a doubt, that is completely ridiculous!

gratefulforhelp_2

dusty thats hard, I would say "I'm doing this for your own good, you are statistically more likely to die in a mate's car than anywhere else, and I don't want to outlive my own son. I don't expect you to be happy about it, but I'm your parent not your friend. You will survive being peed off with me, but you may not survive travelling in this car." or wtte, but I don't have a 15 yr old although I do have 17 yrs experience of teaching them. Hugs, love its hard.

Penelope_Penguin

Another one of my little squirelled away facts, the government has been considering for some time not allowing new teen drivers to carry young passengers for some time after passing their test.

DD is nearly 17yo and several of her friends are having driving lessons. I'm terrified of her going in a car with any of them, and they're all lovely and sensible.

I'm very laid back in my parenting, usually, but young drivers scare me.

frankerooney

Done a bit of flying here and there and achieved a fair bit .

A fourth star please Toots!

Monday ~ Kitchen, Utility and Dining areas
Done!

Tuesday ~ Living room/family room or other reception room!
Done!

Wednesday ~ Master bedroom
Done!

Thursday ~ Bathroom, WC and Study
Done!

Friday ~ Everything else!
Level One
Declutter floors in childrens rooms, hall, stairs and landing
Level Two
Sort through a box of toys/junk
Organise a chest of drawers/wardrobe
Level Three
Tidy up coats, bags and shoes.. throw away broken umbrellas!
Wash some grubby curtains
Wipe paintwork in a room you've not done this in for some time

hex2

Huge hugs for you Dusty, it isn't easy is it? What we have found via MSMchat and facebook etc is that is easier for SS1 to blame us than to make a decision himself - 'my evil witch of a step mother' (me !!!!!! - the queen of reasonablesness!) would force his dad to throw him out if he was caught doing X - whereas the reality is I would be the one convincing his Dad to be reasonable. I should go with the ban and being hated.

Valli - huge hugs.

Sobering coffees, and a spot of wahsing to do .

ETA - in the interest of reasonableness that SS1 at 17 is a better driver than I am at 36. and I did 45k in my first year after passing I am still rubbish ten years on.

nuttyrockeress

:hello:Evening all

Just took ages to read through the thread from last night!!

Vali – I agree with all the others re the sympathy card. When I lost my dad a few years ago, the cards that you remember are the ones where people are able to help with the memories x

Grateful – Try and try to get DH to seek advice. Something doesn’t seem right if it has happened before, hugs for you and hopefully he will see some sense!

Feeling exhausted today, a mixture of the back pain, rib pain and my cold has made an unwelcome return…..

Today have taken my mum shopping, come back home and WM on x 3 times, DW x 1 and TD x 3.

Just made some Twinks as DH has taken DSS back to his mum’s as he is having a joint b-day party at his girlfriends with her sister so we have a rare Saturday night together alone – bliss! Chinese ordered soon yummy!

Managed to get up the ladder and climb on the worktop to clean the kitchen window – ssshhhh don’t tell DH, I had been banned from climbing in case I sustained further injury! :rotfl: Also pleased with the shiney fridge - forgotten how clean it can look :T

Hugs to all who are in need x

MONDAY all done, can I get a star please Toots

Tuesday ~ Living room/family room or other reception room!
Level One
Declutter and vacuum the floors!
Clean out the fire place.. vacuum dust and fluff and soot.. if you burn wood your chimneys may need sweeping!
Level Two
Vacuum under furniture you can safely move!
Dust and deweb.. make sure you do light fittings and bulbs! do picture rails and coving too if you possess it!
Clean the sofas.. vacuum under/between/backs cushions.. turn them over for even wear if possible.
Level Three
Wipe over all the fluffy electricals.. don't electrocute yourself please!!
Wipe and water the plants
Wipe grubby paintwork/

Wednesday ~ Master bedroom
Level One
Declutter the floors and vacuum!
Strip, wash and replace the bedding
Level Two
Clear the floordrobe/shoes/bags etc that are strewn around
Make sure any chairs in the room are visible!
Clear and tidy the top of a wardrobe/chest of drawers
Level Three
Do your pillows need replacing?
Binbag dance
HHI


Thursday ~ Bathroom, WC and Study
Level One
Declutter and vacuum/mop floors in these rooms!
Set pc to declutter cache and defrag while you scrub the fixtures and fitting in the bathroom/wc.
Level Two
Polish screens (microfibre cloth and a dab of white vinegar brings them up a treat) and mirrors and glass shelves.
Shine taps and shower rails and radiators
Remove 10 dead/unused links from your favourites and clear out some of your inbox!
Level Three
Remove all dirty laundry/smelly soft furnishings to the wash basket
Replace bathmats/shower curtains/sponges and toothbrushes that are manky
Declutter and wipe the desk.. do any filing you find on there!

Friday ~ Everything else!
Level One
Declutter floors in childrens rooms, hall, stairs and landing
Vacuum these floors
Level Two
Strip some neglected sticky bedding
Sort through a box of toys/junk
Organise a chest of drawers/wardrobe
Level Three
Tidy up coats, bags and shoes.. throw away broken umbrellas!
Wash some grubby curtains
Wipe paintwork in a room you've not done this in for some time