On The Subject Of 16 Year Olds! Does yours have a curfew?

StrawberryYogurt

Hi all,

From discussing 16 year olds and money in the other thread, I noticed such a wide and varied input which got me thinking about other aspects of being blessed with a 16 year old daughter! lol

What time does your 16 year old have to be in at the weekends? Do they have a curfew? Or are they okay to decide for themselves?

My daughter goes to college part time (2 days) in the week, the rest of the days she does work experience all day and then she works Saturday all day. Her only day off a week is Sunday. She is being very adult about this and is often out of the house at 7am until 7pm and never whinges..lol

But a side effect is that she is asking for more leniency when going out with friends on a Sat night, as she says, she works very hard all week and does not get to see her friends etc...

But I worry... But I also dont want to be a killjoy?!

Does your 16 year old have a curfew?

tattycath

My 16 yr old only tends to go see her BF so at weekends she has to be in by 12ish-she's happy with this. If they are spending the evening at ours he tends to stay a bit late on weekends. In the week she is normally in by 10.30pm

dealwithdebtdot

Mine is in 10pm on school nights and 12midnight weekends.

stef240377

My daughter will be 16 in November. For the time being during the week she has to be in by nightfall in winter and 7pm summer. When she goes to cadets we take her to and from in the car. Weekends unless she sleeps over at her mates which is a few doors down then she is still back by nightfall in winter and 7pm in summer. Should she want to go anywhere for longer periods we have to know her exact whereabouts and whether she is wanting a lift back or will be getting one from the parents of whomever she has gone round too. Once in she is on pc/ipod till bed time so the curfew does not really bother her. We had had a conversation not long ago on whether she thought we were too strict and in her words said no as there have been too many attempted kidnaps in our area and that she likes to go to school refreshed unlike her mates who are all complaining they are tired all the time.

tandraig

this may sound a bit strange - but on sixteenth birthdays curfew was changed to 'if you are going to be out late or staying over then please let me know so that I can lock up when i go to bed' - which it wouldnt have been if my kids hadnt been sane and sensible and usually very good about observing curfew! only you can decide how mature your daughter is and whether a curfew is still appropriate. or whether the more lenient approach is right for her (and you).

Errata

I think if the 16 year old daughter is working four days a week she's entitled to be treated as an adult. Adults shouldn't be subjected to curfews. If they're still living at home there should be a discussion about being responsible, letting someone know where they are and what time they'll be coming home, and no banging the front door and waking the house when they do come in.

tattycath

stef240377 wrote: »

My daughter will be 26 in November. For the time being during the week she has to be in by nightfall in winter and 7pm summer. When she goes to cadets we take her to and from in the car. Weekends unless she sleeps over at her mates which is a few doors down then she is still back by nightfall in winter and 7pm in summer. Should she want to go anywhere for longer periods we have to know her exact whereabouts and whether she is wanting a lift back or will be getting one from the parents of whomever she has gone round too. Once in she is on pc/ipod till bed time so the curfew does not really bother her. We had had a conversation not long ago on whether she thought we were too strict and in her words said no as there have been too many attempted kidnaps in our area and that she likes to go to school refreshed unlike her mates who are all complaining they are tired all the time.

:rotfl::rotfl:

Mme.Hibou

stef240377 wrote: »

My daughter will be 26 in November. For the time being during the week she has to be in by nightfall in winter and 7pm summer.

That's pretty tough for a 25 year old. You must be really strict!

StrawberryYogurt

tandraig wrote: »

this may sound a bit strange - but on sixteenth birthdays curfew was changed to 'if you are going to be out late or staying over then please let me know so that I can lock up when i go to bed' - which it wouldnt have been if my kids hadnt been sane and sensible and usually very good about observing curfew! only you can decide how mature your daughter is and whether a curfew is still appropriate. or whether the more lenient approach is right for her (and you).

Thank you. OH and I are really struggling with this. She IS a mature 16 year old and 17 in 5 months and I do agree with her, she does work "bl00dy" hard..., its just a nagging feeling, maybe scared to let her go?

jackieglasgow

Stef, are you sure your daughter is 26? She doesn't look that old!

StrawberryYogurt

stef240377 wrote: »

My daughter will be 26 in November. For the time being during the week she has to be in by nightfall in winter and 7pm summer. When she goes to cadets we take her to and from in the car. Weekends unless she sleeps over at her mates which is a few doors down then she is still back by nightfall in winter and 7pm in summer. Should she want to go anywhere for longer periods we have to know her exact whereabouts and whether she is wanting a lift back or will be getting one from the parents of whomever she has gone round too. Once in she is on pc/ipod till bed time so the curfew does not really bother her. We had had a conversation not long ago on whether she thought we were too strict and in her words said no as there have been too many attempted kidnaps in our area and that she likes to go to school refreshed unlike her mates who are all complaining they are tired all the time.

I hope at 26 she will be in her own home x