Are we invited or not??

Rosie75

paddy's_mum wrote: »

I know it's a bit of a long shot but does he mean that you're all welcome to pop along to St Mary's but that's as far as his imagination has taken him?

To be fair, it's not that many years ago that neighbours would shuffle into the spare pews at the back of the church, villagers would wait outside to cheer a couple's emergence...

That still goes on in my village. I had lots of the locals come to watch my wedding ceremony (or to watch me arrive at the Church) in December, and thought it was lovely that they wanted to come. I would just go along to the ceremony if I were the OP.

adouglasmhor

I flew from Northern Ireland to Scotland straight out of a millitary hospital on special sick leave to attend my brother's wedding. I think that while I attended a wedding I may have been not quite up to doing my job at the time.

losingpatience

Wow I didn't expect the fact that my OH is off sick at the moment to cause such a big debate! Especially as it wasn't really relevant to my original question

Just an update. Was on facebook last night and his soon to be wife ( who I've never spoke to before ) messaged me saying oh I trust you and OH can make it Sat night?! I said I was somewhat confused as although we'd been invited we hadn't been told any of the details. She told us time, address, room etc so now I don't know what to do! Personally I feel that giving a few days notice isn't enough time, I haven't got anything suitable to wear and haven't bought them a gift! So now I'm in a dilemma about what to do again

pigpen

Well .. at least your original question was answered.. yes you are invited lol..

Gift tokens are always simple (but I'd probably not bother with a gift TBH) and spend said money on a new outfit..

SandC

You don't need a new outfit for a night do and as for a gift - vouchers are ideal in a card.

losingpatience

It's quite a posh place where they're having the reception, and I've put a fair bit of weight on recently so I don't think any of my "going out" clothes will actually fit me now but I will have a rake through the wardrobe tonight, don't want to buy anything unless I have to.

They have requested money to go towards their honeymoon so I'm not really sure what an appropriate amount to give is, bearing in mind I don't want to seem cheap if we don't give enough, but can't afford to give too much either

pigpen

losingpatience wrote: »

It's quite a posh place where they're having the reception, and I've put a fair bit of weight on recently so I don't think any of my "going out" clothes will actually fit me now but I will have a rake through the wardrobe tonight, don't want to buy anything unless I have to.

Go have a big 'try on' session.. you may just find something.. I'm having the same problem for a party on Saturday.. I have a dress but it need taking up at the straps and the armholes making smaller.. I am little lol

The place may be posh BUT are the workmates posh? Chances are most people will just be wearing usual Saturday night clobber.. not dinner suits and evening gowns.

They have requested money to go towards their honeymoon so I'm not really sure what an appropriate amount to give is, bearing in mind I don't want to seem cheap if we don't give enough, but can't afford to give too much either

Well, they just can't have everything they want can they? I'd get them a nice vase or £20 gift voucher in a card.. you aren't a bank they must understand not everyone is well off!

If it was me, they'd be lucky to even get a card let alone a gift!

Apricot

I think if you're only invited in the night you don't have to take a gift. If you do decide to buy or give £20 is more than sufficient for a night guest.

Mme.Hibou

princessleah_ wrote: »

I think if you're only invited in the night you don't have to take a gift. If you do decide to buy or give £20 is more than sufficient for a night guest.

You don't have to take a gift at all, evening guest or all day! We had some guests come to our wedding (had no extra people invited in the evening) who didn't bring us anything because that is perfectly okay! I think £20 is loads (maybe I'm just tight?)

euronorris

floss2 wrote: »

Yes I know, I saw that, but that doesn't have to stop me from posting my personal opinion and experiences. TBH I feel that peachyprice's comments are very blinkered and seemed to imply that if one is off sick one should not leave the house, regardless of what the actual reason for being off sick.

Of course you are entitled to your opinion, but, as peachyprice was already corrected, apologised and now understands better, I don't see the value in commenting on them any further.

I'm not sure what more you would expect from him/her?

Anyway, I see the thread has moved on and the OP has received more details about the event.

OP, do you have any friends who are around the same size as you that you could borrow something from if needs be? Or, you could always try a charity shop. They have some great items sometimes!

As for the gift. Give what you can afford, nothing more. And if you feel more comfortable giving an actual gift, then do that. TBH, I'm sure they will be grateful for anything they receive.