Are we invited or not??

losingpatience

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peachyprice

Surely your OH shouldn't even be comtemplating going if he's off long term sick?

dieselhead

Even if you were to go, do you know where it is or the time etc?

melancholly

i'm very confused - the guy is on holiday and won't be back until after his own wedding? i'm missing something! in that situation, i wouldn't go, but i'd arrange a card from work with lots of signatures and maybe a whip-round with a couple of quid each to put as a voucher in the card. that way you avoid an awkward situation if he wasn't expecting you and still show that you all cared!

choille

I'd email him with a read receipt thing and ask for a formal invite so you know where you stand. Could you do it as a work thing say that people won't come unless they receive a formal invite - so as not to be a nuisance - that way everyone will know where they stand. And it makes it look as it's not just you IYSWIM.

It's usually the women - future bride that deal with invites then they can work out seating & how many are going. It all seems a bit like he's trying to please everyone & failing miserably.

Awkward situation - you have my sympathies.

shellsuit

losingpatience wrote: »

melancholly - He took 2 weeks off work, a week before the wedding so he had time to get the last few things sorted, and then a week after for his honeymoon. So basically we won't see him again until he's back from the wedding IYSWIM.

I sorted out a collection and card at work which we gave him yesterday before he went off, and he basically said "thanks and I'll see you all when I get back" which lead to people mumbling I thought we were invited to one another.

I think the whole issue is he hasn't made anything clear, although he's only 22 and a bit naieve at times lol

That doesn't sound like an invite to me!

Looks like things have changed ~ he probably got carried away and invited everyone from work and his fiancee has gone nuts wondering where all the money is coming from to pay for you all lol

I think it's safe to say that nobody from work is invited, unless they have actually received an invitation.

McKneff

As Shellsuit says, i think i would steer well clear, especially as he has said he'll see you when you get back.
Just forget about it and welcome him back normally.

Wicked_witch

I would say if you don't have a paper invitation, you aren't invited. It can be a lot more complex nowadays of course with email, facebook etc but I think that's the best path to follow here.

Ladyhawk

I know it is old fashioned - but could you send the happy couple a "telegram" to be read out at the reception? Just wishing them all the happiness in the world and sorry you couldn't be there?

Treacly

Surely the only question is whether you WANT to go or not? Frankly, I wouldn't cross the road to attend the nuptials of a naive, vague, socially inept 22-year-old, even if I had been properly invited. Stay home and drink buttered rum punch in front of a log fire.

*Louise*

In this situation, I wouldn't go

You say yourself that the groom has avoided the issue, and has said : Se you when I get back - I don't see that as an invite

No way would I go, it would put him on the spot, as well as messing with the numbers. I would just forget all about it tbh.