Are we invited or not??

katieclampet

shellsuit wrote: »

That doesn't sound like an invite to me!

Looks like things have changed ~ he probably got carried away and invited everyone from work and his fiancee has gone nuts wondering where all the money is coming from to pay for you all lol

I think it's safe to say that nobody from work is invited, unless they have actually received an invitation.

Totally agree, I would send your good wishes (in a card) and give the whole thing a miss. I wonder how he would feel if 50 workmates (and possibly partners turned up!!
:rotfl:)

katiex

Errata

Looks like the guy made it very clear if he invited people to the wedding. As in the wedding ceremony, but not the knees up etc aftewards.

pulliptears

peachyprice wrote: »

Surely your OH shouldn't even be comtemplating going if he's off long term sick?

Does this mean you can't leave the house then? I can think of many reasons for being on long term sick that don't require you to become a social recluse.

tandraig

hun - I think this young man was probably sincere in his first invite - but has since been told in no uncertain terms that workmates are NOT on the guest list and to uninvite you all (except perhaps for his boss) and the poor man hasnt a clue on how to do that gracefully!
to save his embarrassment - send your good wishes and regrets for not being able to come (due to being ill) via email and a nice pressie to the venue.
then welcome him back at work and oooh and ahhh over the pics.

yoyo1980

Why doesn't someone simply ask him the plans for the big day? Saves any confusion and you can ask in a tactful way?? I don't see the problem?

peachyprice

pulliptears wrote: »

Does this mean you can't leave the house then? I can think of many reasons for being on long term sick that don't require you to become a social recluse.

Of course it doesn't mean you can't leave the house, but it's not as if it's the church ceremony that's being discussed, it the evening reception, you know, music, dancing, drink, noise, lots of people.

What kind of long term sickness would allow you to go enjoy a colleagues good old knees-up but not be well enough for work without causing concern from your employers? I'm genuinely intrigued.

RoxieW

Many. For example my aunt had breast cancer when she attended my wedding and was glad of an excuse to celebrate after alot of heartache.

rocketdog_2

Unless you have a written invitation to RSVP to then you (nad your work collegues) are not invited and should not attend. I bet his Wife to Be doesn't realise he has invited people by word of mouth. A wedding is a formal affair, not just a meet up at the pub - she's go mad if you all turned up!

Primrose

Difficult situation but I'd operate on the basis that if I'd received a written or e-mailed invitation stating the venue and the timing, I would take that as a formal invitation.
I think he's just dig himself into a very deep pit by issuing verbal invitations to everybody and doesn't know how to get himself out of it. I wouldn't go under these circumstances, especially if your husband has been off sick for so long. Always difficult mixing business with pleasure in such circumstances, and the best thing to do is not attend using the excuse that your husband was having "a bad day".

peachyprice

losingpatience wrote: »

He's having radiotherapy after having a tumor ( benign ) removed which is why he's off sick at the moment. Thats why we said he may or may not have been able to make it depending on how tired he is.

Thanks, hope I didn't offend, I really couldn't think of a situation but obviously in your OH's case it's perfectly understandable. All that came to mind was the usual, bad back, stress etc etc.
I hope all is going well.