please can someone help

mummyleads

i do really know what to do i am so cross long sorry

i got rmarried in dec my dh has 2 girls aged 20 and 19

we both lived on the same street when we met his 20 year old daughter lived with him she works full time
he came to live with me in may so we have had 2 houses to pay for since then she has not paid anything exept elec as its a meater well thigs are getting bad we cant afford to run both homes any more so (his daughters attitud to him is really bad really rude just expects everything

so he had a word with her saying basicaly you need to find someone else to live with you or find somewhere else to live she was crying obvisly i would be we dont want to do this but cant see any other way

she has a brand new car , disigner gear ect

any way today i go on face book and this is what she left
Aww arent u a darl...ano..n dads bin !!!!in gr8...may nt av an ome wich is fan!!!!!!tastic...lyk is 1 fakin !!!!!.,these days am worried bout u n if am guna av an ome...!!!!in me ryt off! R.i.p minty...b gud ta c a jolly folk

she is talking to her sister


is she calling me a !!!!! i have tried my hardst with this girl lent her money cooked her tea helped her out and now i feel she is just throwing it all in my face

Mme.Hibou

I'm not sure if she's calling you anything, but she really needs to work on her spelling.

Emmzi

indeed she is. but the best advice is just to make dad aware of it - no ultimatums. It's up to him how he handles her and trying to force his hand will only cause you trouble.

I know it's very frustrating for you, but you're going to have to sit on your hands while they sort it out between them.

newcook

I dont mean to be rude but could you translate what it was she wrote on facebook???

do you/OH know how much she earns or if she has any debt? was there any reason why you didnt move in with them and rent out your home??

mumslave

Took me a while to interpret that but she doesnt seem to be slagging anyone off per se, rather the situation.

Mme.Hibou

newcook wrote: »

I dont mean to be rude but could you translate what it was she wrote on facebook???

Aww arent u a darl...ano..n dads bin !!!!in gr8...may nt av an ome wich is fan!!!!!!tastic...lyk is 1 fakin !!!!!.,these days am worried bout u n if am guna av an ome...!!!!in me ryt off! R.i.p minty...b gud ta c a jolly folk

Awww aren't you a darling. I know and Dad's been f***ing great, I may not have a home which is fanf***ingtastic like is one faking bit*h (?) these days I'm worried about you and if I'm going to have a home. Pis* me right off. RIP Minty, be good, thank you. See you at Jolly Folk.

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mummyleads

i have 3 kids and his house is only 2 beds while myne is 3

mummyleads

:mad::mad:this is really getting to me as i am trying so hard to make her feel part of the famiely what more can i do :mad:

neneromanova

Just let her sulk. If the house needs to be sold then she needs to get off her bum and get a job (if she doesn't have one) and also find a place to live. She's 20 for crying out loud. I owned my own house at 20!

mummyleads

hiya thanks for all your replys she works full time and is at uni

i allso had my own home and 2 kids and was married buy then

i just dont want to fall out with my dh over this what can io do ?????

Zazen999

There isn't anything you can do - she will blame you for her issue of not having anywhere to live as it is all your fault for coming along and taking daddy away.

Let him deal with it; and just get on with your life. Be pleasant with her and show her that you won't stoop to her level.