MSE Parents Club Part 10

BrunoM

Hi all
Thanks those who asked we had a very nice posh tea which OH especially enjoyed loads. Huge serene 5 story atrium, all very peaceful, horrendously expensive afternoon tea but then infinite supplies of tea, coffee, fancy sandwiches, etc. We sat and enjoyed for an hour and a half or so and felt like we got our money's worth!

got-it-spend-it wrote: »

On the birth discussions -MOTM and Bruno- if either of you are around, I'm really interested to know how men are affected by the whole labour/birth experience and whether it stays with you in the same way.

Well. In my case I don't think so to the same extent really! I have very clear memories but not really any emotional hang-ups resulting
I was there throughout, including being 'down there' at the key moments etc. OH's labour was a bit stressful in time-frames (81 hours start to finish, long long period with no pain relief and nothing progressing, before eventual oxytocin drip+epidural when she was past the end of her endurance) and it was pretty much vital that I stayed strong and supportive for her...
It didn't really affect me post-event to be honest :confused smiley: other than to be seriously worried about putting her through it again!

SusanC wrote: »

When you say he doesn't play WITH other kids, what do you mean? At that age Alice used to join in games by copying (e.g. if other children were playing tag, she would run round like a headless chicken yelling because that's what she thought they were doing) and she might have played with an older child (but more the way she would with an adult) but I'd say it was definitely after she turned two before she did more interactive playing with children of a similar age to her. I also think there is quite a wide variation as the main child her age she plays with at church is a few months younger than her but the two that are a few months older just don't play with her even if she tries.

Thanks Susan; there's definitely a variety out there. He tends to be put off by the existence of other children - he likes adults, and objects!

I have to ask why OH's friend was even present in the first place at your labour let alone had the cheek to declare it boring!

searching_me

81 hours bruno :eek: your poor OH .. oh happy birthday to your OH glad you had a nice time x

chopsticks

Sami_Bee wrote: »

:T
Sorry no one is local to you, you should move here
Yes MrsM get it sorted!

off to Mummy n Daddy's for din dins :wave:

Hmm, not sure DH would be up for moving just to be close to you lot

Have a nice dinner!

money_maker wrote: »

OMG, I just found
Our 1st tooth !!:j:j

yeah, at least I now know why he has been so grumpy today

Yay!!!:j:j:j

Becles wrote: »

While we are talking about births, did anyone's birth plans go to plan? I've had three babies but stuff was never carried out as I'd written down and there were upsets with all three births. It made me wonder what the point of writing them was

My birth plan was written whilst I was in labour. I finished work at 38 weeks, didn't manage to get it done that week, so it was on my to-do list for the 39th week. Unfortunately it didn't happen, as Caitlin arrived exactly a week early!

Cue me in the bath trying to ease the pain and DH perched on the loo seat asking me "do you mind if a student is present?", etc etc.

As it turns out, they left me in a bathroom for 2.5hours by myself, then when they finally believed me that I was in agony (this due to going from 2cms to 10cms in just over 2 hours but them refusing to examine me again. They only realised I was fully dilated when I stood up and they saw my waters hanging out of me intact), they got me in a wheelchair, into a room, on to the bed and said "no time to read your birth plan so three questions - does DH want to cut the cord, do you want to discover the sex yourself and do you want an assisted third stage". And that was that :rotfl:.

tarajayne

Sounds like a lovely afternoon Bruno.X

MadDogWoman_2

Evening - just caught up.

Birth plan - completely out of the window I had an emergency c-section due to fetal distress and lack of progression on my part. DH saw the whole operation! I got first cuddles though. If I have a second and need a c-section I think I might suggest this to my consultant.

Stretchmarks - at 40 weeks +1 I was still smaller than when I was at my biggest so no extra stretchmarks added to the collection.

I was monitored as a diabetic throughout my pg, testing sugars 3/4 times a day, recording everything I ate, fortnightly hospital appointments.

:j:j:j SM for going to TC and new teeth. :j:j:j:j

Nappies - DH took on the role of changing all nappies his choice as he couldn't help with the feeding.

No news here DH is on his way home, Katie is watching the Gruffalo.

Glamazon

Gemma - definitely go if you feel up to it! I went when J was 5 weeks old!

MM - YAY for teeth! I'm hoping I find one soon - might explain the grumpiness!

Tara - I don't know what to say but big hugs to your friend

Bumbos - J is doing the arched back thing! :eek:

OH cut J's cord - he asked me if I should and I said 'For God's sake just get on with it!!!' :rotfl:

I too had a huge bump with a little one and not much fluid! Oh and no stretchmarks - sorry

Becles - the MW at Parentcraft told us not to bother with a birth plan as it 'probably wouldn't be followed'. I complained to the head of midwifery but in the end I never got around to writing mine!

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J is shattered from our walk so I better put him to bed!!!
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Ha didn't post before I did the above! I think the fresh air today has knocked him out!

Now to catch up on the 2 pages since I wrote this post! Back in 2mins

weezl74

tara, thanks for asking about my 'under the weatherness':A. I have been a bit glum, tired and back achey. But I feel bad moaning cos I've nothing at all serious!:)

sparkle03

GISI That was a really good question as I am also interested, so thanks Menfolk for answering!

J was a good labour everything smooth and no pain relief. OH watched him being born although I wasnt too keen him being down business end He cut the cord and that was that.

Lexis was v stressfull I told OH previously that I wanted no pain relief but was screaming for it in the end (didnt get any though) Also told OH I wanted him to massage my shoulders and back through contractions but when it came to it I couldnt bare to be touched! I asked him to stay head end and hold my hand as I found it much scarier as things not going right. With all the fuss OH didnt get chance to cut the cord as midwife had to be quick!

Wouldnt stop me from doing it again though, they were two of the most perfect, precious times in both of our lives! And in the time after the birth where your just left for a bit of time just the three of you is magical! xxx

Sarah_Joanne

weezl74 wrote: »

good point! perhaps I need to think a bit differently about timings

I do miss the PG ladies though

We miss you too

tarajayne wrote: »

BM, you're the same height as me, apart from the half. You're not too heavy, you're too short. X

Can I join the 5 foot 3 and a half club?! DH always laughs when I say the half. He's over 6 foot so the half wouldn't be as important to him!

emlou2009

csh wrote: »

Thats a shame. I must admit I had a fantastic midwife. She was only young about 25 but she was brilliant, not like the horror stories you sometimes hear about the older MWs and their 'I know best' attitude

I totally agree with that. The MW that delivered Seth was the loveliest one I dealt with out of the millions I seemed to see, and she can only have been about the same age as me. Once I was downstairs in the birth unit they were all older and very school ma'am-ish, and while its probably appropriate for some people it didnt wash very well with me and just made me want to come home. If the others had been nicer I probably would have stayed another night as they wanted me to quite happily, and the whole experience would have been a lot nicer!