MSE Parents Club Part 10

SusanC_2

SugarSpun wrote: »

Edit: Susan, the same thing happened to me in Evans, only the shop assistant came over and sneered at me telling me I wasn't the sort of customer they catered for. I assumed they meant young and got really confused and indignant before noticing that I'd not seen anything under a size 16 and sidling out embarrassed.

I'm so glad I'm not the only one (but not glad you had to deal with a snooty shop assistant) - even my mum said she knew they were larger sizes. My friend said the fact that they were using average looking models (instead of unusually thin ones) in the pictures in the window was meant to give it away but I hadn't noticed.

SugarSpun

SusanC wrote: »

they were using average looking models (instead of unusually thin ones) in the pictures in the window was meant to give it away

HOW are you supposed to notice?!?!

I'm not so thin people stare and comment any more, but I've been that thin and it was purely metabolic, I out-ate grown men friends and once (after a morning of climbing) caused Pizza Hut to stop bringing vegetarian pizzas to their all you can eat buffet, whereupon I half-emptied one of those vats of pasta.

Weight is something that it is never ok to comment on unless you are talking about a baby or you are a medical professional with a query directly related.

Sami_Bee

elle_gee wrote: »

Sami, how did the haircut go? Feeling lighter?

For the record, a c-section would have been my worst nightmare - before I had one! You know I'm not good with needles, just like you, dear twin!

Good thanks! I've been swishing it around ever since :cool: although new girl they have employed I think to cover mat leave of another wasn't very nice, a bit pushy and was rough drying my hair, much prefer the lovely Laura but she did insist on having a baby - how very dare she

I suppose if you do have a VBAC and it goes well you could be converted?
I have [STRIKE]lots of[/STRIKE] two needley things coming up need a tooth out at some point (see dentist about it on 5th march) thats the worst one and will ask GP about referring me for more skin tag removals once Ed feeding less often/accepting milk from not-a-boob receptacle

tiamai_d

*coughs* I'm not gross.
*goes back to looking at bedroom furnature*

SusanC_2

Sami_Bee wrote: »

I have been sort of brainwashed into thinking fat = gross so I would be a little put off being served food by a larger person
They'd have to be pretty massive and a bit sweaty or something to make me not buy it though I loves my grub

Did all the "Big is Beautiful" campaigns pass you by then? I always disliked them because the implication was therefore that thin is ugly. And there's all the articles about how "disgusting" models look just because of being thin. I used to feel bombarded by messages that it is better to be bigger and bad to be thin.

Sami_Bee

Sorry if I upset you feely I really didn't intend to upset any one
I try (and succeed mostly) to not think it but as I say I was sort of brainwashed by my mum. For as long as I can remember she has told me n sis that we should never get big like her and constantly reinforced the idea that its a bad thing to be fat.

SusanC_2

SugarSpun wrote: »

HOW are you supposed to notice?!?!

I'm not so thin people stare and comment any more, but I've been that thin and it was purely metabolic, I out-ate grown men friends and once (after a morning of climbing) caused Pizza Hut to stop bringing vegetarian pizzas to their all you can eat buffet, whereupon I half-emptied one of those vats of pasta.

Weight is something that it is never ok to comment on unless you are talking about a baby or you are a medical professional with a query directly related.

I agree. text extension

Glamazon

SusanC wrote: »

I can't say I've ever checked out the size of the shop staff before buying food anywhere. Do people really do that?

My boss didnt want me to enploy a 'larger' lady because he said it doesn't promote good health & we are a GP surgery. He said it woul be hypocritical of us to tell people to lose weight when we had big staff which I can understand but that it was a bit harsh.

off to bath, bed Jack then make pancakes and ice my fairy cakes :cool:
Get me!

feelinggood_2

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Sorry if I upset you feely I really didn't intend to upset any one
I try (and succeed mostly) to not think it but as I say I was sort of brainwashed by my mum. For as long as I can remember she has told me n sis that we should never get big like her and constantly reinforced the idea that its a bad thing to be fat.

I know you well enough to know you are lovely and wouldn't hurt anyone. I'm quite sensitive about my weight and wouldn't want you to think I'm gross.

SugarSpun

Sami_Bee wrote: »

For as long as I can remember she has told me n sis that we should never get big like her and constantly reinforced the idea that its a bad thing to be fat.

My mother is very much the same way, and she comments on my weight all the time - when Molly was five days old she was commenting that now I wasn't pregnant she'd expect me to be thinner

I take it as her self-hatred expressed outwards and ignore it. My biggest concern with heavy people is that if I like them I worry about their health, but if I know they're healthy then their weight isn't going to bother me.