MSE Parents Club Part 10

angelfairy

morning everyone,

weezl - so sorry that your work is messing you around. the absolute last thing you need at this point.

becles - sorry to hear you aren't feeling great at the minute. it helps venting on here doesn't it??? i know it does for me. i can't imagaine how you try and fit everything as i always feel like i am rushing about and i dont have uni like you do.

mfd - i'm sure i saw a post saying hubby is coming home but now i cant find it (confused smiley) and the neg test (you okay?) what happened with your tickets?

still trouble with sleep in the AF household, but i am struggling on, although i have been letting her come in with me early hours as getting up 5 or 6 times a night is doing in me in. must get strong again though.

beenie - thought of you this morning when i was on poop scoop duty

x

Jakesmummy

searching_me wrote: »

oh forgot to add jm .. zoe doesnt stop talking from the moment she wakes to the mo shes asleep so if you find a way to stop them short of gagging please tell me ..

caz i just found out yesterday zoes got a teacher training day friday which im so glad about as me and her are going lndon on saturday so it gives me chance to sort everything out x

well at least they can talk to each other lol, im just hoping jasmine doesnt turn out as talkative i dont think i could cope lol

i dont think il make it to meadowhall and back in time to drop jake at nursery n pick him up but thanks for asking! x

searching_me

3onitsway wrote: »

but I must just switch off and nod and make listening noises at appropriate times.

i do this .. saves me from going crazy :rotfl:x

aless02

Morning all...Beenie, I'm totally jealous of Amber's sleeping. Finn did a 6hr stint the other night, but that's the ONLY time he's done that and last night was back to square one!

Hopefully swimming today will tired him out thoroughly .

BeenieCat

LOL af - i love how everyone is going to be thinking of me when they're picking up dog poo :rotfl:

Aless i had a horrible dream about you last night I don't really know what happened but you died, and i woke up all confused and it took me a while to realise it was a dream, was horrible

Claire_Jones_3

SM: Its 4 days now for not paying so wait until tomorrow then open an unpaid item dispute. They then have another 4 days in which to pay and if they don't then you can close the dispute and get your fee's back for that item, re-list it and put an unpaid item strike against the buyer.

Tara: Glad DD and DGD are doing well and hope you are bearing up ok - remember you need to sleep and eat too!

Beenie: :mad: at rubbish neighbours and well done Amber

Glam: We all do whats best for us & our families/most convient/what we want to do whether bo0bies work or not, so try not to let it bother you. I BF DS1 til he was 6mths and DS2 when he was 7mths and my main reasons for doing so was cos I'm tight! I've had to carry these big bo0bies round for years so it was about time they earnt their keep in bras over the years! However once the boys got to about 5 or 6 months and they were being weaned I had really had enough of feeling like a milk machine. I was expressing a bottle of milk everyday for the boys to have before bed otherwise they'd have a little bit and snooze off as they were so comfy and then they'd wake up loads in the night. It was such a relief to put them onto formula and it took the pressure off me. I struggled getting DS2 to feed and he vvv nearly went onto formula at about a week old. If I couldn't have fed them I would only have been annoyed at the cost of formula when it was something I "should" have been able to do and thats only what kept me BF. Don't beat yourself up we all have things we can and can't do ut do the best we can for our babies and thats exactly what you've done. Sorry I've gone off on one there!

Workingmummy: Congrats at being an Auntie

Big get well vibes for OH that aren't well/in hospital/having ops etc

Welcome Jacksons mum and other lurkers (I don't post that often! )

And hello and hugs to everyone else!


Update from me: I went for job interview yesterday and they phoned today offering me the job! It was full time 40hrs but said I only really wanted somewhere around 20 so they've said 25 to 30hrs a week. I've got to pop back there later this afternoon so look at the days/hrs so I can check once childcare is paid that its still worth me working!

My sofa is broken but after a visit from a man who said he could put a bit of wood here and there and re-stain the stratched leather "it'll look ok". Its less than an yr old you muppet so I wasn't accepting that! Hence after a few words with retailer I have a new one being delivered on Friday. Can someone remind me to take the door off on thursday to make it easier!!

My Nan is in hospital unwell. She went to have a camera down her throat (can't spell proper word!) as she was struggling to swallow. They've found a blockage but also found stomach ulcers which after taking biopcies (sp?) they turned out to be cancerous. The hospital then admitted her and advised her not to go home as the ulcers/cancer is severe. She should have had scans or something yesterday so find out if she can be treated or if its terminal so we should know later this week hopefully. My nan has also asked the doctors to put a DNR on her!!:eek: I know she is 85yrs old know but only 3 yrs ago she was dancing for hours at my wedding and none of us could keep up with her! Oh well we'll have to just wait and see but we think she has given up on living and just wants to meet up with my Grandad. Sorry I've poured out a bit but its the only way I'm gonna stay in control of myself at the moment!

searching_me

cj good news on the job ... but ((huge hugs)) for you about your nan xxx

aless02

BeenieCat wrote: »

LOL af - i love how everyone is going to be thinking of me when they're picking up dog poo :rotfl:

Aless i had a horrible dream about you last night I don't really know what happened but you died, and i woke up all confused and it took me a while to realise it was a dream, was horrible

gee thanks, Beenie! but sweet you were concerned

SusanC_2

weezl74 wrote: »

Apparently they can. I rang a legal helpline last night and was told that it's only contractual if the letter is deemed to change the agreement between us, at the level of 'was that what the employer intended to do?' If they say, oh no we weren't making a contract with her, it was an admin error. Then there's no case.

Gutted Also don't know how to fit in the extra work now before mat leave or arrange for care for Fergie so I can.

I know it doesn't make any practical difference but :mad: at your work because they have messed you about so much with this whole maternity leave business.

Glamazon wrote: »

I have spent hours deliberating on whether to post this or not

:grouphug: I'm glad you did say as it is better to say than to carry on being upset without saying anything.

Glamazon wrote: »

Thanks to the delightful 'other' thread I now feel like a bag of !!!!!!. I cried at 3am because I was giving Jack a bottle of formula something I've been doing for months. It never really bothered me before as I knew I was doing what I had to do but due to the comments made and the stupid website links that I clicked on I know feel like I shouldn't have had my surgery, that I was selfish for putting my own needs before those of any children I might decide to have in the future and that I am now a bad mum because what I feed my child is inferior. I can't get that word out of my head 'inferior'

I'm so sorry that the thread made you feel like that and I apologise wholeheartedly if anything I wrote contributed to how upset you are. From what you have said it was needed surgery rather than vanity and how could you have known whether you would ever even have children? Maybe formula isn't as good as breastmilk but it is better than nothing and you do have to strike a balance between what is best for your health and what is best for your child. Even if breastmilk is better, the cost is not necessarily worth it and since I imagine you weren't pregnant at the time of the surgery it was the benefits for you vs the benefits to a theoretical child who may never have happened. I think it would be very unfair for anyone to say that you had made the wrong choice in having the surgery and if there is any failure, it is the failure of our society as whole to provide donated breastmilk as an option so that people do have the choice of giving their child breastmilk even if they don't breastfeed for whatever reason. (I would have quite willingly donated some of my extra milk to a milk bank and would have been happy for any baby to have it regardless of the reason the mother didn't BF but can't because of medication I take.)

Claire_Jones wrote: »

My Nan is in hospital unwell.

:grouphug:

redmel1621

Becles - I don't know what to say really. Just don't forget you don't have to give up uni forever, just look on it as a break for a year or two. By then Charlotte will be in full-time school the boys will be even more independant and you will find yourself with a bit more free time:) I do know EXACTLY how you feel juggling it all with a not-very-helpful husband!!

Glam - I am sorry that I don't know anything about what your op was or why you had it and it is pointless me saying don't feel guilty about ff as you are going to no matter how many times people say you shouldn't. But let me tell you a few stories;

1, I have never bf any of my kids, never wanted to and I have no intention of bf the next one either, my kids are all healthy, are ill no more than the next kid, have no allergies and are not overweight. DS1 is one of the brightest in his class (and is actually working 1-2yrs above his age) so no issues with intelligence either.

2, My friend has 4 children all breastfed amongst the 4 there are issues of exczma, asthma, psoriasis and some food allergies, they are all clinically obese and suffer bullying in school because of this, this also results in behavioural issues both at school and at home. Yes she bf them but from toddling age she then stuck them in front of the tv/dvd with big bags of crisps/haribo's and bottles of fizzy drinks.......Their dinners consist mainly of chips. sausages, burgers, chicken nuggets, etc.... bf is such a small part of a childs life and health that as they grow older it pales into almost insignifance (before anyone flames me i am not saying it is completely insignificant) 6mths-2yrs of a childs life is nothing when they are most likely to live to 85/90yrs old.....it is more important to teach them well about food, relationships, life, health..... there are so many more influencing lessons you can bring to your childs life as they are growing than whether they had breastmilk for short time!

3, Do you or do you ever plan to....hit your child, stub out cigarettes on him, throw a hot iron at him, lock him in his room for days on end throwing him only water and bread to eat, kick him out of the family home while young, take him and dump him on your parents to look after forever, take heroin/cocaine,or other drugs around him, feed him only chippy chips and then only 1 bag to share between him and a few other kids because you want the money for alcohol/drugs, get him to go into town and steal his own clothes from the age of 6 again because drinking/drugs come first, and coming back to feeding have you given him cows milk cold from the fridge from the day he was born!!!!

I know people who have been brought up in situations like this and who have treated their children like this, I have not made any of it up. The parents of the above actions are 'bad parents' and have failed their children miserably........do you really put yourself in the same category as these parents? I know I don't......

Sorry for the long post and possible ineligibleness of some of it, I have a whiny child on my lap who I am just going to take for his nap

Mel x