MSE Parents Club Part 10

Millie's_Mum

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Where did Millies Mum disappear to? Did you get my PM MM??

I went to bed, no I didn't get a PM, did you send it to the other Millie's Mum, (the one who doesn't use punctuation or capital letters)?

Glamazon

I have spent hours deliberating on whether to post this or not but I think I need to for two reasons - to explain my crabbiness yesterday and also to get it off my chest. I was crying at 3am this morning and I'm getting upset even writing this little bit! I am a very strong person who rarely gets upset over things - I've only cried twice since having Jack and once was OH's fault. I didn't think it affected me that much but considering I've thought of nothing else since Sunday and the tears rolling down my face right now show that it obviously has affected me.

Thanks to the delightful 'other' thread I now feel like a bag of !!!!!!. I cried at 3am because I was giving Jack a bottle of formula something I've been doing for months. It never really bothered me before as I knew I was doing what I had to do but due to the comments made and the stupid website links that I clicked on I know feel like I shouldn't have had my surgery, that I was selfish for putting my own needs before those of any children I might decide to have in the future and that I am now a bad mum because what I feed my child is inferior. I can't get that word out of my head 'inferior'

Feelie - I know you were hurt and upset by what Em wrote but you don't realise how much you have hurt and upset ME by your constant 'any one can BF with the right help' attitude. I couldn't BF and am upset by it so I can't begin to wonder how upset those people are that could BF initially and then stopped.

I'm not looking for sympathy or anything I just wanted to get it off my chest otherwise it will keep rolling around and around in my head.

Right, my crying has now woken my little man up so I better get him dressed

My_Fathers_Daughter

Millie's_Mum wrote: »

I went to bed, no I didn't get a PM, did you send it to the other Millie's Mum, (the one who doesn't use punctuation or capital letters)?

Must have done - oops - she must think I am a right nutter!!


HUBBY IS COMING HOME!!! MUST SHOWER!!! TESTED BUT NEG!!!

Krystaltips

SugarSpun wrote: »

REALLY? How interesting! Did she invent his illnesses or cause harm, if that's not too personal a question for the internet?
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That irks me too. OH can't sit and watch a film, he has to be asking questions or performing a commentary or bouncing around or passing comment on something. GRRR :mad:

She started to raise concerns with him, but then his little brother had a febrile convulsion and things kind of shifted and spiraled with him... Then she started with his baby sister but she was fortunate enough to be taken into care quite early... His brother is damaged from a lot of the prescribed drugs he was on (and also the one that he wasn't prescribed that was found in his blood stream when social services stepped in! :eek:)

You'd hate to watch a film with me then... I'm all about passing comments lol...

Yay for Benjamin Mfd any news on hubby this morning? Pee'd on a stick yet? <edit> You wrote while I was posting... Yay for hubby!!

Weezl, have a ((hug)) I can't believe how much your work have messed you around over everything... Is there any way you could put in a complaint?

SugarSpun

Glam you're doing what's best for you and Jack. Not even the super-hardcore breastfeeders would expect you to try and feed a baby with no supply, and from what you've said your surgery was necessary. And even if it wasn't and there had been a choice of feeding methods available to you, it would still have been a valid choice to formula feed him. Formula's not inferior - it's different, is all.


Please, sweetie, don't feel badly about feeding your son - it doesn't matter where his food comes from so long as he's healthy and happy, and we know he is.

searching_me

morning ..

weezl thats pants ((hugs)) to you ...

hi tara glad shes doing well hows DD coping? ..

becs ((hugs)) to you you shouldnt have to do it all i hope things get sorted out soon ...

second morning in a row jayden screamed at the top of his lungs at 4-5am for attention its very grating philip says i should leave him to scream but i give in, bring him in with us and give him a bottle ... i just cant deal with screaming at that time ... got a headache from it .. shattered today i did so much tidying yesterday so today im not doing much apart from having a cuppa and play with jayden when he stops being amoaning bu99er x

SugarSpun

How very interesting, Krystal - I've often wondered whether MBP would be satisfied by having a child with a genuine condition rather than a parentally-induced one, but if she was giving him extra meds then perhaps not.

Sorry to be so nebby, I don't mean to be rude or minimise the situation.

Krystaltips

Glam, I have nothing constructive to say but ((hugs)) You are a wonderful mummy and Jack loves you heaps. It doesn't matter where his milk comes from, as long as he's getting some!

workinmummy

Runs in without reading back to give my news. (Sorry)

SIL gave birth at 6.13am to a baby girl named Annie. 8lb 12oz (ouch)

Runs out again to do some work and read back.

searching_me

glam i know you said you dont want sympathy but im gonna give you a ((hug)) anyway .. i know how you feel thats why i dont read any of that stuff you do what you know is right for jack .. if hes happy and healthy thats all that matter you're a great mum to jack ..

MFD yay!! to OH coming home ... so neg or pos then x