MSE Parents Club Part 10

csh_2

searching_me wrote: »

csh sounds abit heated ... not usually quiet with my opinions but this is a very sensitive subject and people can take things wrote the wrong way as you can see people experssions or hear how its said x

Sorry you've lost me SM! Why am I sounding a bit heated?

searching_me

csh bf/ff debate ... no you sounding heated the discussion x

elle_gee

Just for clarity, the topic at training was why mums stop (lack of support, mostly), not why they don't start in the first place, iyswim (it was about how to support mums to continue, not how to bully them into it)

On a lighter note, my mum has just been txting me.. "Are you sure he likes Weetabix?"... "How do you encourage him?"... "Oh yeah, getting there now".. "Oh, that's amazing. When he realises what it is, he wolfs it down so quick and he shouts when you're not quick enough" :rotfl: :rotfl:

boogellyboo

Buttonmoons wrote: »

No boogey lol, that's a pic I took of her, her fringe was in her face there too, but it was still swept more to the side. Hang on, I've took a blurry pic of the one from the school and you'll see what I mean.

Sorry Buttons! *boo removes foot from mouth* Now I see what you mean, your pics lush and the school fringe looks wrong.

elle_gee wrote: »

Just for clarity, the topic at training was why mums stop (lack of support, mostly), not why they don't start in the first place, iyswim

On a lighter note, my mum has just been txting me.. "Are you sure he likes Weetabix?"... "How do you encourage him?"... "Oh yeah, getting there now".. "Oh, that's amazing. When he realises what it is, he wolfs it down so quick and he shouts when you're not quick enough" :rotfl: :rotfl:

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: Go Rhys!

SM - did you mean me because I said dont be quiet?

searching_me

oops sorry might of been boo :rotfl: im all over the place jaydens been fussing and just fallen asleep on me and i could murder a cuppa x

Buttonmoons

I should still buy it though shouldn't I? I mean her fringe is in her face a bit but she still looks cute.


ARGH.

got-it-spend-it

SusanC wrote: »

I know you weren't asking me but I'll tell you what were the key things for me keeping going in the early days:
- I believe that it is the best option.
- OH believes it is the best option and never suggested I give up.
- we were planning to go camping when Alice was three months old and I knew this would be very difficult if I wasn't breastfeeding.
- I told myself I could stop at four months.
- My midwife (not the nasty weekend one) was very supportive - she had breastfed herself and understood about the pain, she explained a lot of things to us when I had problems (I got very sore but also very stressed because all the info said that if it hurt you were doing it wrong), and she was reasonable and reassuring about us having given a small amount of formula.

I think it really helped me that at the start I set myself the goal of BFing for six weeks- it gave me a target and took the pressure off if I wanted to stop then. I'm also very lazy and, for me, BFing is much easier than the faff of bottles! It also helped that I had a BF drop in clinic to go to when I was really struggling with bleeding nipples.

I totally accept that there are lots of mums who simply choose not to though, it's like anything...and wouldn't life be boring if we were all the same.

On another note, I'm loving the pics! BM- I think that is a lovely school photo and that the fringe is dead cute!

tarajayne

Morning, lovely piccys being posted this morning! X

Edit, afternoon!

csh_2

searching_me wrote: »

csh bf/ff debate ... no you sounding heated the discussion x

Right. I thought that you thought I'd got a bit het up over my mac cheese recipe

feelinggood_2

emlou2009 wrote: »

Nothing that anyone could have done anything about, unless its possible to train a two week old baby not to cry at the sight of my nipples.

Feelie, I admire you for eventually getting there on the whole BF thing, and please dont take this the wrong way, but I think you are reading too much into this. I do remember you said yourself once that even you thought the reason you got there in the end was because of your addictive/compulsive personality, and what with growing up around it with your mother as a BF counseller, maybe you cant understand why people wouldnt want to BF or havent got as much determination to succeed as you did? This is honestly not meant with any intention of offending you.

I have no problem with people saying they didn't want to breastfeed, or didn't enjoy it, or wanted to formula feed for ease, convience etc. It is just most Mum's I've spoken said they couldn't, or had to stop, or that they wanted to continue but weren't able to.

I can understand the distress of a baby crying at the breast, I firmly believe that it was Toby being manhandled by a midwife that meant he didn't want to be near the breast at first - he'd arch his back, scream and get very worked up

I think my breastfeeding opinion is that almost all problems can be solved with the right help and support and time. I know that sometimes people don't have those resources, or don't feel it is worth the battle to overcome them, but I just feel like I want to challenge them sometimes, because I don't like the myth that breastfeeding often doesn't work being perpetuated.

Does that make sense?