Trying for a Baby part 5....

fantafan

FairyShazza wrote: »

Hope you have a good break Giz wherever you end up going. Hope that if you go camping the weather will stay fine for you

Fantafan - even though you and OH haven't dtd don't forget that doesn't necessarily mean his swimmers have just been sat around. There is a chance he may have released some of his own accord if you catch my drift. I think the optimum is to leave about 3 days to let the swimmers build up but no more than 10 days as this will affect their effectiveness - thats what it said when OH did the home fertility test he brought.

I think I'm screwed then...would bet my life savings that they have been sat around and unless they pee out, they're still there. Might have to DTD at the start of fertile and then hope for another nearer OV. Am I callous? We haven't even proper cuddled yet, he's convinced we've stop trying....it feels like he's stop trying at marriage let alone baby making. I feel blue

iainsmum

Thansk for PMA QQ and GFH.

I think OH's negativity is catching...he says he's too old, too unwell, too tired to want another child. He looks after DS whilst I'm working and he says it exhausts him, doesn't think he could cope with another. That's when I have my doubts and think that I'm being really selfish, but you can't help how you feel about it, can you? And then I think if he really didn't want another he shouldn't DTD 'bareback' in case we score a goal, but he does, so he can't be that worried about it, can he? Hmmmmmm

Sammy_Girl

Good Morning

huge (((hugs))) to those that need them. ESP Fanta and Iainsmum - DH's aren't always on the same wavelength as us. The best advice I can give is to talk to them about your issues. Fwiw, I learnt quite early on that my DH didn't want to know the ins and outs of TTC, ie Ov, ewcm etc etc. So now I don't tell him when I'm ov'ing, just nudge for some 'special time'.

Giz - Gish, fingers crossed your flight is ok - looks like flights are returning so hope you get your sun.

GFH - yes, I used Legs' linky. Came super fast. Hopes yours comes soon.


The sun is shining so I'm off out for a run with doggie. Oooh , Primmer, I forgot to say how cute your pup is. I love puppies. My pups 4 years old now Mind you, I really do t miss the toilet training tho lol.

CD26 for me and I promise I didn't poas today. I've only got IC and I couldn't be bothered to find my pee pot. So, yay me

right, I am going now.

Hugs and sticky baby dust to all xxx

BigSister2008

Congrats Lizzie on BFP

Well after a show last weekend for 20 mins no AF as yet, due on saturday on our weedend away DID POAS last week but BFN and due to test this Sunday but i know it will be a BFN as no dtd since last friday

QQuaver

iainsmum wrote: »

And then I think if he really didn't want another he shouldn't DTD 'bareback' in case we score a goal, but he does, so he can't be that worried about it, can he? Hmmmmmm

He probably wants the baby, but doesn't like taking care of them when they are very young;) He'll be fine as soon as they grow up, and gets a XBox. It's only few years:D

BigSister2008 wrote: »

Congrats Lizzie on BFP

Well after a show last weekend for 20 mins no AF as yet, due on saturday on our weedend away DID POAS last week but BFN and due to test this Sunday but i know it will be a BFN as no dtd since last friday

Wait 'till Sunday:)

kmckee999

Good morning ladies

U may not recognise me as i was on here a while ago now and eventually managed to get a sticky bean after 18 months of ttc and discovering i had pcos!

Anyway i bought a CBFM back in Dec (brand new) but luck had it that we never actually needed it and i got my BFP in january :j :j :j

So after holding onto it for as long as we thought was needed (didnt want to jinx anything) we have decided to try and sell it, so wandered if anyone here would like to buy it first? I paid £68 and also have 2 boxes of sticks which were £12. I opened it and read the instuctions ready to use but like i said it never got turned on!!

Anyone intereseted can pm me or my e mail is [EMAIL="katemckee@hotmail.com"]katemckee@hotmail.com[/EMAIL]

Lots of luck to the rest of u x x

luby-lu

Thank you for all the replies. sometimes when AF turns up it just seems so unfair!

FairyShazza, AF due on thurs/fri too.

i have already done 4 tests, i just wanted to know either way, just hope OH doesnt look in the bin! Would it show up by now?

Anyway onwards and upwards!!:D

Lucy x

iainsmum

QQuaver wrote: »

He probably wants the baby, but doesn't like taking care of them when they are very young;) He'll be fine as soon as they grow up, and gets a XBox. It's only few years:D

He loved taking care of DS as a baby, was very involved and is a great dad, I just think he worries cos he's older than me (46) and thinks he won't have the energy to manage 2 of them. I'm the major breadwinner and he knows that he'd have to look after a 12m old (if we had another) and a 3 yr old when I went back to work. It probably scares the dooby out of him, I think its a daunting prospect and I WANT another one! :eek:

FairyShazza

fantafan wrote: »

I think I'm screwed then...would bet my life savings that they have been sat around and unless they pee out, they're still there. Might have to DTD at the start of fertile and then hope for another nearer OV. Am I callous? We haven't even proper cuddled yet, he's convinced we've stop trying....it feels like he's stop trying at marriage let alone baby making. I feel blue

I’m sorry that you are feeling so down.

Have you considered putting ttc on the back burner while you try and sort out the other stuff that’s going on with you both? I can tell you really want to try for a baby but trying won’t be much fun if it is going to feel strained when you try and dtd.

It sounds as if you really could do with sitting down your OH and trying to talk everything through. Obviously I don’t know too much about your history or what’s going on as I am pretty new to the thread but maybe he is thinking the same way about you but hasn’t said anything.

When you feel so far apart the only way to approach things is slow steps, taking one thing at a time. I think maybe if you spend some time rediscovering each other and spending time with each other, cuddling, kissing almost starting from scratch again you can build things up again.

Tell me to sod off if you like! Sending hugs to stop you feeling blue.

Have had a massive temperature drop today which has taken me way below the coverline so looks like AF is fast approaching (evil ugly hag)

Looks like I’d better read the instruction book for my CBFM tonight!

QQuaver

fantafan wrote: »

he's convinced we've stop trying....it feels like he's stop trying at marriage let alone baby making. I feel blue

Tell him you love him, and want to give your marriage another go?
One of you has to;)

We are on a mission, mission TTC:D