Toilet training - boys

niklepic

pigpen wrote: »

We just had the potty lying around.. it was a boat, a hat, a bed, a chair etc... then when they got to having their daily 'bottom airing' they would eventually go sit on it and when they were ready they'd use it properly.. at which point asking them not to keep their lunch in it became a problem.

Don't force the issue.. it just makes it take 10 times longer!

Just brought back a memory of my ds peeing in the open dishwasher with the potty on his head! Luckily it had been emptied!:rotfl:

Just a little word of advice when he finally is ready (my ds was just over 2 1/2), if you get a traditional potty sit him on it backwards and make sure he's "tucked in". you'd be surprised how far that piddle can shoot across the room.;)

pigpen

jinky67 wrote: »

I found it was the other way round:rotfl:

you would!

Other than my 2 with issues I found the girls easier too.. BUT.. one of my boys has learning difficulties and the other had had an op to correct an undescended testicle which resulted in nerve damage to the bladder..

DD1 at 18 months got up one moring when DS2 was a week old and said 'no nappies' .. 'ok, so we use the potty right?' 'ok' she said.. and she did!!! Amazing! ... until DD2 (19 months) and DD5 (2) did the same lol.

DD4 just never wore clothes from being 14 months so was often found looking at books on the potty.. or peeing up the sofa! :mad:

DD3 likes being wet.

Felicity

snapping_crocodile wrote: »

It doesn't sound like he's ready as others have said. You are doing all the right things by encouraging him, and letting him see others wee in the right place, but until he's ready there isn't much you can do. Does he let you know when he has weed or pooed in his nappy?

No, not really. He DOES know when he has done a poo and I have tried to encourage him to say 'poo mummy', maybe 2 times out of 10 he will tell me.

He thinks nappy changes are boring though (quite rightly so), especially at play times so will always try and keep it quiet so his play isn't interrupted!

Felicity

pigpen wrote: »

you would!

Other than my 2 with issues I found the girls easier too.. BUT.. one of my boys has learning difficulties and the other had had an op to correct an undescended testicle which resulted in nerve damage to the bladder..

DD1 at 18 months got up one moring when DS2 was a week old and said 'no nappies' .. 'ok, so we use the potty right?' 'ok' she said.. and she did!!! Amazing! ... until DD2 (19 months) and DD5 (2) did the same lol.

DD4 just never wore clothes from being 14 months so was often found looking at books on the potty.. or peeing up the sofa! :mad:

DD3 likes being wet.

WOW! That was an easy DD1!!!

Maybe having the baby focused her on trying to be a 'big girl'.

I have tried the 'baby Tom wears a nappy but you are a big boy so you dont need to' but no help, probably a bit too soon.

I am a SAHM so there really is no rush, I am finding all your stories really helpful though re planning for the future.

My only concern really is that there seems to be a reluctance towards going on the potty / toilet. He talks about it, puts the baby doll on it, he just seems to be very reluctant to actually go on it himself, even try. As if there is a fear of it.

rozeepozee

I potty trained my son when he was just turned 2. I think if you're going to do it before they're obviously wanting to use the potty themselves, you have to steel yourself to be very patient and not make a fuss or be cross or get anxious if they wet or soil themselves. Sometimes my son was dry for days and then we'd have spate of wetting himself and it took him ages to get to grips with pooing in the potty rather than his nappy.

It could get a bit frustrating at times but overall I'm glad I did it early as he was certainly more or less potty trained significantly sooner than most of my friends' boys and I saved myself a small fortune in nappies (he's still in them at night at the moment). I'd rather wash wet pants than dispose of loads of nappies. I suppose it's what suits your lifestyle and your son the best.

jo1972

jinky67 wrote: »

I found it was the other way round:rotfl:

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

I think really it's different for everyone isn't it, depends on the child really. I only said what I did as I have 2 girls and 1 boy, boy was and still is a nightmare (and he's 7.5 and still wets the bed frequently :mad:).

My DD1 (now nearly 18 :eek:) practically refused to be potty trained, she had no interest but I think that was just to spite us lol. Then the day came she was offered a place at the nursery attached to the school and they said she can't come till she's dry....she was nearly 4. She went for a taster hour there and enjoyed herself so much that she got home, took her nappy off and never wore one again, even during the night!!! She had hardly any accidents. She was playing us all along *rolleyes*.

DS (now 7.5 as I said) is still not great, I gave OH the job of training him, showing him what to do etc and he did well, stopped using a potty at around 4, this was also due to the fact that a place was coming up in nursery. He wanted to be like his dad and that was it I think. But he is a very deep sleeper, absolutely loves his sleep (another dad trait!) and wets the bed frequently. I've gone onto those pajama pants now, which I don't think maybe I should be using as they are almost giving him an excuse iykwim, but they do save the sheets.

DD2 in comparasion was AMAZING. My childminder suggested she left a potty about the place to see how she reacts. She was almost 2 and completely dry, bar a few accidents in 2 days!! Now this is very unusual, but she is a very independent and stubborn child :eek: :rotfl:

I don't think the situation is helped when I've got my 4 yr old teasing my 7 yr old for wetting the bed :undecided

Felicity

niklepic wrote: »

Just brought back a memory of my ds peeing in the open dishwasher with the potty on his head! Luckily it had been emptied!:rotfl:

OMG!!! :rotfl:How funny! Have all this to look forward to.

xmaslolly76

Have you tried skipping the potty all together my DD point blankly refused to use a potty having taken her with me to the toilet everytime i needed it she wanted to use the toilet to i didnt see the point in forcing her to use a potty so we bought her a safety first toilet seat which fits over the normal one she loved it.

I also found boys are slower than girls to potty train my girl was dry by the time she was 2.5yrs day and night within a week but my lad who is now 7 sometimes still wets the bed at night only occasionally though and he was almost 3 before he was even interested in any potty training.

jinky67

Felicity wrote: »

My only concern really is that there seems to be a reluctance towards going on the potty / toilet. He talks about it, puts the baby doll on it, he just seems to be very reluctant to actually go on it himself, even try. As if there is a fear of it.

Sounds exactly like my DD, she used the potty once:mad:
She played with it all the time, she knew what it was for, would sit on it for ages, but would she pee? Would she heck!
She was 3 1/2 before she was toilet trained, I tried all the " no-one else at nursery wears nappies" didnt make one bit of difference....I think if left to her she would still be wearing them, lazy little sod:rotfl:

mrcow

I personally wouldn't encourage him.

He doesn't sound like he's ready. One of the worst things you can do with toilet training is try and rush it. You'll be cleaning up wee from your furniture and carpets when you really don't need to.

Wait until he's ready and then try. if he's still not ready - put the nappies back on and try again in two months.

I waited with all of mine (one boy two girls) and all of them were potty trained within a day and 100% toilet trained within a week.