The giving up/cutting down alcohol thread part VI

mollypolly

Good morning to you all.

Shaggy I love all the bags of money and treasure chests.It makes the thread really cheerful along with your daily pictures.

So many people on here are doing so well giving up/cutting down it is fantastic.
This thread is a great place to be with so much support and the people who do the scoring each month are doing so much good.

I arn't very good at doing Budgiesque posts...(where is she by the way) but would just like to say well done to Honeybear for doing your best score ever and Bubble for doing 14 consecutive days.

Fay....well done to you too....you seem to be in a much better place now in your head.I hope that things have finally turned around for you now.
I am up in Scotland at the beginning of May for four days but will have all the tribe with me so wont have much time for meeting up I dont think. But DH and I are hoping to come up for a whole week in the summer....July/August time so maybe we can arrange something then.How long does it take to get to your place from Inverness?

Better get a move on.DD2 will be here to pick me up soon.....we are going to tell me Mum she is going to be a Great-nan.....:D

See you later
Love Mollypollyxxxx

mollypolly

Just a quick comment on 'The Debating Society'

This still happens to me now.....even yesterday ....we saw a scan of the baby for the first time....this was a cause for celebration....should I have a drink.....will I have a drink when the baby is born etc.etc.etc.
But then I looked further into the future.....I do not want to be baby sitting whilst drunk.....and that is where that one celebration drink would lead.Because I know......One Is Never Enough.
To those of you struggling with these debates in your head I say try and work through them and it does get so much easier to argue yourself out of having a drink.
I feel safe in the knowledge that I am better than alcohol and I can do without it.....and so can you.
Good luck
Love Mollypollyxxxx

Miss_Piggy_2

Morning all

Congratulations MP!!! Such exciting news!:j:j

I'm not going into great detail, but needless to say, all my yakking about moderation yesterday completely went out the window last night. Nearly two bottles of wine got downed and today I feel awful. Finally coming to the realisation that I probably need some sort of help. Not sure what. Can't get my head round things at the moment. Am going to order the "Living Sober" book as a start.

Sorry to be so down after MP's wonderful news.

Miss P
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mollypolly

Miss_Piggy wrote: »

Morning all

Congratulations MP!!! Such exciting news!:j:j

I'm not going into great detail, but needless to say, all my yakking about moderation yesterday completely went out the window last night. Nearly two bottles of wine got downed and today I feel awful. Finally coming to the realisation that I probably need some sort of help. Not sure what. Can't get my head round things at the moment. Am going to order the "Living Sober" book as a start.

Sorry to be so down after MP's wonderful news.

Miss P
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Thanks for the congrats Miss Piggy.Dont worry about being down.That's what this thread is all about......Come here Happy come here Sad.We are all here to support each other.
I am sorry you are having a bad time at the moment but you have done so well cutting back....maybe you do need to cut it out now.I seem to remember you did completely abstain a while back....maybe it would be a good idea to have a read of your old posts to see what place your head was in then.It could be helpful.

Right....must dash...DD2's here now.
Catch you later
Love Mollypollyxxxx

Lilith1980

Don't beat yourself up Miss Piggy, no point in regretting what is done. I have had my excesses too and I feel terrible the day after but get back on the wagon and keep going for as long as I can.

Would be interested in that book Living Sober, may have a look on Amazon myself

As Molly Polly says it might be an idea to look at your old posts. I am trying to identify how I am feeling when I end up having a few too many. I think most of the time it's because I don't care anymore and want to disappear into the void.

But I know that the drink will not help me with this and it's better to deal with feelings head on rather than with avoiding them by diving into a few bottles.

Easier said than done though sometimes

de1amo

i gave up on my birthday back in january and am still feeling miles better and wealthier--i never realised how much i wasted on booze and how lethargic and 'under the weather' it made me feel--you know your worth it!! as the ad people are want to remind us-its your life and liver and you only get one of each of those!!

yellowmonkey

Congrats MP

Miss P. Put last night behind you and look ahead. There is nothing you can do about what has passed only what is to come

I have had 20 cans in the last 2 nights so its time to take control again. Will not be buying any beer for the house ( have said that before ) . My OH said to me last night "Why do you have to drink beer indoors" Do you know what. I did not have an answer so today is year 0 again.(Groundhog Day).

Suffice to say I will be AF today

Have a good one

maman

Miss_Piggy wrote: »

I'm not going into great detail, but needless to say, all my yakking about moderation yesterday completely went out the window last night. Nearly two bottles of wine got downed and today I feel awful. Finally coming to the realisation that I probably need some sort of help. Not sure what. Can't get my head round things at the moment. Am going to order the "Living Sober" book as a start.

Sorry to be so down after MP's wonderful news.

Miss P
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Morning MissP, I'm with YM on this. It's what I do with 'dangerous' foods like crisps, just don't buy them in. These days I just work out how much wine I plan to drink in a week and when it's gone it's gone. This helps me just drink on my planned evenings. Perhaps for you though you need to prove to yourself that you can not drink at all. Is Piglet still on a high from his weekend break?

Hello de1amo, I was just thinking this morning how much better I feel having AF days (and moderate drinking on most of my non-AF days which is probably my bigger achievement). Putting moisturiser on, my face felt 'alive' and not dehydrated and numb like it used to be.

Miss_Piggy_2

Thank you all. You are all right, I need to NOT buy any in the first place, to know my triggers (I know what caused it yesterday...a visit to the in-laws - guess thats the anger part of HALT), to avoid those triggers and plough on.

Maman...Piglet still full of his holiday. He slept really well last night so guess we really wore him out over the last few days!:rotfl:

Miss P
xx

graemecarter

Miss_Piggy wrote: »

Morning all

Congratulations MP!!! Such exciting news!:j:j

I'm not going into great detail, but needless to say, all my yakking about moderation yesterday completely went out the window last night. Nearly two bottles of wine got downed and today I feel awful. Finally coming to the realisation that I probably need some sort of help. Not sure what. Can't get my head round things at the moment. Am going to order the "Living Sober" book as a start.

Sorry to be so down after MP's wonderful news.

Miss P
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Sorry to hear that. You sound so happy and positive when not drinking, and more selfless too. You talk more about Piglet, and it's delightful.

Not that I ever managed long periods without drink, but often when I was AF I felt great. After a few days (maybe even a week or two) without a drink, I would feel that I COULD drink again safely. Cue a drink or two. Sometimes I would have much more that day, but very often it was the next time I drank I would get drunk. And back to square one.
This cycle depressed me, as I would 'undo' all that good work on a whim of a beer. It made me feel weak and pathetic. It chipped away at how I felt and was damaging to my already fragile self esteem.

Eventually I reached out for help. Knowing I am alcoholic, and that's why I did what I did was (and is) a great relief. I know I am not weak or pathetic. I have an illness that manifests itself in me not being able to control alcohol.
I cannot drink safely.
I know people in recovery who only used to drink a few times a year. But they are undoubtedly alcoholic. Not so much the way they drank but the way they felt.
Other people help me and I help other people. I couldn't stop drinking by myself. Books and internet forums were helpful but not enough for me. They now supplement my recovery as opposed to being at the core of it.

Please take action Miss P and reach out and get some help - why do it alone when you don't have to? People loved me when I was unable to love myself. They can do the same with you. Good luck