The giving up/cutting down alcohol thread part VI

fermi

Old thread now closed, with a redirect that hopefully people can't miss.

jo1972

Thank you Fermi





Haha Lurks!!! :rotfl: :rotfl:.......oh....:undecided ........:doh:........

paybacktime2008

Oh! I do love new and shiny

Miss_Piggy_2

Happy New Thread!!

Piglet driving me to distraction here...thank god no alcohol in the house!!!

Bismarck

Hi all...and new thread....

Hope everyone's OK and at peace with themselves

mookiepook

Hi everyone - ooh feels like New Year all over again! I know HB is away for the weekend so will report in tomorrow evening with latest scores on the doors for her scoring.

holliegarson

A badge no less - haven't had one of those since I was sixer of the Imps......(Brownies in case anyone was wondering!)

Wishing everyone a peaceful evening - won't be AF for me tonight as hubby and I having a glass of wine together - but I will not - repeats to self under breath - let it get out of control.

Jo - I am jealous of jim jams - my kids have had me up since the crack of dawn - wish I was still in mine - still not to worry - will put them back on soon as I'm so tired!

I x

budget_babe

Hi Guys,

Don't know where to start really?

Well I shall start from yesterday.

I got back from my volunteering and later logged on to read Jo's very sad post. I was so tearful when I read it and so frustrated, I went to bed thinking of Jo and I woke up thinking of her.

Now I shall go back a few steps. Whilst at the centre I am volunteering at, one lady was giving in her notice. I asked what job she was leaving for and it was to be a drugs, alcohol and gambling addiction counsellor. This lead to a conversation re: addictions and how easy it is for individuals to become addicted for a variety of reasons.

Alcohol appeared to be one of the easiest as people use it thinking it is helping them to relax and to ease stress. As we all know this is just a mask, and our problems, anxieties remain and ultimately are worse due to drinking alcohol.

It is one of the easiest as it is so readily available, it is there when we go to the supermarket or at the local shop just around the corner. We pass huge signs offering special offers that are too good too miss. We come home and there is an advert on the tv. We put on our favorite programme and we see everyone drinking. It is the norm.

So easily we succumb to as PBT said: "THE LEGAL DRUG THAT IS ALCOHOL"

And this is what we MUST REMEMBER, that it is a drug! A drug which starts off promising us that we will feel so much better by drinking it,that we will have more confidence, be funnier, be happier, be less stressed and perhaps people will like us more? By drinking this drug all our problems will magically dissappear.

The awful realisation is as we know so very different, we become more unhappier, we spend money that perhaps we are unable to afford. We become more selfish as we need our time to have this wonderful drink. We become resentful if we are not able to have "our time". And for so many it takes our strength and it ultimately takes control of us.

To gain back our control takes alot of courage and strength. It is finding the pathway and the right direction that we need help with. For many we are able to do this by adopting a greater resolve. For others it is accessing further help with more experienced people/groups and taking that help and holding it close to our hearts with the belief that we can and will beat this control.

So really it is to say to anyone, either currently posting or maybe lurking to look at yourself honestly, and to realise the extent of your problem and then to take the first steps to getting your life back to where you want it to be.

We all need to have contentment and most importantly a feeling of peace.

Jo Angel you have been especially on my mind as I have typed this, I am willing you to get the help that you need, please always keep trying, never give up and one day you will get to where you want to be. :A Fay hunny please get the help that you need also, be honest with yourself and have the courage and hold the resolve that you are going to beat this addiction. :A DB hunny hugs and I so feel for you and the dreadful worrying night you have had. Things work out in the end, just hold the belief that everything will be ok. :A All of you keep the faith. (()) xxxxxxxxxx

I don't know why but an Oasis line has just popped into my head:

Slip inside the eye of your mind
Don't you know you might find
A better place to play
You said that you'd never been
But all the things that you've seen
Will slowly fade away

And remember "Dont Look Back In Anger" as Graeme has previously said to me: look back at the past, but don't stare too long. We need to learn from our past and then we have to be strong and move on. (Graeme matey you are my beacon of light, whenever I am down or feeling lost, I look for your light and I always get the answer I need) :A (Much love to you) xxx


Sorry think I may have just gone on a bit
Its only because I care and I am such an emotional person.
But thats me, warts and all.

God Bless to every single one of you.
Budgie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx


P.s just to lighten things: Jo I had to of course do my own Budgie esq post

Pippilongstocking

Budgie you are truely awesome my lovlie ((()))

I dug out your book and some of the things you sent last year and am reminding myself of the focus that can be had - and I love that you're an emotional person - xxxxx

Jo - meant to say bodybalance is a yoga/pilates/taichi type thing that I use to go to 3X a week - I'm not very fit and don't really *do* exercise besides walking or being on my bike, but I do like to be very bendy (?) (supple I guess) - I was beginning to think about learning to be a yoga instructor when I was going so often - but didn't really persue it. For 15 minutes of each of these classes I get to do a meditation bit - when absolutely nothing invades your head - I love the peace of it - its the only time I get a switched off noggin.

Budgie I think you're so amazing to be so thoughtful - xx

jo1972

budget_babe wrote: »

Sorry think I may have just gone on a bit
Its only because I care and I am such an emotional person.
But thats me, warts and all.

And this is what we love about you Budgie :A thank you for your lovely message and thank you for the lovely texts keeping me on the straight and narrow.

You didn't tell us how the volunteering went?

fayjmck wrote: »

I do like to be very bendy

Oh me too Fay, me too


Just totally stuffed my face with eggs, bacon, beans, chips and bread n butter and a big mug of coffee. I've not even got dressed today (1st time in my life I think!!) so managed to notch up my first NSD of the year :j DD1 came back from work and put her PJs straight on then decided to go to the shop wearing them *rolleyes* doubt I'd look so good

Anyway, off to the kitchen to dig out some afties for the kids, then getting them in bed and back on here for a read cos OH IS OUT TONIGHT :D:D :beer: (fizzy pop of course )