Rights at inheritance

lincsdan86

floss2 wrote: »

I don't think it is a matter of getting the £xxx, it seems to me to be a case of establishing exactly what was paid & where it has since gone - more a matter of tidying up the accounting process.

This is exactly it, little insight i work in accounts, so my head is geared to making sure all things balance and I can't settle myself until I can clearly see all the ins and outs and making sure they all balance, maybe it is a little ocd or whatever that is just how it is in my head

NAR - would I not have to take into consideration the estimate £20k the attic cost? I mean the windows and the roof are repairs as they replace what is already there but the attic thats a major improvement..?

ceebeeby - no it is not a lot of money to some people but to other it is a lot, and taking out the fact that it is family involved if it was a third person what view would you take then?

JodyBPM

So 10 years ago they invested £2.5K in a house. The house you grew up in, presumably. The house that you didn't pay percentage of the mortgage on, the house that you didn't pay the bills for. But you had the benefit of living in. The house that was no doubt bought to give you and your siblings a better standard of living. And you now want to chase them for that money, right? Along with an extra £5K because their house went up in value.

I hope you get your £7K along with a bill for every single school dinner, school trip, day out, item of clothing etc etc that they bought you in your life.

This is so wrong on so many levels. Have you no respect for your parents what so ever, and no gratitude for all that they've done for you?

Legally, you might have a case. Morally your behaviour is dispicable IMO.

lincsdan86

JodyBPM wrote: »

So 10 years ago they invested £2.5K in a house. The house you grew up in, presumably. The house that you didn't pay percentage of the mortgage on, the house that you didn't pay the bills for. But you had the benefit of living in. The house that was no doubt bought to give you and your siblings a better standard of living. And you now want to chase them for that money, right? Along with an extra £5K because their house went up in value.

I hope you get your £7K along with a bill for every single school dinner, school trip, day out, item of clothing etc etc that they bought you in your life.

This is so wrong on so many levels. Have you no respect for your parents what so ever, and no gratitude for all that they've done for you?

Legally, you might have a case. Morally your behaviour is dispicable IMO.

whilst you are entitled to you opinion, by grandfather left that money for me and my siblings, if there wasnt that money there would it be right for my parents to act differently, ie not look after the children that they brought into the world? is that the case that you making that becuase there was this money that could be used for my educational needs etc that they have the right to use it for stuff they would otherwise have to pay for?

JodyBPM

That's not my point. My point is that its £2.5K. Its a drop in the ocean to all that they have done for you over the years. And almost certainly they will have used it to improve the quality of life for you and your siblings. Can you not be grateful enough for all that they have done for you to just drop this? You are going to tear your family apart for this, is it worth it? And in the long run, I'd imagine that you will financially loose out as a result. I'd certainly cut one of my children out of my will if they showed me this level of disrespect and ingratitide.

Incidentally I'm not saying that your parents were right to take the money. But I know that at any point in my life, if I had £2.5k which I could give to my parents to improve my family's quality of life I would do it. Willingly, and with no strings attached. There is nothing that I could do that would come close to repaying my parents even one fraction of what they deserve for looking after me and bringing me up.

lincsdan86

JodyBPM wrote: »

That's not my point. My point is that its £2.5K. Its a drop in the ocean to all that they have done for you over the years. And almost certainly they will have used it to improve the quality of life for you and your siblings. Can you not be grateful enough for all that they have done for you to just drop this? You are going to tear your family apart for this, is it worth it? And in the long run, I'd imagine that you will financially loose out as a result. I'd certainly cut one of my children out of my will if they showed me this level of disrespect and ingratitide.

okay if you asked alot of people on here if £2.5k cash is a drop in the ocean im sure i'd get a lot of replies to the contray.

would you cut your child out of your will if they asked for the money that was rightfully theirs in the first place as they can make better use of the "investment" by paying other things off?

I have my own son to consider, and personally I would never use money left for him, I would just puit it in the bank and leave it alone. my parents see it as an investment, at least that is the impresion they give.

lincsdan86

JodyBPM wrote: »

Incidentally I'm not saying that your parents were right to take the money. But I know that at any point in my life, if I had £2.5k which I could give to my parents to improve my family's quality of life I would do it. Willingly, and with no strings attached. There is nothing that I could do that would come close to repaying my parents even one fraction of what they deserve for looking after me and bringing me up.

I never had the choice to give it or not, it was taken, if i had the money to give i would give it but the simple fact is that i dont have £2.5k spare cash laying around doing nothing.

JodyBPM

£2.5 K isn't an insignificant sum. But its a drop in the ocean compared to what your parents have done for you.

lincsdan86

JodyBPM wrote: »

£2.5 K isn't an insignificant sum. But its a drop in the ocean compared to what your parents have done for you.

how do you know what my parents have done for me? just out of interest?

have they not done what any other parent would, look after the children that they choose to have?

Mojisola

I think if the parents had been upfront all the time about the money and had said that the money was being used to make life easier while the OP was a child - while not legally right, it would be understandable - the OP probably wouldn't mind. It's the way the parents seem to have been underhand in dealing with the inheritance that rankles. It also suggests that they feel guilty about it.

JodyBPM

Well, you clearly made it to adulthood, healthy and well adjusted enough to form a relationship and have a child. You are clearly educated and literate, with a decent career. They were prepared to look after your child for you.

Sadly, many parents don't manage to do as much as that for their children

No parents are perfect, I'm sure you'll make a few mistakes along the way bringing up your son. But it doesn't exactly sound like your parents did too badly. Can you not be grateful for that and overlook the odd mistake along the way?