Rights at inheritance

lincsdan86

*Louise* wrote: »

He wants to talk...texting is a very difficult way to communicate.

I think you should speak to him one to one tbh. It has to be done sooner or later. You don't have to go into it all, even if you stick to your previous reason.

Would be interesting if there is no record of the paperwork anymore....

I no for certain the solicitor has the paperwork for the estate accounts but does not have anything for the trust period, does anyone no if you have to do accounts for the trust period?

Mrs_Imp

There seems to be a lot of emphasis on lincsdan not upsetting family and causing a rift. So far, all he's done is ask a few pertinent questions of his family - no shouting or accusations (yet)

The way I see it, either parents have done nothing wrong and it can all be explained over a cuppa to everyone's satisfaction and they can move on. OR something untoward has gone on, in which case the rift was not caused by lincsdan but by his parents, and they have been papering over the cracks trying not to let it show and hoping he'll never notice.

*Louise*

Yes, but if they 'are' guilty of anything untoward they may cause a rift too soon and he will never get his questions answered, which would defeat the purpose of all of this.

lincsdan86

Mrs_Imp wrote: »

There seems to be a lot of emphasis on lincsdan not upsetting family and causing a rift. So far, all he's done is ask a few pertinent questions of his family - no shouting or accusations (yet)

The way I see it, either parents have done nothing wrong and it can all be explained over a cuppa to everyone's satisfaction and they can move on. OR something untoward has gone on, in which case the rift was not caused by lincsdan but by his parents, and they have been papering over the cracks trying not to let it show and hoping he'll never notice.

I like to no the whole situation before I go in all guns blazing to save both time and embarrasment later :-)

I am "looking" forward to speaking to the solicitor on monday to find out as a beneficiary what paperwork I am actually entitled to see and therein after can the paperwork be produced.

lincsdan86

just brough my little brother from the gym and my mother was home and asked why i wanted to see a copy of the accounts, i said cos i needed something to work on for work but she firstly denied that any existed, then said that the solicitor done it all and last said it was nothing to do with me what was in the accounts. does this seem odd to anyone else? oh and also said that I wasnt getting anymore money before saying anything else.
At least this gives me a way of approaching the probate solicitor now. small mercys an all :-) happy weekend all

Mojisola

It sounds very dodgy to me - as if she really knew this day would come at some point but has been kidding herself that you'd never get round to asking about the will.

lincsdan86

Mojisola wrote: »

It sounds very dodgy to me - as if she really knew this day would come at some point but has been kidding herself that you'd never get round to asking about the will.

she did seem very cagey and not her normal self about the whole thing not wanting me to get hold of the information by saying anything that she cud.

but unfortunately I am very stubborn and dont normally take the first answer, (just ask the misses, she hates it) lol. Got my free appointment with solicitor tomorrow afternoon just got to find all the information to take with me.

*Louise*

^^Good luck, let us know how you get on....

Savvy_Sue

lincsdan86 wrote: »

I have not shown my "hand" no just yet anyway and things have never been the same since we feel out over my little boy who used to go there during the day and we used to pay for mum to have him (although she was at home anyway) anyway off story then by partners mum and friend said they have him but didnt want anything for doing it as they were at home during the day anyway. So to be "fair" I asked if mum still wanted to have him but without being paid but us still supplying everything like we did anyway but she went funny so he now goes to his other grandmothers who by all accounts is worse off them my mother but flat refuses to take any money.

That probably sounds very off but £100 a week is alot of money to us.

Well, while I agree that you're not making unreasonable requests, I'm afraid this made me go :eek:

If a grandmother is "at home anyway", does that mean she should automatically care for a grandchild? Paid or unpaid, that makes it sound as if you were taking her for granted.

And frankly, I'm not surprised she 'went funny' when you asked if she'd like to carry on the hard work involved in caring for her grandson, without payment.

It's great that t'other granny is willing to do this for free, but NEVER underestimate how hard it is caring for a child, and I really hope that t'other granny remains fit, healthy and sufficiently full of energy so that you don't have to go cap in hand back to your mother, should you still be on speaking terms at all ...

Greener_Grass

As far as I'm aware it's illegal to pay someone to watch your child who is not ofsted registered? (i'm training to be a childminder)

Good luck with your hunt for information, I would be the same as you are now and would want what is rightfully mine