Family issues!!

thorsoak

elainew wrote: »

Its only 4 hours on the train to scotland so not exactly the other side of the world. Surely she could spend a weekend with you and her new nephew/neice

Why should she? OP has already made it clear that she doesn't like her, and her brother doesn't seem very keen - the only reason I can see for wanting her to call is to show off their new baby!

Frankly, I do not understand this sort of behaviour at all - my family is scattered over the UK and rest of the world - we see each other when we can - if we can - we are always delighted if anyone manages to see us - as they are us. Life is too short to get tied up in "obligation visits"!

shell_girl

Seems to me that this is all about her fulfilling her obligations... I think the OP has stated somewhere that the sister is visiting because her mum will have told her to. Perhaps the sister is looking forward to the visit as much as the OP? :rolleyes:

As another poster said- unless it's your own baby then to the majority of people they're not that interesting:o

She's doing pretty much everything you said you wanted- visiting the baby, coming to Scotland- just not on the day that you want her to... bit of compromise needed I think on your part OP.

From her point of view- she has to travel up to spend a night with you- past issues mean that it might not be the closest of relationships. She may well begrudge 'wasting' a weekend night to do that? (Sorry that sounds harsher than I mean it to)

Grin and bear it- it'll all be over in 24 hours anyway.

Ivrytwr3

she's flying from the USA for a break, i'm sure the last thing she needs is another flight to Scotland.

Why don't you fly to London then ALL the family can be together.

Mely

fsdss wrote: »

sorry if i come across a bit harse, but at least she made plans to visit - might not be to your liking but i dont think its unreasonable at all, considering that she is coming from america, and staying in london. its a long old journey to scotland especially considering the recent weather.

its her choice of how she spends her holiday.

I completely agree with the above post.
Also she can still see the baby, it doesnt really matter if its asleep when she visits.

patchwork_cat

Just a slightly aside - you say that she doesn't like your OH, yet she cried on the phone at him laughing at her last visit when she was sick. Strikes me she does like him and feels that he doesn't like her and is hurt at treatment last visit. Just out of interest is she younger than him.

With hindsight when you knew she was coming over perhaps your OH should have said,'ohh when will you come and stay with us?'

Abbafan1972

*Louise* wrote: »

At least she wants to visit, which is something to build on. She is making the effort to travel a long way, even if it's just for one evening.

My hubby's brother lives 15 mins away and our daughter was a year old before he bothered to see her

My inlaws live 1/2 mile down the road and never visit us. DH brother lives local and couldn't give a toss about us or the kids.

kendalls_cave

It feels to me that the three of you don't get on, so why make a visit longer than it needs to be? She may have been told to come, but she is still showing willing.
My sister and I don't get on, and when we do meet up (about once a year and I always do the 4 hour journey each way) I pureposfully keep the visit short so we don't end up arguing/feeling uncomfortable.