OS Daily Thread Sunday 17th January

Bitsy_Beans

Hi there! This is the Daily Thread for Sunday 17th January. It is an 'Over the garden fence' type thread where we chat about everything Old Style and maybe a little bit more. It’s a great, inspiring and motivating thread we start each day to discuss what Old Style things we’re going to do today or what we’ve achieved already. Everyone’s welcome, please do come in, put your feet up (although check the fence hasn’t just been painted first!) and join us for an Old Style natter. The more the merrier!
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Haven't been on here early enough to start this for ages.
Feel down today. Had yet another horrendous night with the kids. DD is now waking between 4-5am and screams the place down unless she's cuddled. DS woke because he'd wet the bed and then took ages to go off. He woke then again at 5.30 whinging and wanting his daddy :rolleyes: So quite frankly I'd had enough, stuck him in our bed with his precious father and have come down here. Sorry not in the right frame of mind this morning. Feel rejected by my kids, all they want is their dad. !!!!!! I do everything for these kids and it feels like I get sod all in return. Nothing we seem to be doing is helping the sleeping issues and with DD now starting it's all just getting worse. Have sat and cried this morning as I so tired and just can't see anything getting any better

OS wise I might try and make my sausage rolls. I forgot to take the chicken out of the freezer so we won't be having that for tea :rolleyes: Might do fish instead. There is a mountain of ironing to get through and a little bit of washing. Or I might just sod off for the day and leave them all to get on with it.

Hugs to those that need them. Hope you all have a good Sunday OS or not.

juliejim

Hugs Bitsy - it's awful when they won't sleep isn't it. How old are they? Try and take some time out - won't OH take them out for a couple of hours so you can go back to bed? Or lock yourself in the bathroom if that isn't an option and have a long soak in the bath.

Hope you feel better soon

Jue

Bitsy_Beans

juliejim wrote: »

Hugs Bitsy - it's awful when they won't sleep isn't it. How old are they? Try and take some time out - won't OH take them out for a couple of hours so you can go back to bed? Or lock yourself in the bathroom if that isn't an option and have a long soak in the bath.

Hope you feel better soon

Jue

Sadly Jue it's every night at the moment and I got a lie in yesterday for all the good it did H does his best but he seems to cope with the lack of sleep better than me Just feeling sorry for myself after having a little blub. Normal service will resume shortly - just needed to vent since there was no one else to talk to at this time of the day.
Oh and kids are 4 and 18 months old.

nmlc

Morning all

Bitsy - Hugs to you, it's very draining when they won't sleep and then you do everything for them and they just seem to want your other half. Have you spoken to your OH about how you feel? Maybe he just doesn't realise how bad it is for you as he get's out to work each day. If you're not able to speak to him if you want to message me I will be happy to pm you back with messages of support. Or failing that do you have a close friend that you can confide in or just have a coffee and a chat or someone that will sit with the kids so you can get a soak in the bath or a sleep? Hope this doesn't sound condescending as it's not meant to just a few ideas that may save your sanity!

Had a nice day yesterday took my niece shopping and she picked what she wanted for her birthday, she seemed very pleased with her purchases. Managed to buy myself another top the same as the one my parents bought me for my birthday but in another colour.

I made HM paninis and chips or salad for dinner last night, they went down well, another recipe to add to the collection. Have a joint of topside for later, but OH has some jobs to do so will do a full english for brekkie and then roast beef for 4-5pm. Will be trying to get the rest of the papers shredded and will need to clear a space in a kitchen cupboard for the new grill to go, have somewhere in mind so hopefully that shouldn't be a problem.

Reasonably busy week, OH has a meeting on Tuesday night so easy dinner that night as I already have 2 portions of lasagne in the freezer for myself and DS1 and DS2 with have jacket potato with fish fingers and peas. Tomorrow night we have our fav pasta and smoked sausage dish.

Need to get off here now otherwise I'll be on here all day!

Keep safe and well everyone, hugs to those that need them.
nmlc

Bitsy_Beans

Thanks nmlc. I have told H how I feel. He sleeps through some of the waking but not all of it. It's not really his fault the kids are all "daddy daddy" i think some of it is just circumstance. He comes home from work and has a short time (especially with DD) so he gets to sit and play with them whereas my daily routine is juggling the cleaning, cooking and looking after the kids. Since I am the one at home the most it tends to be me saying "no" - H is good cop I am bad cop :rotfl:

My mum is close enough to help out (which she does) but I don't like to keep taking advantage plus I can't always sleep in the day (despite being dead beat) - I tend to lie there thinking about all the other things I should be doing

Sorry for moaning. I swore I wouldn't keep whinging about my lack of sleep (I mean NPM has it probably harder than me and yet she doesn't spend all her time on the Daily complaining).

nmlc

Bitsy Beans

If you need to pm me you know where I am, keep your chin up!

Regards
nmlc

jc2703

Morning all

Bitsy I feel your pain! our DD is 3 gone October and she's probably only actually slept threw the night about 5 times although she is much better lately (I am aware that I have probably just cursed myself...!) When she was very young it was just horrendous and I think even up to very recently it was still really bad but I've just got used to it. But I have on several occasions cried with sheer exhaustion! Because I work (DH is a SAHD) and it was me who only heard her or could settle her it was easier to put her in with me and DH slept on the sofa and then her bed. She has been much much better since she went in her own bed - once she was old enough to express what was wrong she regularly complained that her back was sore and once she was out of the cot and onto a proper matteress she slept much better. She is a morning person though and if we get to 6am its a good night!

No-one understands how completely soul destroying sleep deprevation is unless they have truly experienced it (and I'm not talking a couple of night with broken sleep!) I mean month upon month upon month. I found at times feeling very very depressed but it was just sheer exhaustion. I can't offer any solutions - and it will end someday I just wanted you to know you are far from alone.

Anyhoooo....I love my kitchen still here...although I did go to bed! Got the pork in the slow cooker for dinner tonight and the WM and TD are both on (TD has DS1's uniform in that he washed last night for work this morning:rolleyes:) Will probably need to spend all day catching up on the washing as there's a fair bit with the WM being out of action all week.

I have to take DS1 to work for 9, take eldest S-D back to her mums which is a 30 mile round trip and then pick DS1 up from work at 5 - I really wanted a day to chill out and was planning on letting DS1 take the car but forgot about getting missy home:rolleyes:

I need to make some biscuits of some sort today, or a fruit bread, prep the veg for dinner and i'll probably make scrambled egg on toast for brunch again as it seemed to go down well yesterday and I have loads of eggs!!

Ok need more coffee - have a good day all

J x

stressedoutmumof1

Morning everyone

Bitsy - (((((hugs))))) to you, hope you get some sleep soon, and you may not think it now, but it will get better

DD has hockey practice this morning, so an early brekkie of bacon rolls, then some [STRIKE]shouting[/STRIKE] positive advice from the side of the pitch

Masses of washing to do today, and then consequently ironing. Whole house needs a tidy, dust and hoover, need to fit in some college work too.

B: Bacon rolls
L: HM Soup and bread
HM Pasties, wedges and beans

Hope everyone has lovely OS days xx

Sunnyday

Morning peeps :wave:

good bit warmer this morning but it does seem very dark without all the snow, i was surprised to see a bit of ice on the windscreen earlier but it was only thin so it didn`t take long to scrape off.

W*rking all day today BOO! can`t wait until Friday when i actually get a weekend off, i`m very jealous of all the peeps who get to stay at home at the weekend, its been years since i have been able to do that, shift work does have its advantages though as i rarely get stuck in rush hour traffic.

Little black cat has gone out this morning for the first time in about a month, she hates the snow so now its mostly gone she was out like a shot and wouldn`t come back in before i left the house. i don`t blame her though i`d be stir crazy after a month. DH is off today so he can let her back in when he wakes up.

OS wise i`ve sorted out the washing and put another load on ready to hang up when i get home and emptied the dw, the breadmaker had finished so i emptied that too and i got some HM beef stew out of the freezer so a nice easy tea tonight

Bitsy - Hope that things sort themselves out for you, i can really sympathise as i have to try and cope on very little sleep sometimes and it is the most draining thing. ((((HUGS))))


Redruby - Sorry to hear that your new home was in such a dreadful state, our present house was awful when we moved in and it took a long time for me to feel the slightest bit comfortable, the house before was spotless when we moved in. As time goes by it will feel better. Nice to see you back!

Right i`m off to read the rest of yesterdays thread before it gets busy.

Have a good day everyone.

SD

Essex-girl_2

Morning All

(((Bitsy))) my kids are much older 14 & 10 but DD was a nightmare sleeper, luckily I had a good health visitor and she helped a lot.

Redruby - this house was disgusting when we moved in, it amazed me when the neighbours told me that the previous owners were really stuck up. Just shows you don't know what goes on behind closed doors.

Washing is the in wm, lamb from M&S in the slow cooker. OH and I are going to have a big blitz of the house this morning and chill or do something nice this afternoon. Ironing is still under control :j Might be able to do some more scrapbooking this afternoon. Have got quite a lot of stuff but when you start you realise about all the extra bits you need :rolleyes:

Thats it for now, have a great Sunday.x

[Deleted User]

Good Morning all,
bitsybeans you poor lass you sound really cheesed offf with life at the moment. Kids being kids will always smile and gravitate to their Daddies because they are very intelligent little animals and know even at an early age how to 'work' their parents.
My two DDs did, and they could wind him around their little fingers I was always 'bad cop' until they hit their teens, then it was 'Mum, Dad won't let me wear this/go out with this lad /stay over at my friends house' ect and I was suddenly flavour of the day.I was 13 years younger than my husband and a bit more tolerant and trusting.:rotfl:
Until he went off to Africa for three years to work on contract, then things swung the other way again .He would be home for two weeks every three months, so when he was home it was like Santa was living in our house,they could get away with anything, but when he was away I was once more the 'wicked witch of the west' as they had to be in at 10.00 p.m. at weekends, and no nights out during the week, and I had to know where they were at every moment of the day.My arguement was that if anything happened to them, his first reaction would be 'where was your Mum, and why did she let you do that/go there'
Believe me once your children hit their teens you will have a hard job getting them out of bed.When they are little life is so exciting they don't want to waste a minute sleeping when they could be getting up to mischief or playing. I had two years and three weeks between my two children, and the second one Tess, could scream for England.I guess the first two years of her life she had the healthiest pair of lungs in London.
How I never chucked her out for the dustman I will never know .I did't have a Mum I could call on then either,but what I did have was a fabulous neighbour who was wonderful and could calm my little Tess down like no one else I have ever known. My eldest wasn't too much of a problem although she also never slept a lot, but she would amuse herself which helped.But the youngest was the devil incarnate.
If you have Meet -a-Mum group near to you do try to go along and join, ask your health worker or midwife they will know if there is one close to you. Its a self-help group with branches all over the country, which is there to help young Mums.
My DD used to run one locally before she went back to work.You meet other Mums who are going through the same sorts of problems as you are experiencing, and all the mums find it helpful to meet up once a week and discuss all sorts of things.Some of the Mums where I live have Mums but they live too far away to visit often. I live in a largly commuter area to London in the Medway.Their OH's are off to work for long hours and Mums do get a bit isolated at times if they don't have a family network close by to lend a hand .
I am sure your Mum would love to help you out, as she once went through exactly what you are having now. Most Mums have had crying babies, and the terrible twos are not a myth.Your 4 year old will change dramatically when he goes to school as at he moment he has too much energy and it needs syphoning off. The 18 month is just feeling her feet, and until she talks properly can only express herself by yelling. I know you must feel at the end of your tether but it will pass and this time next year they will be totally different children to how they are now honestly.
anyway good luck and vent away as much as you like thats what we are all here for and sometimes it does help just to have somewhere that you can relieve yourself by having a moan.
Well today I am going to have a busy day.I am going to shortly attack my bathroom and give it a good deep clean and bring the sparkle back to it a bit its looking a bit jaded and sad, so a lot of the clutter is going. I am going for a more minimal look(less dust):rotfl:Then I must have a quick whizz over to the shops to get some milk and eggs and a few veggies.My pal June is coming tomorrow for a couple of days so I will get a few goodies as well I think. I might knock up some sausge rolls this afternoon as I know I have some sausage meat and puff pastry in the freezer.Then at 4.00 I'm off to my Tess's house to see the boys and help with their homework, and I have dinner there tonight. Back home in time to put my feet up and watch 'Candleford' nice relaxing t.v.for a Sunday night
Hope everyone has a good day and are warm and well wrapped up if they go out.Snow has virtually gone, but there is still a chilly wind blowing.
Take care everyone
JackieO xx