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DX2

It is interesting to see those who proclaim to be better than some resort the way they have!
I have reported this thread to abuse, enough is enough!

picassopete

krisskross wrote: »

lol. I have read about many parents whose children have done terrible things not just a bit of name calling and insisted that their children wouldn't do x, y or z even when they have been shown proof.

Still if it makes you feel better to call me names (which your children wouldn't do because you set them such a wonderful example) then feel free to do so.

i have spent lots of time with my children and know them very well as they do me. They know only to well what would happen if they were found behaving in such a manner. I am not, as i am sure Sandy71 is the same, one of those parents that think their children are angels they are certainly not. but at every turn on this thread you ASSUME things and it has got you on the wrong side of many people. you are a very very rude lady (and i use the word lightly)

krisskross

sandy71 wrote: »

You really are a nasty old woman aren't you, I really hope you don't have kids. My children are inquiuisitive about disability but never laugh or call people names. As I said before don't judge everyone by your own standards.
Why should we have to get used to it, wht can't the people who are abusive get used to it.

We do have children. 4 of them but obviously adults now.

No 1 works in the Probation Service helping priority and prolific offenders. Mostly drug addicts

No 2 is a Primary School Head who is so good at her job she has been 'headhunted' by other LAs

No 3 is a bank manager for a High Street bank

No 4 is a PA to a director in local government.

I suggest we have produced as well rounded useful members of society as anyone. None of them ever been in trouble with the police. Solid mortgage paying citizens.

I know you will say they have all 4 succeeded in spite of their parents but you know that wouldn't be true don't you?

picassopete

DX2 wrote: »

It is interesting to see those who proclaim to be better than some resort the way they have!
I have reported this thread to abuse, enough is enough!

i haven't proclaimed to be better, my children are much better people than i am and much more tolerant, but i will not have anyone assuming my children act in the same way as some out there. what right does anyone have to say my children behave in that was " without a doubt" as it was put. that is wrong she doesn't know me or my family and has no right to make such assumptions.

krisskross

picassopete wrote: »

i haven't proclaimed to be better, my children are much better people than i am and much more tolerant, but i will not have anyone assuming my children act in the same way as some out there. what right does anyone have to say my children behave in that was " without a doubt" as it was put. that is wrong she doesn't know me or my family and has no right to make such assumptions.

You cannot know every little thing about your childrens' lives once they go to school or are otherwise out of your immediate jurisdiction.

why do you think the answer to 'what have you been doing today?' is often 'nothing.

It is because that is their other life, the school one that you don't influence (well they don't think you do). I have seen children upset when their teacher has told mum something that they feel is part of school life not home life. Many children keep the 2 compartmentalised.

krisskross

picassopete wrote: »

. you are a very very rude lady (and i use the word lightly)

I don't think I am the one hurling the rude, bitter, twisted accusations around.

But then it always happens that those who cannot construct a coherent, sensible comment to a discussion end up throwing insults instead.

seven-day-weekend

I must agree with krisskross here and say that however we have brought our children up, they all have 'secret' parts of their lives that we know nothing about (not necessarily bad, just secret). I certainly did. Why should your children be any different?

I didn't know for the whole of my son's junior school years that he was being bullied as he never said a word. When I found out and asked why, he said he had wanted to deal with it on his own.

And (I'm ashamed to say) I have called a disabled person names when I was young. I did know it was wrong. I was just following the crowd and it wasn't until I got older and more mature that I had enough confidence not to follow the crowd.

We don't know everything our children do.

picassopete

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

I must agree with krisskross here and say that however we have brought our children up, they all have 'secret' parts of their lives that we know nothing about (not necessarily bad, just secret). I certainly did. Why should your children be any different?

I didn't know for the whole of my son's junior school years that he was being bullied as he never said a word. When I found out and asked why, he said he had wanted to deal with it on his own.

And (I'm ashamed to say) I have called a disabled person names when I was young. I did know it was wrong. I was just following the crowd and it wasn't until I got older and more mature that I had enough confidence not to follow the crowd.

We don't know everything our children do.

I couldn't agree more when they are out of the door what parent knows, but i think it helps that they have been brought up with a disabled (and overweight ) parent so they just know you do not name call or the such like just because someone is different. of this i would stake my life.
Of course i have been told by teachers when they have been naughty at school and they get twice the telling off when they get home. But it has NEVER been for name calling or being rude to others. in fact my son who is now 14 has a saturday job working in a respite care centre for children which are physically and mentally disabled. and yes i am VERY proud

DX2

summerof0763 wrote: »

WELL WELL WELL,had a very interesting day reading up on various posts tut tut ib oooh nice one kk,so your dh claimed ib while you pour scorn on anyone who claims any benefits or who dares to disagree with you.
have just caught up on the rest of this thread and really do need to agree with a good few others,you really cannot see past the end of your nose can you.oops best not stressing you out anymore as the bitter twisted woman may need more FRIGHTS LOL,god sakes woman give it a rest,your never off here,poor hubby must be starved and well neglected by now,i really pity him putting up with you,and thank the good lord your not my mother:j

That is bang out of order!

krisskross

summerof0763 wrote: »

WELL WELL WELL,had a very interesting day reading up on various posts tut tut ib oooh nice one kk,so your dh claimed ib while you pour scorn on anyone who claims any benefits or who dares to disagree with you.
have just caught up on the rest of this thread and really do need to agree with a good few others,you really cannot see past the end of your nose can you.oops best not stressing you out anymore as the bitter twisted woman may need more FRIGHTS LOL,god sakes woman give it a rest,your never off here,poor hubby must be starved and well neglected by now,i really pity him putting up with you,and thank the good lord your not my mother:j

I pour scorn on no one. Yes my husband claimed CONTRIBUTION based IB when he had his 3 heart attacks and bypass surgery. He was 60 years old and had been working since leaving school at 15. Plus National Service. Never unemployed, never previously sick. Nothing else was claimed as I was working full time to pay the mortgage etc.

To be honest I would be ashamed to be the parent of such a semi literate spiteful person as you.

I assume the FRIGHTS you mention refer to my post on another board saying I have post traumatic stress disorder, resulting in panic attacks and anxiety. Yes I had to take early retirement even after anti depressant treatment and counselling.

Feel free to trawl through all my previous posts to see if you can find anything else.

Now who is being nasty, rude etc. Still you sound very young and immature so there is possibly still hope for you when you grow up.