Pregnant at 45 with coil fitted - help

Firefly

I can count four friends that have become pregnant at various ages with a coil in place. One Mirena and three 'normal' copper coils.

I've waited for email responses to confirm but three had the coil left in place and one had it removed. All have happy healthy children.

I really hope all this works out for you. My mum was 42 when I was born; I hated her being so old when all my peers had young mums. Things seem to be very different now with many parents starting families in their mid 30's and having a baby in early 20's is not so common.

Good luck.

seven-day-weekend

I thought I was pregnant at 53 (didn't start menopause until I was 54).

I had very mixed feelings about it. The main one was horror. But after we'd got over that, (and after I'd discovered I was not pregnant), my husband and I searched our options and decided that we would have continued the pregnancy. Yes, there would have been loads of difficulties (not least that we wanted to take early retirement and move to Spain) and our lives would have changed completely. Our son was 23.

Anyway, having said that, the decision must belong to you and your husband and I wish you well in your decision.

I would also like to say that my parents were in their forties. My two sisters were 16 and 19. In fact, my elder sister got married the year I was born.

It never bothered me in the slightest, I like having 'three mums' and having my sister's boyfriend come to meet me from school.

I am now almost 60, I had my mum until 2001 (she was nearly 94 when she died) and still have one of my sisters, she is 76.

So not altogether a disaster being a child of older parents.

angel_delight

I don't want to be accused of scaremongering, I rarely post but the o.p's thread caught my eye and I couldn't ignore it- I wouldn't of forgiven myself otherwise so before anyone jumps on me please think about that.

This is an old reply of mine to a seperate thread but briefly tells you of what happened to me last year when I had the mirena coil in and got pregnant.
http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showpost.html?p=23424749&postcount=17

To this day I often struggle with what all the emotions of the aftermath and "what if's?" but I was left with little choice because of the ever increasing danger/pain I was in as each week that went by. This was because of where the Mirena had dislodged to and how close it was to the foetus. Each situation is different though and sure there have been happy outcomes as stated already. I know it's hard but try to keep positive until your scan. Wishing you all the best.

Mely

angel_delight wrote: »

I don't want to be accused of scaremongering, I rarely post but the o.p's thread caught my eye and I couldn't ignore it- I wouldn't of forgiven myself otherwise so before anyone jumps on me please think about that.

This is an old reply of mine to a seperate thread but briefly tells you of what to me last year when I had the mirena coil in and got pregnant.
http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showpost.html?p=23424749&postcount=17

To this day I often struggle with what all the emotions of the aftermath and "what if's?" but I was left with little choice because of the ever increasing danger/pain I was in as each week that went by. This was because of where the Mirena had dislodged to and how close it was to the foetus. Each situation is different though and sure there have been happy outcomes as stated already. I know it's hard but try to keep positive until your scan. Wishing you all the best.

Very moving...thanks for taking the time to share your story with us....
M xxxx

tiamai_d

angel_delight wrote: »

I don't want to be accused of scaremongering, I rarely post but the o.p's thread caught my eye and I couldn't ignore it- I wouldn't of forgiven myself otherwise so before anyone jumps on me please think about that.

This is an old reply of mine to a seperate thread but briefly tells you of what happened to me last year when I had the mirena coil in and got pregnant.
http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showpost.html?p=23424749&postcount=17

To this day I often struggle with what all the emotions of the aftermath and "what if's?" but I was left with little choice because of the ever increasing danger/pain I was in as each week that went by. This was because of where the Mirena had dislodged to and how close it was to the foetus. Each situation is different though and sure there have been happy outcomes as stated already. I know it's hard but try to keep positive until your scan. Wishing you all the best.

The sheer number of stories I have came across of pregnancy with the minera is shocking. I know people fall pregnant using the pill etc, but coils are different. They are in the uterus where a baby develops meaning that if pregnancy does occur it is a lot more serious than if you were taking the pill. Luckily (haha) mine was not there, but then we still don't actually know if its came out or migrated elsewhere.

Amber_Sunshine

That is so lovely - what a wanted baby he must be. OP, I don't feel age should be an issue, it's how you feel about another baby.

lellyo wrote: »

Hi

Congratulations!!

I would just like to let you know that I have just had my first child at the age of 46, he is our first. In too thought at first that I was starting with the menopause, but when I missed my period(I was always regular!) the alarm bells where ringing!! We had given up thinking that we would ever have children, (we've been married 12 years and never used any contraception). To say I was mortified at first would be an understatement, all I kept thinking of was what people would say about me being pregnant at my age!! ( I do feel ashamed of myself now, i must admit for thinking that!), but everyone was so pleased and excited and supportive that it made it so much easier for us.

throughout my pregancy I was fit and well, no problems what so ever and gave birth to our beautiful son just before christmas.

I do fully understand your concerns, what age you'll be while he's still at school etc, I too went over and over the same things, but none of that matters when i look at him and know he's our little miracle and that he's truely loved, no matter what!

HTH, a bit?

lellyo

BonandDom

Hi Peeps,

Sorry I haven't been here since my original post, but I been going through an emotional rollercoaster since last friday. Got even worse today when during my scan the sonographer found my baby but no heartbeat.

I have opted for "wait and see", purely because neither DH or myself could decide which option to take and when asked the Midwife said if she was in the same position that is what she would opt for.

Adding guilt to all my feelings now.

Raksha

So sorry to hear this - are you going back for another scan?

BonandDom

Yes, I have to go back in two weeks to make sure that the miscarriage has been completed

tiamai_d

I'm so sorry to hear that. (((huge hugs))) for you.