Friends of the opposite sex

venus1978

Proc wrote: »

Erm, yeh.

There are a fair few saps who can be friends with women and not want anything else. They normally end up gay, though, or they're just so feeble that normal blokes don't want much to do with them.

I'm just running all of my female friends through my head now (the ones that I actually go out of my way to contact, chat to, etc) and yeh, it's fair to say I would take the back doors off every single one of them. Sure, a guy can have female acquantences (you know, friends from work, people you stop and say high to in the supermarket)...but I would never go out of my way to text or call any of these.

Erm No.

You're only on here playing wind up merchant.

pie81

See When Harry met Sally. Yes men and women can be just friends, without either of them wanting more, but only if they are both in committed relationships.

loftus

Glenn I'm impressed that you can speak with such certainity on behalf of 3 and a half billion people - but you're still wrong.

Glen0000

venus1978 wrote: »

Erm No.

You're only on here playing wind up merchant.

When men are honest about their feelings why do women always play them down? No wonder we never share our private thoughts if you don't want to hear the truth.

loftus

Proc wrote: »

Erm, yeh.

There are a fair few saps who can be friends with women and not want anything else. They normally end up gay, though, or they're just so feeble that normal blokes don't want much to do with them.

I'm just running all of my female friends through my head now (the ones that I actually go out of my way to contact, chat to, etc) and yeh, it's fair to say I would take the back doors off every single one of them. Sure, a guy can have female acquantences (you know, friends from work, people you stop and say high to in the supermarket)...but I would never go out of my way to text or call any of these.

Remember to close the door of the cave on your way out to hunt.

Glen0000

loftus wrote: »

Remember to close the door of the cave on your way out to hunt.

If you came out with that line in front of any group of self respecting men you wouldn't last long.

You are either
a) a woman or
b) a man who does not have much contact with other men and likes to trick women into thinking he thinks like a woman

Come join us in our caves, you might like it.

Proc

Well Loftus, maybe I can't speak for every man in the world. But I know I can speak for pretty much every man I've got to know to a reasonable level. I don't know a single person who wastes his time texting, calling, meeting, going out with, having mundane conversations with members of the opposite sex if he doesn't want to get his end away.

There is a difference beteen friends and acquantences (spelling of course). I can go over to a friend's house for coffee. I can sleep the night on a friend's couch. I can go on holiday with my best mate. I can go out with a friend and get hammered and not remember any of it the next day. I can lend a friend money, we can visit [STRIKE]brothels[/STRIKE] museums together. Most women would not be comfortable letting their partner have this level of closeness with a female.

Why? Because they know that he probably wants to, or already is, smashing her pie in.

Look, I understand the opinion isn't ideal in your simplistic mind, but that's the way it is.

loftus

Glen0000 wrote: »

If you came out with that line in front of any group of self respecting men you wouldn't last long.

You are either
a) a woman or
b) a man who does not have much contact with other men and likes to trick women into thinking he thinks like a woman

Come join us in our caves, you might like it.

Strangely enough I don't believe I am the only man in the entire world who doesn't see every passing woman or every female friend or work colleague as a potential shag, so I reckon there are several men I could share this sentiment with who wouldn't jump to the conclusions that you do.

For your information I am neither a) nor b) - just capable of relating to half the population of the world without wishing to drag them off to bed (which is not say I wouldn't wish to be better acquainted with some of them )

venus1978

Glen0000 wrote: »

When men are honest about their feelings why do women always play them down? No wonder we never share our private thoughts if you don't want to hear the truth.

Listen I have heard Mens honest opinions from my closest male friends. I am not playing down anything.

Proc is just trying to wind people up as are you

TeetersOnHeels

Funnily enough this came up in conversation at work this morning...I'm a single 40yr old woman, who works in a mainly male environment. Within that I work closely with a group of 6 men, me being the only female (they are aged between 35 &55) Our xmas "do" as such was a Saturday afternoon drink in town followed by something to eat and home around 10pm before town started to get busy. (it was agreed by the blokes it would be work staff only, no wives/partners) It was a great day, good fun enjoyed by everyone.
Tomorrow is a leaving "do" of a female member of staff, same sort of routine...and when I mentioned it to one of the blokes who'd been out at xmas he said he'd be in town shopping with his wife, so I said they should pop into the pub (I've not met his wife). But he said it wouldn't be a great idea as she thinks I'm a bit weird for wanting to go out drinking and be the only girl (from xmas). I don't have designs on any of the men I work with, but I do send/recieve jokey texts from a couple of them (generic jokes to be passed on, not individual relating to me and whoever sent the text).
I'm begining to wonder if I'm being naive, thinking they see me just as I see them - as the blokes I work with and go out for a few beers with now & again, and wether or not I'm unintentionally upsetting their wives/partners by doing so......