Friends of the opposite sex

Person_one

Glen0000 wrote: »

Don't blame yourself. It isn't you, that is just the way men are built. The ones that say "I am not like that" are usually the worst offenders too.

So cynical! I refuse to believe that half the world's population are just horny testosterone driven animals who have written off the other half of the population as potential friends and valuable members of society and see them merely as sexual objects.

I've had lots of male friends who never made a move on me, so do many women I know. Before you suggest that that is to do with my attractiveness, by your logic they wouldn't be friends with me at all if they weren't interested!

Glen0000

Person_one wrote: »

So cynical! I refuse to believe that half the world's population are just horny testosterone driven animals who have written off the other half of the population as potential friends and valuable members of society and see them merely as sexual objects.

You don't have to believe it but its true. Even if a male friend has never made a move believe me he has given you a good seeing too many, many times in his head!

Person_one

Glen0000 wrote: »

You don't have to believe it but its true. Even if a male friend has never made a move believe me he has given you a good seeing to many, many times in his head!

I don't. I give men more credit than you do.

Glen0000

Person_one wrote: »

I don't. I give men more credit than you do.

I am a man. Trust me. I know more about what goes on in our heads than you do.
Do guys think dirty about any hot girl they look at?

Yeah they do and it’s completely instinctive. Some guys of course feel very guilty about it, especially when they are in a committed relationship. But that’s because they are yet to become completely comfortable about their manliness. Most guys know this about themselves and are comfortable about it. It’s just a man thing, its ingrained nature and it can’t be helped ever. Lewd or dirty thoughts would come to the minds of any guy who looks at a stunning girl whether he is married or committed does not matter. It’s completely harmless as long as the guy does not start feeling guilty about it. In fact if you ask your boyfriend “do you think dirty about other girls?” and he denies it you can sure he is never going to be completely honest with you about several intimate feelings inside him and that’s a bad thing.


http://www.whatdomenreallythink.com/howto/why-men-check-out-girls.php

starbump

My best mate is male and godfather to my kids. Hubby is happy with this. But I suppose we rate him as part of the family, not just a friend.

Person_one

Glen0000 wrote: »

I am a man. Trust me. I know more about what goes on in our heads than you do.
Do guys think dirty about any hot girl they look at?

Yeah they do and it’s completely instinctive. Some guys of course feel very guilty about it, especially when they are in a committed relationship. But that’s because they are yet to become completely comfortable about their manliness. Most guys know this about themselves and are comfortable about it. It’s just a man thing, its ingrained nature and it can’t be helped ever. Lewd or dirty thoughts would come to the minds of any guy who looks at a stunning girl whether he is married or committed does not matter. It’s completely harmless as long as the guy does not start feeling guilty about it.In fact if you ask your boyfriend “do you think dirty about other girls?” and he denies it you can sure he is never going to be completely honest with you about several intimate feelings inside him and that’s a bad thing.


http://www.whatdomenreallythink.com/howto/why-men-check-out-girls.php

Of course my boyfriend looks at other girls and thinks about them in that way, I do with other men and that's perfectly normal and natural! What I don't accept is that he is only in touch with most of his friends because of some hopeless dream of sleeping with them one day. Friendships don't last decades based on physical attraction.

southoftheriver

I've had a close male friend since I was 13 (i'm 25 now). Nothing has ever happened between us although we have flirted on occasion when both single which is more to do with the fact that we feel comfortable together than any attraction.

When I am in a relationship I make sure that I talk about all of my male friends so they are not a secret. The problem usually arises when people aren't open. If someone is my friend then they will usually meet my partner too.

Jomo

A while back I used to frequent a local pub where I used to socialise with a group mainly consisting of men.

A couple of years on I had a conversation with one of the blokes who went on to tell me that a few of them had had a bet to see who'd be the first to 'you know what' me!

None of them did so they all lost!

Men and women can have friendships but a lot of the time you can bet the bloke 'wants' something (IMO).

venus1978

Well both me and DH have male and female friends and neither of us are bothered by that. Some of my male friends I have known since childhood and I am treated like their sister and they are like brothers to me.

Proc

Erm, yeh.

There are a fair few saps who can be friends with women and not want anything else. They normally end up gay, though, or they're just so feeble that normal blokes don't want much to do with them.

I'm just running all of my female friends through my head now (the ones that I actually go out of my way to contact, chat to, etc) and yeh, it's fair to say I would take the back doors off every single one of them. Sure, a guy can have female acquantences (you know, friends from work, people you stop and say high to in the supermarket)...but I would never go out of my way to text or call any of these.