Not invited ;-(

CraftySaver2689

Sounds like both couples are worth being friends with, you should as others have said do something nice that weekend, i wouldnt bother contacting them maybe send a card- might make them feel guilty

they'll soon come crawling back when they have the same or similar situation as you did ..

Bogof_Babe

Send them a bill for the wedding cake, on your proper business stationery, and add on interest.

Who needs enemies with "friends" like that? :mad:

Susan_Frost

You dont say how many couples are involved in the complete "friendship circle".

If you want to remain friends with the rest of the larger group, I would not let these two couples freeze you out.

Go camping - and make sure you enjoy yourselves. You can be polite to these two couples, definitely dont make an atmosphere, but mainly mix with the others. Otherwise you may end up being left out of stuff other couples arrange, just because of these two couples.

I think they both have guilt trips over their dealings with you.

Are you close enough to one of the other couples to trust them and confide what has happened, and ask for their take on how the rest of the group are feelling about it all.

But not by using face book, email, text

Talk in a proper conversation on the phone or face to face if you can meet up for a drink.

Good luck

pinkshoes

I would send this couple an email, saying that you're upset that they only listened to one side of the story (say that yes, you were upset with couple B and perhaps over-reacted, but they did smash your bathroom door...), but if that's the way they feel, then you understand, and hope they have a nice 40th birthday party.

Perhaps even offer to make a cake for them, obviously quoting them the market rate , but say that you're sorry you can't afford to do another freebie this time!

Amber07

I would pass couples A and B off as not being very good friends and therefore not worth losing wasting another minute worrying over. Can't believe 'A' didn't have the decency to speak to you though!

I wouldn't hide any of the truth from any other friends - why should you protect couple B? Tell your other friends the truth, before they start hearing stories from other people and thinking like A do.

Skippycat

lilmissshorty wrote: »

Well rang my friend...and yes basically we're not invited

Apparently they'd spoken to the other couple who said (to a number of the group) we'd over-reacted to something they'd said and that was the reason we were not really friendly (nothing about the smashed bathroom door and sink then :mad:) We never told our group of friends as we didn't want it to be an us and them situation...and I'm not going to start that now.

Anyway...at least I know and whilst I'm quite upset at least I can stop fretting about it all.....don't think we'll be going camping though.

With friends like that who needs enemies?! They sound like a very petty and backstabbing group of people to be honest and I also think that you'd be better off without them for all the stress and upset they have caused you.

ben500

Don't spend your time reading posts on here where people question your motives/ask irrelevant questions or tell you to forget about them Your original question - should I contact them

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NO.

Communication. Communication. Communication. They had plenty of opportunity to contact you to advise why you weren't welcome.
This thread would be empty if people communicated about their problems with the people causing the problems. Sorry I chose this post to say it OP but I have been thinking it for some time.

milliebear00001

I cannot believe your friends wouldn't invite you to their party after only hearing one side of this story! In any case, why would your argument with another couple, affect their relationship with you? Was your friend not even slightly embarrassed when explaining this to you? It is the kind of behaviour I see in my class of 9 years olds - 'x isn't friends with Y, so I'm not friends with Y either...' My head says dump them, but practically, you need to reinforce some bridges with the other couples so they don't have their view of you coloured by couple B too.

ben500

Better still phone them up and tell them you made a cake for them but as your not invited you fed it to the dog. Send them a picture of the most expensive and extravagant cake you've ever produced along with another of your dog with it's face covered in icing and tail wagging.

Skippycat

ben500 wrote: »

Better still phone them up and tell them you made a cake for them but as your not invited you fed it to the dog. Send them a picture of the most expensive and extravagant cake you've ever produced along with another of your dog with it's face covered in icing and tail wagging.

I like this idea!!!!