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lilmissshorty
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Posting using an alias as I know one of the people mentioned below uses these forums..just not this board.
Anyway, my partner and I have kept in touch with a group of friends from university who are spread across the country and we try to meet up regularly. In fact we all met up just before Christmas and we all go away each year camping.
After graduating and a fair number of years my partner and I started our own business making celebration (mainly wedding) cakes and have recently branched out into more corporate/event work. One couple (couple A) were always saying how strapped for cash they were (due to child support payments to an ex) and when they decided to get married they said how they were doing it on the cheap. We offered to make their cake and it was an amazing day! After the do the groom (drunkenly) told me that the wedding had cost £17,000 and the honeymoon £3,000. I was a bit shocked but didn’t say anything but my partner and I agreed that whilst we’d do ‘mates rates’ in future that there would be no more freebies.
Three years on and we (well me mostly) have fallen out with two friends (Couple
who were staying with us for a weekend and trashed the house and were quite offensive to me. It was so bad that they were not invited to our engagement party. We have since seen Couple B at the Christmas meet up and we were all civil though not as friend as we used to be.
Anyway the husband of Couple A is turning 40 next month and is having a party and everyone from the crowd has been invited, except us. Friends have been asking if we have a big function on that weekend or are we going away. My partner says we should just forget it and move on, but I’m just wondering whether I should contact them and ask them if we’ve offended them in any way? Can only assume its related to falling out with the other couple, but its worrying me about the camping holiday as I really don’t want to go if there is going to be an atmosphere.
Anyway, my partner and I have kept in touch with a group of friends from university who are spread across the country and we try to meet up regularly. In fact we all met up just before Christmas and we all go away each year camping.
After graduating and a fair number of years my partner and I started our own business making celebration (mainly wedding) cakes and have recently branched out into more corporate/event work. One couple (couple A) were always saying how strapped for cash they were (due to child support payments to an ex) and when they decided to get married they said how they were doing it on the cheap. We offered to make their cake and it was an amazing day! After the do the groom (drunkenly) told me that the wedding had cost £17,000 and the honeymoon £3,000. I was a bit shocked but didn’t say anything but my partner and I agreed that whilst we’d do ‘mates rates’ in future that there would be no more freebies.
Three years on and we (well me mostly) have fallen out with two friends (Couple
who were staying with us for a weekend and trashed the house and were quite offensive to me. It was so bad that they were not invited to our engagement party. We have since seen Couple B at the Christmas meet up and we were all civil though not as friend as we used to be.Anyway the husband of Couple A is turning 40 next month and is having a party and everyone from the crowd has been invited, except us. Friends have been asking if we have a big function on that weekend or are we going away. My partner says we should just forget it and move on, but I’m just wondering whether I should contact them and ask them if we’ve offended them in any way? Can only assume its related to falling out with the other couple, but its worrying me about the camping holiday as I really don’t want to go if there is going to be an atmosphere.
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If it's important for you to remain friends with them then you should definitely contact them and see what's going on. Could it be something as simple as your invite is lost in the post?Mummy to Thomas born April 27th 2010 8lb 5oz0
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Apparently they were all invited via Facebook - a friend told us and they can see everyone who has been invited and we're not on that list0
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Everyone invited or everyone invited via Facebook? There might be another list..."Life is like a game of cards. The hand you are dealt isdeterminism; the way you play it is free will.” Jawaharlal NehruI am a magnet for all kinds of deeper wondermentI am a wunderkind ohI am a ground-breaker naive enough to believe thisI am a princess on the way to my throne0
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I would just politely tell your mutual friends that you don't have any other plans, you are unsure why you've not been invited but that you hope they all have a great time & you'd love to see the photos when they all return.
Then you & your OH can put the episode to one side, retain the moral high ground and not worry about any "atmosphere" or cold shoulders if you did go.0 -
It is quite easy to miss someone when checking. Assuming you are on their facebook they could have just missed you off.
Personally I would just give them a call & ask - but I am fairly direct, people know where they stand with me & me with them!!!!!0 -
Yes, I'd agree with above, if it seems odd to you that you haven't been invited, and you would have expected to be, why not ask?0
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If they're that good friends - I would ask the question!! Might be a simple mistake on their part.0
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Or give them a call for a social chat and just throw in "x is going to be 40 soon isn't he, are you doing anything nice?" and see what happens. You'll either get an invite or if you're told they're not doing anything you a) leave it or b) tell them you know there's a party and would like to know why you haven't been invited. Or c) leave it then send a text/facebook post on their birthday, mention the party and give them the guilts
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seems to me like they value the other couples friendship more than yours. if thats the case then not much you can do and best to find out now.MANAGED TO CLEAR A 3K OVERDRAFT IN ONE FRUGAL, SUPER CHARGED MONEY EARNING MONTH!:j
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"It's not always rainbows and butterflies, It's compromise that moves us along."0 -
not sure why the cake was relevant though? perhaps they sensed bad will surrounding your gift or it was mentioned to them by someone else.MANAGED TO CLEAR A 3K OVERDRAFT IN ONE FRUGAL, SUPER CHARGED MONEY EARNING MONTH!:j
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