depression

EthelBloggs

blinky wrote:

Hun,

How they've treated your DD is terrible. :mad:

Hope the dizziness goes soon.

Turns out that she found a girl hanging herself last night.. !!!!!! are they doing????

Today I've been onto MIND, social services, our local PCT, the PCT of the place where she is, and I've got the number of an advocacy service, so hopefully.......

I'm still dizzy n lightheaded and my fingertips have no feeling in them

Tiff_2

EthelBloggs wrote:

Turns out that she found a girl hanging herself last night.. !!!!!! are they doing????
Today I've been onto MIND, social services, our local PCT, the PCT of the place where she is, and I've got the number of an advocacy service, so hopefully.......
I'm still dizzy n lightheaded and my fingertips have no feeling in them

Hi ethel hun!
OMG!!!
Okay hun, I don't care if their facilities equal those of The Ritz - I'd be tempted to get GP out to DD at home with you and get her moved quickly!
If nothing else angel it might give you a little peace of mind. That would be the final straw for me I'm afraid - they're apparently unable to provide the supervision that such very ill people need. And bringing her home barefoot in the wind, rain and cold is inexcusable!
While GP is with you, you can tell him about your health. When you phone GP, say you need an urgent home visit for both of you. Get it over with before the weekend to get some treatment for yourself hun. You need help angel and the GP will be the most direct route.
You know where I am if you need a hug hun.
Not trying to steal your job blinky!;)
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi blinky!:hello:
Just want to say I hope you and r have a lovely time together - I know you've really missed her. You could be with her already so sorry if I'm too late hun. I hope she appreciates your hugs as much as we do.;) :T
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

blinky

Tiff wrote:

Hi blinky!:hello:
Just want to say I hope you and r have a lovely time together - I know you've really missed her. You could be with her already so sorry if I'm too late hun. I hope she appreciates your hugs as much as we do.;) :T
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Still another 2h 45 mintues at work It's really boring at work at the moment. Nothing is urgent so I just cannot be bothered.

Spoke to 'R' last night and will be seeing her tonight.

blinky

EthelBloggs wrote:

Turns out that she found a girl hanging herself last night.. !!!!!! are they doing????

Today I've been onto MIND, social services, our local PCT, the PCT of the place where she is, and I've got the number of an advocacy service, so hopefully.......

I'm still dizzy n lightheaded and my fingertips have no feeling in them

That is a terrible way to treat DD :mad: :mad: . Surely they should have been trying to counsel her and support her rather than shipping her back to you.

Please see someone about the dizzyness + numbness.

Tiff_2

Hi miro hun!:hello:
I bet I've already missed you hun.

Miroslav wrote:

Right......
'S' text me this morning to meet tomorrow outside the Cinema, 20 mins before film starts, which means no pre-movie Tea/Coffee
I text her back and asked if she would let me buy her a drink beforehand, she replied that she'd meet me a further 15 minutes beforehand, but still outside the Cinema - either she's avoiding any possible 'chat' situations or she doesn't understand what I mean.
It's a bit like mind reading isn't it hun? Maybe she didn't want tea before but maybe after instead? Maybe she had other things to do? Maybe she didn't think she could afford it? (Yes, I know you're a gent hun and you'd pay etc.) Maybe this is how she can deal with things today? You know angel, it's a day by day thing with s, isn't it? I wouldn't put too much stress on her or yourself hun.

I didn't reply as was upset at the thought she didn't want to meet me as per usual, about 1h 15/30m before the movie.
50 minutes later, after I did not reply, my text tone goes again - I think it's flatmate as I text her 5 mins previous - it's 'S' - "Just to let you know, I'm paying for you to go to the cinema"
Now, that's really nice and I appreciate and will accept it, but the thing I noticed was, she text me 50 minutes after I did not respond, which is not 'S' at all. It's like, because I did not respond, she felt she had to text me again as knowing her, she was hoping i'd reply.
Bless you, you're so sensitive hun and I know you are on alert for signs from s, but just try relax a little and take it as it comes. If you're constantly on watch all the time hun, you'll miss any fun and end up making yourself very ill through stress. Maybe she was waiting for your reply hun? I must admit if I'd sent a text like that, I'd expect a little text from them in reply so I don't think she was wrong to text you back.

This was 1hr 30m ago, and I haven't replied to the offer of her paying yet either - I mean, i've typed 6 or 7 messages but not sent them.
They all said, only if she could afford too etc etc, but I would accept (even though as a gentleman I feel very bad about it!)
I said on a couple, I was going to be in town, and if she wanted a tea/coffee, then i'd wait at xxxxx at 3pm, just incase, don't worry if you don't turn up, as i'm in town anyway doing other things.
Ok hun, you haven't sent the texts I think, because you feel uneasy about them yourself. It's ok to have butterflies in your tummy hun before a date but don't put them through commando training.;) I know you try and anticipate every possible reaction hun to avoid disaster. Maybe she's picking up on your tension? maybe she'll relax a little more if she sees you're relaxing too.

Then I thought, nah, don't meet, she's meeting flatmate later anyway (Flatmate is only meeting her to see how she feels about me, flatmate likes her, but not loads, and no more than once a week for a few hours max!)
I know she'll tell flatmate "I'm not ready" or "I didn't mean it, I don't like him more than a friend"
Miro hun, you don't know anything yet. She'll give of herself what she can angel.

But even as a low self esteemed Miro, I know there is more there - it's just whether I have enough strength to be constantly rejected, despite knowing this won't go away.

Don't be offended hun if she doesn't want you to go to mum's grave with her tomorrow. She may feel that she can't face it - and if you try and over-support her, I get the feeling she's the type of person that will pull away, because she'll feel she has to do something she doesn't want to, so as not to hurt your feelings. It's obviously a very private thing angel and probably best to let her ask you to come IMHO.
If she hasn't made concrete plans with you for tomorrow, don't push her. Let her decide and tomorrow, just text simply and say "If you need me, please send me a text. I am thinking of you. Take care."
Now go and enjoy your movie miro hun!
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

blinky

Miroslav wrote:

I know she'll tell flatmate "I'm not ready" or "I didn't mean it, I don't like him more than a friend"

And how do you know that? Try not to think the worst - it's not helping your self esteem or mood. I appreciate it's hard though.

Tiff_2

blinky wrote:

Still another 2h 45 mintues at work It's really boring at work at the moment. Nothing is urgent so I just cannot be bothered.

Spoke to 'R' last night and will be seeing her tonight.

No that you're counting or anything eh hun?:D
I bet you feel like a kid at Christmas! Good for you blinky.
As for the non-urgent work, get a box of matches and 'file' it!:rotfl:
Hope you have a lovely time. Take care.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Miroslav

Tiff wrote:

Hi miro hun!:hello:
I bet I've already missed you hun.

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Don't be offended hun if she doesn't want you to go to mum's grave with her tomorrow. She may feel that she can't face it - and if you try and over-support her, I get the feeling she's the type of person that will pull away, because she'll feel she has to do something she doesn't want to, so as not to hurt your feelings. It's obviously a very private thing angel and probably best to let her ask you to come IMHO.
If she hasn't made concrete plans with you for tomorrow, don't push her. Let her decide and tomorrow, just text simply and say "If you need me, please send me a text. I am thinking of you. Take care."
Now go and enjoy your movie miro hun!
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

I've literally just got in. Went for a walk to the Cinema to make sure the internet times were right

I hope she'll come to me, I just don't think she believes I really want to go. In her mind, why would I? Everyone else has let her down and hurt her, so why wouldn't I be the same?

She has made plans for tomorrow, I just wanted to meet her earlier for a tea/coffee, but she doesn't it seems.

She did text me out of the blue again, saying she'll pay, and i'll respond shortly.

I'm just hurt by her acceptance, then subsequent backing off. I don't think she realises this is big for me too.

Miroslav

blinky wrote:

And how do you know that? Try not to think the worst - it's not helping your self esteem or mood. I appreciate it's hard though.

My history, her history, my way of thinking, her way of thinking....

I try to think of the positives, they just rarely happen to me, and certainly not romantically for a long long time.

Have a nice time with 'R' later.