depression

Tiff_2

hey Miroslav hang in there angel - que sera and all that.
Get up and find something bright or funny to do - here ya go - put together a description of how our posts make us look when you read them! :rotfl: Join in everyone!
Distract yourself hun- I know you've been in this situation before and you can get through this one tonight - chill out or go for a run or do some time in a hot bath - use your survival kit!;)
Hugs
Tiff

Tiff_2

Miroslav wrote:

Well, I shaved my head and my face, and once I get a little stubble, I feel more confident. Stubble makes me look less fat :rotfl:

I know she's not my responsibility, but I like her and want to be there for her. She's a genuinely nice person, although I like her, I think i'd sooner have her as a really good friend than any more, as i'm not sure she's someone I need relationship wise. I need someone who can give back, not just someone who'd be with me for the support. I made that mistake last time, as I needed company. I cared for her, but once she was strong enough, dumped me

I have a decision to make. 20 hours part time work, in retail, possible overtime and permanent position after Christmas. I swore i'd never return to retail.......

OR

Voluntary work in something I want to do, but no money extra.

The 20 hours in retail, plus my bonuses from job brokers and job centre, would only make me about £20 better off as lose Housing Benefit and Council Tax Benefit, plus i'd run the risk of making myself worse, so I think voluntary is best option?

Chugging along? Probably the best way for now. Day by day, see what each new day has to offer.

:wave:

Hi Hun - believe it or not, this decision about work/volunteering will sort itself out - probably at the last minute. It's good you're thinking about your health but maybe you're ready for a bit of a challenge? Only you know that hun. And when day by day becomes too hard as it sometimes does, then switch to hour by hour. Keep us posted.

rose07

i understand miroslav, i think you need to be there for her, but keep your distance at the same time. it can be really hard seeing someone you love slightly messed up as it were.

it shows that if she just dumped you last time, you need to keep your distance, and make sure you are ok, we can get hurt by the people around us hun, but at the same time, we can get hurt by ourselves, and that can sometimes be by caring tooo much. dont wanna sound mean, but be there, but make sure your ok too.

def do what tiff said, keep yourself busy, oo i def would like to know what you all think of me. lol.

my brother watching lost now tooo. :eek: :eek: :eek:

which do you think you would be most happy doing as this is probably the one you need to focus on for now, do what makes you feel best

take care
xxx

Miroslav

Tiff wrote:

hey Miroslav hang in there angel - que sera and all that.
Get up and find something bright or funny to do - here ya go - put together a description of how our posts make us look when you read them! :rotfl: Join in everyone!
Distract yourself hun- I know you've been in this situation before and you can get through this one tonight - chill out or go for a run or do some time in a hot bath - use your survival kit!;)
Hugs
Tiff

Try and guess what everyone looks like..........so which one of you is an Anne Widdicombe look-a-like, and which one of you is the spitting image of Stan Laurel :rotfl: I know that's not what you neccesarily meant but......:rotfl:

I'll prob go bed within next hour or so I'm fed up of being lonely. It's been a while. My problem when trying to meet ladies, I look for too much. My partner who passed is the most amazing person I have ever met, and i'm looking for an equal standard, which is wrong. Not looking for a replacement, but I don't want any old relationship, just for the sake of having one.

I'm at a horrible age, 30. Younger are into things i'm not, drinking, smoking, clubs etc etc, whereas older are probably into families etc.........i'm inbetween......and skint

I know I have to be out there as well.........so will look at something. I will get the courage one day!

Now..........Tiff..............a touch of Gloria Hunniford, a sprinkling of Fern Britton with Norman Lamont eyebrows :rotfl:

Miroslav

Tiff wrote:

Hi Hun - believe it or not, this decision about work/volunteering will sort itself out - probably at the last minute. It's good you're thinking about your health but maybe you're ready for a bit of a challenge? Only you know that hun. And when day by day becomes too hard as it sometimes does, then switch to hour by hour. Keep us posted.

I'm keen to do something now, I just want to make the right choice It's 2 years in November, part-time college courses aside, that I have done anything.

I'll let you know if I achieve anything

Miroslav

rose07 wrote:

i understand miroslav, i think you need to be there for her, but keep your distance at the same time. it can be really hard seeing someone you love slightly messed up as it were.

it shows that if she just dumped you last time, you need to keep your distance, and make sure you are ok, we can get hurt by the people around us hun, but at the same time, we can get hurt by ourselves, and that can sometimes be by caring tooo much. dont wanna sound mean, but be there, but make sure your ok too.

def do what tiff said, keep yourself busy, oo i def would like to know what you all think of me. lol.

my brother watching lost now tooo. :eek: :eek: :eek:

which do you think you would be most happy doing as this is probably the one you need to focus on for now, do what makes you feel best

take care
xxx

Yup, it's very hard to see/hear what happens, especially as she's not exactly comfortable with me She tries to be, but something stops her

Btw, it wasn't her that dumped me, it was another girl. This girl i've never even as much as touched by hugging, shake hands or even the slightest indication of anything, this is my flatmate's friend who i've kinda got to know through my flatmate and when my flatmate is there. I just don't like it when people suffer

I think she would be bad for me, as I see the same things in her, as I do my ex I'd probably not get involved romantically, even if offered, but I may be weak enough after so little affection over the years, but my mind says, good friends at most, so I do agree.

Rose - you are a cross between Trisha Goddard & Anne Robinson. A big beaming smile, but can also be stern

Lost annoys me

What makes me feel best............I dunno. I guess with voluntary work, always can leave anytime

:wave: Relax

rose07

Miroslav wrote:

Yup, it's very hard to see/hear what happens, especially as she's not exactly comfortable with me She tries to be, but something stops her

Btw, it wasn't her that dumped me, it was another girl. This girl i've never even as much as touched by hugging, shake hands or even the slightest indication of anything, this is my flatmate's friend who i've kinda got to know through my flatmate and when my flatmate is there. I just don't like it when people suffer

I think she would be bad for me, as I see the same things in her, as I do my ex I'd probably not get involved romantically, even if offered, but I may be weak enough after so little affection over the years, but my mind says, good friends at most, so I do agree.

Rose - you are a cross between Trisha Goddard & Anne Robinson. A big beaming smile, but can also be stern

Lost annoys me

What makes me feel best............I dunno. I guess with voluntary work, always can leave anytime

:wave: Relax

oo i see think i was getting confused there, soz, getting late and i will be off soon.

i think i know what stops her, she may be scared sounds silly but sometimes its much easier to to be distant from people then try and talk. she may be trying to keep you safe.

and yeah if she is a bit like your dearly departed then, may not be best for you to get very close though understand your situation i have a simalair thing back here but i am trying to be there but they know im here if they need and i see how they are every now and again.

i cant understand lost, its f**ked me head. lol

lol,lol,lol. thats what i hide behind.

can i ask what happened to your ex? you dont have to answer, its jut seems you have lost someone sooo dear to you. and sometimes it can be hard to move on. i lost a close relation of mine, and many of my friends died in car crashes and, one of my exes hung himself. so i have had many people i love go on. i never talk bout this as it gets to me as i think its my fault their gone.

trisha godard, hhhmm ann robinson,:rotfl:

Miroslav

rose07 wrote:

oo i see think i was getting confused there, soz, getting late and i will be off soon.

i think i know what stops her, she may be scared sounds silly but sometimes its much easier to to be distant from people then try and talk. she may be trying to keep you safe.

and yeah if she is a bit like your dearly departed then, may not be best for you to get very close though understand your situation i have a simalair thing back here but i am trying to be there but they know im here if they need and i see how they are every now and again.

i cant understand lost, its f**ked me head. lol

lol,lol,lol. thats what i hide behind.

can i ask what happened to your ex? you dont have to answer, its jut seems you have lost someone sooo dear to you. and sometimes it can be hard to move on. i lost a close relation of mine, and many of my friends died in car crashes and, one of my exes hung himself. so i have had many people i love go on. i never talk bout this as it gets to me as i think its my fault their gone.

trisha godard, hhhmm ann robinson,:rotfl:

My flatmate thinks she's scared because i'm alot bigger than most, both height and muscle size, and she's been beaten by much smaller guys. She's not much of a talker about her problems when she is on medication.

It's difficult when you want to help, can't, but know that if you do, you may get too involved relationship wise.

Lost make it up as they go along. In the end, they'll just wake up from a dream

Which ex? The one I miss is my g/f who died when we were both 15. She was killed by a drink driver. Will be 15 years in January, never got over it. When my daughter died (Leukemia) it just about finsihed me off. My last g/f, and only one since I was 15, left me when she had used me as much as she needed. Destroyed at the time, but over now. I never loved her as a partner, but cared.

The thing to do, is never blame yourself, because it's likely it's not. I can't comment as don't know the situations, but it's easy to blame ourselves, as we don't fight back. I blamed myself for years, and still do sometimes, as we had one of our rare disagreements before she died, but in reality, rarely are tragedies our faults.

So you aren't Trisha or Anne?

rose07

ah tiff i see you have escaped my grasp again, near yet soo far. lol
i was wondering if you could tell me more bout PTSD? i got told by a councellor when i was telling her all things happening.
what is cognitive therapy? think i have spelt that one right.
ok too many questions
i really hope you ok hun, keep posting and take care :A
xxx

rose07

nite nite all
sweet dreams and take care
xxx