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blinky wrote:

No, it just I got upset last night which upset her and in turn upset me even more.

Both want a long term committed relationship

Aw what happened? PM me if it is too sensitive

Tiff_2

Hi gilly!:hello:

gillette147 wrote:

Hello all,
Ive been silly recently - staying up all nite listening to the cricket and sleeping in the day (or not at all). While listening, I have sorted out my music collection (huge - 113GB of mp3s). I've been obsessive about it.

Oh hun, I'm sorry that you've got cricket sickness! I hear there is no cure. Sometimes it's good to immerse yourself into a heavy duty task like that - a good distraction from problems and a good feeling when it's done.

My mood is good - but ive got to fill out bupa and dole forms tomora. Must get out there and buy xmas too. Mood helped by my back actually feeling like normal for last three days - its like im a normal person in back terms anyway.

Good luck with your forms angel. When you're in constant pain it really brings your mood down - I'm glad both your back and your mood (until the cricket results are in!:rolleyes: ) are doing better. You are a normal person hun! Good luck with Christmas shopping hun. You may need to take some bouncers with you. I went out yesterday(don't ask!:o ) and it was like there was a famine coming!:rotfl: The older people are the worst - weak and feeble my tail tip! :rotfl: Vicious they were. I'm going to start a petition to ban those shopping trolleys that they pull over your feet!

My ear on the other hand is bad - alot of hedaches and i went out friday nite and could hardly hear anyone. I dont know if it is nose bockage related or something worse - and I'm not sure I want to bother the specialist over this (and also maybe have to pay £70) if there's nothing actually different to last time.

I'd play it by ear hun (sorry!:p :rolleyes: ) and see how it goes. Could be sinus related? Dr is a good idea if it gets any worse. Maybe you could mention the cricket sickness while you're there...:D

I'm waiting for letter/call from counsellor - before i go up home to brum. Prob go on saturday - gives me time to xmas shop sort stuff out and means i'm away from net less.quote]
Good luck gilly - let us know how it goes with the counsellor. I bet you're really looking forward to being back in brum hun - it'll be a change of scenery and family hugs all at the same time. :T I hope you won't have to wait too long for the counselling angel. Take care.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi guys!:hello:
Hope terrific Tuesday finds you all well.
Just had a Tiff thought (I'm trying to give it up for Christmas:D ) and though you've taken care of it already, make sure you have your gp's holiday hours written down and put somewhere safe (which means in my case, I'll find it at Easter!:rotfl: ).

Also, now would be the perfect time for anyone on medication to check that they have enough supplies to last for the duration.;) It's not just the main 2 days - there are bank holidays to consider too. Sorry for stating the bl00dy obvious!:o :rotfl:
TIFFY'S SEASONAL TIP 2:
Please make time to ensure you have enough meds - it would be awful to run out and end up as stuffed as the turkey!;)
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

blinky wrote:

Dear All,
Hope you are all well
Not having a particularly good day, partly because I'm shattered
My brother was visiting this weekend. He recently split from his long term girlfriend and it opened a few old wounds for me....

Hey blinky!:hello:
How are you angel? What's exhausted you hun? Sorry to hear about your brother's split blinky. I hope they've not opened too much blinky. I think emotions become extra-heightened at this time of year. I hope you're ok angel. here if you need me.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

stenny wrote:

Yes i did mean less lol
It's called lack of sleep!
The fire alarm kept bleeping every few seconds during night as battery dying.
I just couldn't get up out of bed and put hammer through it, OH was dead to the world.
5.50am the parrot started screaming so had to get up!

Just been a walk with the dog, it's lovely and white out, wish the snow would come though!:o

Hi stenny!:hello:
I've warned you guys about lack of sleep (says she that's been up since 2.30am!:rolleyes: ) - there could have been a nasty incident there hun! I'm glad you couldn't get out of bed to reach the hammer - you could have gone for the parrot instead of the fire alarm!:eek: Or even OH!!!:D Hoping you'll soon be up to your trussocks in snow!
Those frosty mornings are beautiful - they make everything look so fresh and new - almost magical. Sigh from a sentimental ol' Tiff!:rolleyes: Hope you're ok hun and that things are ok at home.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

stenny wrote:

I wish i could wave a magic wand and make it better for you!
Miro, i understand how your feeling, yes you can support her but you cannot help her. If it is as bad as your saying, she needs professional help, and the quicker she get's it the better for you all.
The only way this can be done if for someone (who knows what's been happening) is to confront a professional source for her, Miro, this can be done strictly confidential without her knowing, after all, you are only concerned for her well-being.
She's very unlikely to walk in and tell a GP etc what she's been doing if she doesn't know what she's actually doing herself?

Miro, you also have to look after yourself, this is very unhealthy for you.

Take Care

Hi miro!:hello:
Innit?!;) What stenny says!:T

It's as I've said miro hun - she can't even get help for herself because she doesn't see how poorly she is. Thinking of you hun. Have caught up with your posts - I hope the lady you e-mailed does catch on to who you're talking aboout angel. If not, call the people I suggested in confidence and tell them everything. It'll be a long holiday with only skeleton staff everywhere so the sooner they could put plans in place to help s the better.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

mclaren wrote:

actually - i have to ask - Why do people talk about, or have, turkey, at christmas? When turkey is for thanksgiving and not for christmas? i dont understand that - chicken is christmas..... thaksgiving is the 4th thursday of november (23rd this year) - was i the only person to have turkey then?

Hi mac!:hello:
How are you hun? I think there are several possibilities for the annual Christmas turkey fest so maybe because...
- we are sick of having chicken for a lot of Sunday roast dinners & other
meals throughout the year!:rolleyes:
- you always have people around at Christmas lunch - can you imagine
roasting 8 chickens separately so everyone would have enough?
Skyscraper ovens are what we need!:D
- most people prefer breast meat and turkeys are more well-endowed in that
region whereas a chicken is flat-chested in comparison!:o
- they had all the other animals at the Nativity - even the sheep turned up!
But did you see any turkey?! So this is payback. (no religious offence
meant:o)
- if we didn't have them on Christmas Day, New Year's Day and Easter
Sunday as is the tradition, we'd be over-run by them! Do you see how big
they get?!!!:eek:

I think too much don't I?:rotfl:
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

CCStar wrote:

What would you rather have?
Christmas alone or with a family that sucked?
I know what I would prefer

Hi cc!:hello:
I'd prefer not to have such a lousy choice. It doesn't always have to be so black and white. If the family sucks at least you have the choice to stay away and enjoy some peace. Christmas alone is harder if you don't want to be alone. At least you know there'll be something half decent on TV for once!:rolleyes:
What I would really prefer is a day when I can just lay my problems down and enjoy whatever there is to enjoy. And I'd be very grateful for it. However you do it guys, as I said, cut yourself a small slice of happiness somehow on the day.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi bunnie!:hello:
I'm so sorry you're feeling so low hun.

Bunnie1982 wrote:

I have literally had enough of my hubby.
The past couple of weeks he has just had a really bad attitude and spoke to me and belittled me like other ex partners have in the past, I am sick to the teeth of it, I don't expect it from him. All I have had is lectures all day off him over everything, i.e. are you going to do the hoovering? what are we having for tea? are you not feeding the animals today? what are you typing?

What's brought all this on bunnie? What has suddenly changed? Do you think it may be your depression that's making you feel this way angel? Sorry to start with so many questions hun.;) When we hit a bad spot, we find it hard to do the simplest of things - has he seen you like this before? It may be that it's the only thing he can think of trying to get you active? It's so hard for others to understand.

It is really getting on my nerves, especially as I had my works do last night and have got a huge headache and just want to chill out.
I cannot cope anymore, we have only been married since August but he has changed, I just feel like all I am good for is sex. I just wanna lock myself in the bathroom and cry, anything to escape from him.
When I am trying to do things like being on the Internet he sits staring at me.

You're obviously under the weather physically too bunnie, which doesn't help.
Re the typing, maybe he can't understand how you can reach out to someone else, a group of strangers, rather than to him? As for the sex, you're not a performing seal angel so say no if you want to. Having said that if you're still being intimate, that would imply that you still have feelings for him or you'd have said no. Is there anything else upsetting you hun? Can you face a heart to heart with him - it might clear the air? I hope you're okay hun - we're all here if you need us bunnie.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi cif!:hello:
I'm really sorry that I haven't been able to get to your lovely post before now. Welcome aboard hun and thank you for sharing your story.

cifpower wrote:

Hello everyone!
Just stumbled upon this thread by venturing onto a board I have never been to before. Maybe it is one of those things I was meant to do. Perhaps I should start from the very beginning as they say.
Kismet maybe.;) The beginning's always the best place hun.
It all stems from Easter Sunday 2001. This is when I came out to my family. I had thought about telling them for weeks and months beforehand. My head had been all over the place and I didn't do as well in my A-Levels as a result. I figured I couldn't tell my dad as he was a soldier and I was scared of his reaction. I thought that if I wasn't there or hadn't been born everything would be OK. I took an overdose of ibuprofen but just became very ill. I did the same thing again a month later. The next year I decided it was time to tell my family.
I can sympathise with your problem hun - how awful for you. It's a huge decision. Of course your studies were affected. Your fears are completely understandable - the military are only now reluctantly accepting it. I'm so glad your attempts to od failed cif. You're entitled to a life angel - and to live as you want to.

I left on a Thursday evening and basically went "missing". I slept in my car and deliberately had no contact with my family. On the Saturday I went to a gay club on my own and spent 12 hours there. A friend of mine appeared at 1am and told me she was worried about me. She stayed with me that night, took me home to hers. My mother and sister came round that morning and I told her that I was gay. She started crying and said, "Don't be disgusting. Its just a phase." I went home with her and my sister to confront my father. I was sobbing my heart out and told him. He started shouting, "How can you be? You're my son!" and the last thing he ever said to me was, "From now on, I'm not your father, you're not my son. Don't darken my door ever again."
So I didn't.
Some people can't deal with it, others are scared for any possible hardships your sexuality may cause you. Did they have any idea cif? That may explain mum's reaction if it was a huge shock for her. Your courage was admirable cif hun. I'm so sorry about your father's reaction. It's his loss angel although I'm sure it must have broken your heart. But you were true to yourself hun and you obviously needed to get the real you out from inside. I think that's amazing cif.

Fast forward 4 years and only now am I dealing with what happened. I knew something wasn't right inside my head for a long time but was too scared to confront it or talk about it. I just thought I was incredibly moody. In November 2005 my doctor gave me Zimovane to help me sleep but decided against other medication. She also signed me off. I was on Zimovane until March when I moved house and changed doctor. My new doctor was much more proactive. She took me off Zimovane and gave me Sertraline. However, these made me ill and I received Dosulepin instead. I was also told to apply for DLA.
I don't know you but I'm proud of you for what you've achieved.:T Have you applied for DLA hun? It's one area I now a bit about. Thankfully you've got an understanding gp. You were probably unable to deal with the stress you were having hun, without facing mental ill health too. It doesn't matter angel - at least you're getting help now.

I am now in contact with a counsellor, a CPN and last month I was referred to a Consultant Psychiatrist to see if I am bipolar in any way. The only thing is the appointment is for March. Now I am getting the help and support I need. But it has been one hell of a long slog.

You've got a good support network in place now hun. If you feel worse, talk to your CPN who if they haven't noticed a decline already, will be able to access you further help quicker. It's not an easy journey hun but if it helps, I'm sure your story will be an inspiration to others. A lot of people don't realise that when you finally get the help, it's the start of the journey. What's important to remember is that a beginning is always a better option and you can start to look forward and building yourself the life you want.
Thanks again for sharing cif - I hope you'll stay around and join in whenever you can.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx