depression

Horasio

stenny wrote:

Yes i did mean less lol
It's called lack of sleep!
The fire alarm kept bleeping every few seconds during night as battery dying.
I just couldn't get up out of bed and put hammer through it, OH was dead to the world.
5.50am the parrot started screaming so had to get up!

Just been a walk with the dog, it's lovely and white out, wish the snow would come though!:o

Arrgh the bleeping alarm:mad:

PMSL at the parrot, mine used to say b*gger off:D

Change the battery! It not very safe

I got a shock at 4am, some books fell into a box just as I was drifting orf!

Horasio

Miroslav wrote:

We have no sun, you lucky person

I have no idea what to do. I mean, giving her things like chocolate and nice text messages seem to make her feel good. She keeps talking about my song etc. At the moment, small gestures seem to keep her going.

When she was unwell before, she was put in hospital by her dad.....something she has never forgiven him for....I don't want her to not forgive me, as being in her life, I can still be there for her to make sure no-one uses her, or at least pick up the pieces at worst.

Get your son packing!!!

he has started!!!:T

It is a difficult situation for you. You want the best for her.

I thought all of the UK had sun today. Trouble is the !!!!s (neighbours) go outside when it is nice. At least the rain keeps em in.

Miroslav

blinky wrote:

He's older but I've always been the more 'mature' one.

Do you feel responsible for him, or is it just his situation affects you for what has happened in your life?

Miroslav

stenny wrote:

I wish i could wave a magic wand and make it better for you!
Miro, i understand how your feeling, yes you can support her but you cannot help her. If it is as bad as your saying, she needs professional help, and the quicker she get's it the better for you all.
The only way this can be done if for someone (who knows what's been happening) is to confront a professional source for her, Miro, this can be done strictly confidential without her knowing, after all, you are only concerned for her well-being.
She's very unlikely to walk in and tell a GP etc what she's been doing if she doesn't know what she's actually doing herself?

Miro, you also have to look after yourself, this is very unhealthy for you.

Take Care

I'm not sure what to do. I could see a professional and ask them for advice, without saying it is her.

I just don't want her to think i'm being horrible, as she'll unlikely think I was trying to help

I'm okay, i'm big enough and strong enough, i'm just really concerned about her.

blinky

Miro - Both

Miroslav

CCStar wrote:

he has started!!!:T

It is a difficult situation for you. You want the best for her.

I thought all of the UK had sun today. Trouble is the !!!!s (neighbours) go outside when it is nice. At least the rain keeps em in.

:T :T :T :j :j :j hopefully he'll finish

Very difficult. When my flatmate said to her yesterday she needs to concentrate on herself and not people who have hurt her, she went all funny on my flatmate. You can't challenge her or try and get her to look at things in another way or she'll tell you to go away. She doesn't even think she's unwell

No sun in my area - South West

Who are the !!!!'s? It's !!!!'d you out

Miroslav

blinky wrote:

Miro - Both

Is he really immature?

I mean, I believe you are 34, he's older so at his age....

As you will have been told many times before i'm sure, you have responsibilities as a brother, but aren't responsible for him.

Has he left now, or is he still with you? Will you see him again soon? Christmas or New Year?

blinky

Miroslav wrote:

Is he really immature?

I mean, I believe you are 34, he's older so at his age....

As you will have been told many times before i'm sure, you have responsibilities as a brother, but aren't responsible for him.

Has he left now, or is he still with you? Will you see him again soon? Christmas or New Year?

No, he's not really immature but not what you'd expect for a 36 year old

Not sure when I'll see him again. Won't be Christmas or New Year (I'm on call New Year so I'll be in the house on my own and 'R' is away ).

EthelBloggs

Afternoon peeps

got a rotten cold, feeling bleugh and worst of all... my voice is gone!!!! (although some mght see that as a positive, lol) my dr has no apptments til friday but they said ring at 4pm n they'll try get me in to see him - I'm gonna ask him if he can intervene somehow in the situation with my daughter cos i'm getting to the end of my rope with it all. Every time someone speaks to me i start blubbing.. !!!!!! this morning i was crying cos i needed someting to drink to ease my throat. i even cried at the postman!! :eek:

Miro.. re the rmemebrance things.. it mgiht be worth asking in the undertaker office.. might seem abit morbid but i reckon if anyone would know.. they would.

Blinky.. family sucks don't it? I have this thing with my cousin.. she was brought up with me after both her parents died and she's always resented me for it and my mum too.... she drags things up at every opportunity and it seems she remembers things completely differently than the rest of us do :mad: my mum gets really upset.. I just tell her to go get therapy! !!!!!! I was 1 yr old when she came to live with us (she was 7) and she resents me for stuff i sposedly did when i was a baby :rolleyes:

Tiff_2

Miroslav wrote:

I'm not sure what to do. I could see a professional and ask them for advice, without saying it is her.

I just don't want her to think i'm being horrible, as she'll unlikely think I was trying to help

I'm okay, i'm big enough and strong enough, i'm just really concerned about her.

Hi miro hun - just popped in.
Just quickly scanned your posts hun. If her family don't admit her today hun, please call your local Community Mental Health Team and/or the Crisis Team -there 24 hours hun - & tell them the whole situation. It's strictly confidential - she would never know who referred her. I would also make sure to tell them that she doesn't usually open the door - that's important too. But you must give them her details because I don't think the "I have a friend..." approach is ever a good idea in situations like this.

With much love and respect to you miro, this takes the decision about what help she may need, out of your hands hun. As much as you care for her, you're not the professional she needs to evaluate her objectively. You have to realise this. Let the professionals make the decision and that will also help to take away any guilt you may feel about calling them.

I know your heart's with her hun but you've already said she's got a tough few days coming up - do you honestly think she's going to improve? If you saw a stranger suffering like this angel, you know you'd do it - so do it for s hun.

And if s is admitted, you can still be all she needs miro. I know how much you don't want to do this angel but you've got to put your feelings aside and do what's best for s. And yes hun, you are strong and caring but you just said a few posts back that you've got a tough 3 months coming up (we'll be here for you too ).

Be glad that you and fm are there to get the help she so needs and that she's not alone, with no-one to help her when she needed it most. That's the best kind of friend you can be to her hun.
So extra Tiff hugs to you angel.
I'm sure I'm going to get my snout smacked for my advice so I'll be under the table if anyone wants me.;)
Much Love,
Tiff xxx