depression

Tiff_2

Good morning guys!:hello:
What a weekend huh?!
Huge Monday hugs to rose, saz, miro, cc, ethel, blinky, gilly,gemini, bunnie, elona, stenny, fg, ruby, flis, betty and the whole wonderful gang. :grouphug:
to cif! As you've found out - there are some real sweethearts on here hun.;) I hope you'll stay around and keep us posted.
I wish you all a magical Monday (:rolleyes: !) from wonderfully warm Warwickshire(NOT!:D ). So many posts, so little time guys so I'll be doing it in shifts today. Look after yourselves guys.
TIFFY'S SEASONAL TIP 1:
As a gift for your family, friends and your not-so-favourite people, direct them to an IQ test site as a stocking filler! That'll show 'em just what depression feels like!!!:rotfl:
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Miroslav wrote:

Arrrrrgggghhhh!!!!!!!!!

'S' is in BIG trouble, she's lost the plot!

I picked up my flatmate and saw 'S', who hugged me and spoke to me She seemed fine if a little hyper, especially when I gave her some chocolate.

Anyway, flatmate is glad to be home

1 - When flatmate was in another room to her, 'S' was speaking to someone who wasn't even there and laughing with them. No-one was there She's talking to nothing - we think she thought her Mum was there

2 - She was trying to pull her hair out today

3 - She was talking really quick without many breath's, panicking about everything, she is really not well - she see's her Dad and sister for the first time in a year tomorrow and is really worried, her Mum's passing anniversary is on Thursday

4 - Her Sister's Birthday is tomorrow - she's got her a present and a card - she has signed the card from her and her Mum.

5 - She's been really physically sick from all the stress

6 - She has written out loads of Christmas cards to people she hasn't known for years - with all the old addresses........people that have hurt her and everything

Loads more I can't remember in this post

She wants to see me Thursday and go to the cinema, rather than go to her mum's grave. She says she can't go back as too many bad memories and doesn't want to see people she used to know.

I've offered to take her there, to go straight there, go the grave and come straight back, I doubt she will want to, but......

I'm really scared She's losing it

Hi miro!
Hope you're okay angel. I don't have the time right now hun to get into everything with you as much as I'd like t, but I'll be back later. When is her support worker due there? It would be to contact her housing association/council and suport worker who may be monitoring her and filling them in so the girl can get some expert help. She's already in a state bless her and I think she now needs something more than you and your flatmate can give her - which is no reflection on either of you.
If you are very worried about her, call the community mental health team or the crisis team - which, tbh, is probably the best idea. If fm knows details of 's's care team, please call them hun. Could you contact adult social services to see if she has a social worker? How about her GP? Although they won't discuss her problems with either of you, you can still call and tell them what you've told us.
By doing this angel, you'll be making sure she's safe. She sounds too fragile and vulnerable and needs medical help hun. It's the last thing anyone wants to do I know but the problem is now bigger than you and fm can help her with. It's the kindest thing you can do miro. You can still support and love her. You've been a sweetheart to her angel and I know how much you feel for her.:T But you also have to think about your own health angel and it's now time to get the professionals help to protect her and help her. I know you'll not want to do this hun - I do understand but it's best now to get her the extra help she deserves. You have to lay your personal feelings aside and do what's best for her angel Don't feel bad hun (I know you miro!) - it's the best solution for everyone - especially s.
Huge Tiff Hugs Miro
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Miroslav wrote:

Hopeless....

Tried looking on district and town council sites.....nothing

It's probably a poor idea for 'S', I just want to make things better for her

Hun, just a Tiff thought, but there are other options than trees. How about a rose planted somewhere? You can even get a rose named after someone or even a star, for between £20 - £30. How about a plant?
However, the best thing you can do is get her help now, as I've said angel. It may be treading dangerous ground to leave her until Thursday. You've got to do what's best for her hun, no matter how much it hurts you. You can't save her alone angel.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

gillette147

Hello all,

Read back so welcome to cifpower - cheers.

CC - Sounds like a normal weekend in your house xx
Sazzy, Ethel, Tiff, stenny, macca, miro et all - Hugs and handshakes.
feelie - gonna miss you like crazy!

Ive been silly recently - staying up all nite listening to the cricket and sleeping in the day (or not at all). While listening, I have sorted out my music collection (huge - 113GB of mp3s). I've been obsessive about it.

My mood is good - but ive got to fill out bupa and dole forms tomora. Must get out there and buy xmas too. Mood helped by my back actually feeling like normal for last three days - its like im a normal person in back terms anyway.

My ear on the other hand is bad - alot of hedaches and i went out friday nite and could hardly hear anyone. I dont know if it is nose bockage related or something worse - and I'm not sure I want to bother the specialist over this (and also maybe have to pay £70) if there's nothing actually different to last time.

I'm waiting for letter/call from counsellor - before i go up home to brum. Prob go on saturday - gives me time to xmas shop sort stuff out and means i'm away from net less.

Good luck with all your mondays

xx

blinky

EthelBloggs wrote:

Evenin all...... I'm knackered!!!!!!!

daughter is back in the clinic after another night in A & E. She decided to play butcher on her arms about 30 mins after the support worker left yesterday.

Friday night she decided to do a runner while i was sleeping and the police found her at nearly 4am at the start of the M1.. !!!! knows how she got there she had on pyjamas in the pouring rain.. it was freezing too

sooo.. im looking like a leaky panda - can barely keep my eyes open but i've got to produce a newsletter by tomorrow morning soo.. gonna try n do that before i go sleep.

Sorry i've not replied to everyone again.. I'llm ake up for it in the week.. promise

Tiffy.. she's got no official diagnosis, but she's anorexic, bulimic, psychotic, social phobic, paranoid, possibly schizophrenic (not confirmed yet) possibly depressed, and a whole list of other stuff i can't rmemeber, lol

Oh hun,
Wish I could give you a real hug - you could really do with one at the moment.

blinky

Miroslav wrote:

She doesn't accept help and certainly would not accept someone going with her to the doctor.

As it is, when I try and help her, I have to do it in such a way, she thinks she is doing me a favour.

It's really scary though, I can't do much to help her, as she'll see me the way she sees everyone else if I 'tell her what to do'

She stamps her feet like a kid if you dare disagree with her

The first step to getting help with a problem is to admit that you actually have a problem. If 'S' won't admit it there's only so much you can do.

Miroslav

Morning Tiff :wave:

Her support worker is usually 2 hours on a Friday If she lets her in. Flatmate says she was knocking for like 10 minutes yesterday, hearing her inside before she answered

I'm worried about calling these people in. What if they don't take her seriously? She comes across fine, it's only when you spend time with her you really notice. I don't want anyone upsetting her at the moment.

I had a really bad nightmare that she was being taken away and she was crying and begging for me to stop them, and I couldn't do anything, I woke up in tears.

She is seeing her dad and sister today. They will notice if this happens and will have no hesitation hospitalising her. They live literally 1 minute walk from the hospital!

I really hope it doesn't come to that. I'd like to find out who her support team are (I actually used to know one of the women) but I just can't go up to her supported housing and ask!

I really don't know what to do, I just want her to be ok..........well, better than ok, but right now, ok would be as best as we can hope for

Tiff wrote:

Hi miro!
Hope you're okay angel. I don't have the time right now hun to get into everything with you as much as I'd like t, but I'll be back later. When is her support worker due there? It would be to contact her housing association/council and suport worker who may be monitoring her and filling them in so the girl can get some expert help. She's already in a state bless her and I think she now needs something more than you and your flatmate can give her - which is no reflection on either of you.
If you are very worried about her, call the community mental health team or the crisis team - which, tbh, is probably the best idea. If fm knows details of 's's care team, please call them hun. Could you contact adult social services to see if she has a social worker? How about her GP? Although they won't discuss her problems with either of you, you can still call and tell them what you've told us.
By doing this angel, you'll be making sure she's safe. She sounds too fragile and vulnerable and needs medical help hun. It's the last thing anyone wants to do I know but the problem is now bigger than you and fm can help her with. It's the kindest thing you can do miro. You can still support and love her. You've been a sweetheart to her angel and I know how much you feel for her.:T But you also have to think about your own health angel and it's now time to get the professionals help to protect her and help her. I know you'll not want to do this hun - I do understand but it's best now to get her the extra help she deserves. You have to lay your personal feelings aside and do what's best for her angel Don't feel bad hun (I know you miro!) - it's the best solution for everyone - especially s.
Huge Tiff Hugs Miro
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Miroslav

Tiff wrote:

Hun, just a Tiff thought, but there are other options than trees. How about a rose planted somewhere? You can even get a rose named after someone or even a star, for between £20 - £30. How about a plant?
However, the best thing you can do is get her help now, as I've said angel. It may be treading dangerous ground to leave her until Thursday. You've got to do what's best for her hun, no matter how much it hurts you. You can't save her alone angel.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

I want to get her something she can keep or continuously visit Thanks for the ideas, I can look into them

I don't know what's best for her. What if she is okay and was just having a bad day? I really don't know what to do, flatmate & I are all she really has, I don't want to hurt her by going behind her back, she may never trust me again, and I need to be there to look out for her.

Miroslav

gillette147 wrote:

Hello all,

Read back so welcome to cifpower - cheers.

CC - Sounds like a normal weekend in your house xx
Sazzy, Ethel, Tiff, stenny, macca, miro et all - Hugs and handshakes.
feelie - gonna miss you like crazy!

Ive been silly recently - staying up all nite listening to the cricket and sleeping in the day (or not at all). While listening, I have sorted out my music collection (huge - 113GB of mp3s). I've been obsessive about it.

My mood is good - but ive got to fill out bupa and dole forms tomora. Must get out there and buy xmas too. Mood helped by my back actually feeling like normal for last three days - its like im a normal person in back terms anyway.

My ear on the other hand is bad - alot of hedaches and i went out friday nite and could hardly hear anyone. I dont know if it is nose bockage related or something worse - and I'm not sure I want to bother the specialist over this (and also maybe have to pay £70) if there's nothing actually different to last time.

I'm waiting for letter/call from counsellor - before i go up home to brum. Prob go on saturday - gives me time to xmas shop sort stuff out and means i'm away from net less.

Good luck with all your mondays

xx

Listening to the cricket - now that is depression with the way England are playing. Only the name Monty Panesar can be anything but depressing.

Sounds like a few things going on at the moment. Hope you get your ear and counselling sorted soon......good luck with the forms :eek:

Miroslav

blinky wrote:

The first step to getting help with a problem is to admit that you actually have a problem. If 'S' won't admit it there's only so much you can do.

I just don't know what to do

I've met someone who is at times adoreable and other times unwell.

I'm really scared for her, but she won't let anyone too far in to help her.