depression

Miroslav

Sazbo wrote:

Maybe best look on it as a friendship for the time being, to save yourself from getting hurt, Miro hun? Then see how things progress from there? Sx

Well, I am looking at friendship foremost, but even that is a struggle with this girl.

cifpower

stenny wrote:

Sorry about that and I can imagine it would have hit you hard!
Are you back in contact with rest of the family?

I'm not, no. Not even sure they live where I used to. Currently, I have no compulsion to contact them. Basically because my mother backed up my father fully. That was the most difficult thing to deal with as I was very close to her.

Sazbo

cifpower wrote:

I'm not, no. Not even sure they live where I used to. Currently, I have no compulsion to contact them. Basically because my mother backed up my father fully. That was the most difficult thing to deal with as I was very close to her.

I can relate to that, in the sense that my mother always, always backed up my father. Even when it was blindly obvious he was in the wrong, even when it was clear that her doing so hurt me terribly. I think she does regret it now, but at the time I could only put it down to her being traditionally minded, that the husband must be supported before anyone else, children included. Not that that makes it ok of course. It doesn't. But tradition and conformity are straitjackets that many people find it impossible to break out of, even if it means hurting their nearest and dearest. But it sounds from what you say that you are putting support mechanisms in place to help you deal with past hurts. And I wish you all the very best with that. Sazx

Miroslav

Arrrrrgggghhhh!!!!!!!!!

'S' is in BIG trouble, she's lost the plot!

I picked up my flatmate and saw 'S', who hugged me and spoke to me She seemed fine if a little hyper, especially when I gave her some chocolate.

Anyway, flatmate is glad to be home

1 - When flatmate was in another room to her, 'S' was speaking to someone who wasn't even there and laughing with them. No-one was there She's talking to nothing - we think she thought her Mum was there

2 - She was trying to pull her hair out today

3 - She was talking really quick without many breath's, panicking about everything, she is really not well - she see's her Dad and sister for the first time in a year tomorrow and is really worried, her Mum's passing anniversary is on Thursday

4 - Her Sister's Birthday is tomorrow - she's got her a present and a card - she has signed the card from her and her Mum.

5 - She's been really physically sick from all the stress

6 - She has written out loads of Christmas cards to people she hasn't known for years - with all the old addresses........people that have hurt her and everything

Loads more I can't remember in this post

She wants to see me Thursday and go to the cinema, rather than go to her mum's grave. She says she can't go back as too many bad memories and doesn't want to see people she used to know.

I've offered to take her there, to go straight there, go the grave and come straight back, I doubt she will want to, but......

I'm really scared She's losing it

Sazbo

Miroslav wrote:

Arrrrrgggghhhh!!!!!!!!!

'S' is in BIG trouble, she's lost the plot!

I picked up my flatmate and saw 'S', who hugged me and spoke to me She seemed fine if a little hyper, especially when I gave her some chocolate.

Anyway, flatmate is glad to be home

1 - When flatmate was in another room to her, 'S' was speaking to someone who wasn't even there and laughing with them. No-one was there She's talking to nothing - we think she thought her Mum was there

2 - She was trying to pull her hair out today

3 - She was talking really quick without many breath's, panicking about everything, she is really not well - she see's her Dad and sister for the first time in a year tomorrow and is really worried, her Mum's passing anniversary is on Thursday

4 - Her Sister's Birthday is tomorrow - she's got her a present and a card - she has signed the card from her and her Mum.

5 - She's been really physically sick from all the stress

6 - She has written out loads of Christmas cards to people she hasn't known for years - with all the old addresses........people that have hurt her and everything

Loads more I can't remember in this post

She wants to see me Thursday and go to the cinema, rather than go to her mum's grave. She says she can't go back as too many bad memories and doesn't want to see people she used to know.

I've offered to take her there, to go straight there, go the grave and come straight back, I doubt she will want to, but......

I'm really scared She's losing it

Miro, do you know if she's getting any professional support or treatment? Sx

Miroslav

Sazbo wrote:

Miro, do you know if she's getting any professional support or treatment? Sx

She gets 2 hours support work at her accomodation, per week. Not sure what it entails though.

Flatmate got a bit funny with her today, and upset her a bit.........oops

geminilady

Miroslav wrote:

Arrrrrgggghhhh!!!!!!!!!

'S' is in BIG trouble, she's lost the plot!

I picked up my flatmate and saw 'S', who hugged me and spoke to me She seemed fine if a little hyper, especially when I gave her some chocolate.

Anyway, flatmate is glad to be home

1 - When flatmate was in another room to her, 'S' was speaking to someone who wasn't even there and laughing with them. No-one was there She's talking to nothing - we think she thought her Mum was there

2 - She was trying to pull her hair out today

3 - She was talking really quick without many breath's, panicking about everything, she is really not well - she see's her Dad and sister for the first time in a year tomorrow and is really worried, her Mum's passing anniversary is on Thursday

4 - Her Sister's Birthday is tomorrow - she's got her a present and a card - she has signed the card from her and her Mum.

5 - She's been really physically sick from all the stress

6 - She has written out loads of Christmas cards to people she hasn't known for years - with all the old addresses........people that have hurt her and everything

Loads more I can't remember in this post

She wants to see me Thursday and go to the cinema, rather than go to her mum's grave. She says she can't go back as too many bad memories and doesn't want to see people she used to know.

I've offered to take her there, to go straight there, go the grave and come straight back, I doubt she will want to, but......

I'm really scared She's losing it

Well the only point i would be really worried about is the first one,laughing and talkng when there is no one there is quite strange and i am no doctor but it is one of the symptons of schizophrenia.The rest of your points can be put down to her being really stressed over meeting her dad and sister.I suppose all you can do is keep a closer eye on her and suggest she visits the doctor.Maybe your flatmate could offer to go with her?

Sazbo

Miroslav wrote:

She gets 2 hours support work at her accomodation, per week. Not sure what it entails though.

Flatmate got a bit funny with her today, and upset her a bit.........oops

I guess it's difficult to know what that entails from the outside. But it does seem though she needs more professional support than what she's getting? Understandable you're finding it hard trying to help if that's the case. But just my thoughts. Sx

Horasio

stenny wrote:

Hellooooooooo all you lovely people;)
How did your weekends go?

I have been on top form apart from a panic attack yesterday,
It always happens when i drive on a motorway!

How did your night out go sazbo did you kill anyone?

:rotfl:

Hi

Fairly quiet weekend here, nothing very exciting

I feel panicky on motorways too. I reckon it is because you are not allowed to stop and it is miles between services. On A roads, at least it is more interesting too. I know you can get off at exits but it seems more trapped.

Miroslav

geminilady wrote:

Well the only point i would be really worried about is the first one,laughing and talkng when there is no one there is quite strange and i am no doctor but it is one of the symptons of schizophrenia.The rest of your points can be put down to her being really stressed over meeting her dad and sister.I suppose all you can do is keep a closer eye on her and suggest she visits the doctor.Maybe your flatmate could offer to go with her?

I'd love to keep a closer eye on her, but she withdraws. Every week or so, we pop a card/chocolate or anything to remind her we are there into her post box, which she loves.

I wouldn't dare suggest the Doctor, she'd never talk to me again. I daren't go against anything she says :eek:

I've offered to go with her, flatmate is booked up