depression

Tiff_2

CCStar wrote:

...Our son is one of those fearless slim types that can go anywhere. He has been doing it since he was 11 and done an excellent job. He enjoyed it too.
I have got a bruise on my arm today. I haven't shown it to my husband yet, it didn't appear till this morning.

I was on the phone to my mother yesterday and considering sending him to her next week, he has no work and is scheduled to tidy his room Monday and Tuesday before Wednesday before he is allowed to socialise again. But my mother and I have thought he is needed to help her out down south before we arrive. It also gets him out of my sight.

Hi cc:hello:
Hope you're ok hun. What did you fall on cc?
Great idea re sending DS to Mum in advance. As you say, she'll need to be prepared for all of you coming. Sounds like you could use the breathing space too. Happy Clearing hun!;)
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

:hello: cc!

CCStar wrote:

Our son has been buying his friends with his money. He has a car and he is Mr D with the car. We have taken his card from him that can be used to withdraw money

Good idea to withdraw his card for now - only sensible. As for buying friends and the car situation hun, it's a common mistake among a lot of teenagers. He has to learn by his own mistakes as we all do.:o

He split from his long standing girlfriend this year but wonder if she has influenced his bad behaviour. I am not sad about her not being in his life, she wasn't his 'class' - I know that sounds snobby but you have to be a strong minded person to go out with people out of your class. If you are easily influenced, they tend to bring you down. Her BIL took weed and he obviously tried it, as she did too. He was also taking money from his accounts since 2003. It affected his personality and attitude which upset us.

He has to make his own choices hun. I think a person's heart is what counts rather than class - the feudal system's long gone for most. After all, we're given the opportunities and choices, so I believe we have to accept responsibility for our own actions rather than assume it was due to someone else in our lives being of a 'lower' class. There are people from a range of backgrounds with high moral standards and decency. As has been said before, any drug will affect someone's personality cc - nobody wants anyone they love to go down that road. But all in all, it was his choice. You can be easily influenced whatever your class cc.

I feel a bit to blame as this house has made me miserable since early on. We had a task to do it up and live here for a while but it has been a nightmare of a house, without any problems from our son. He may have picked up on that but it has been horrible and I needed more support.

That seems to be the mainstay of your problems angel - you need more support for yourself as well as for everything else. Being a homeowner carries a burden of responsibility and it's a nightmare when you move into the equivalent of the house in 'The Money Pit'.:o

I had a serious op two years ago to sort out my hormones which has made me less aggressive but a person can only take so much provocation from family, bad luck and horrible neighbours!

I'm glad the surgery was helpful hun. And you're right, a lot of provocation will make anyone snap. Are you still being monitored after the op re your hormone levels hun?

I do a review of my year and my findings about this year is my husband has failed as a husband and father by shouting at me and putting ME down when I was upset by our son. The neighbours have been sh*te. The only happy times were when we went away. As soon as I have to come home, I feel depressed.

At least you've had chances to get away from it all.:T I hope things will improve once the house is gone angel.

The neighbours have made more effort putting up lights etc. The last two years have been like Blackpool illuminations at our house.
As I feel so unhappy here, I am protesting and having NO lights at all.

cc, the lights might actually cheer you up. Celebrate it being the last Christmas in that house. It sounds positive that your neighbours are trying to brighten the street up.;)

Then the 'For Sale' sign will be going up next month. We couldn't put a tree up as there are boxes in the living room. Our son had the chance to put them up and it isn't worth it as he will be taking them down v soon again after new year. It is sad really. Thankfully when I go out I can escape the misery and have a nice Christmas. We are going away to my mums but hope our son doesn't spoil it. We had a nice time last year without him.

I see your point hun but all of us only get them out for a couple of weeks. Don't deprive yourself of whatever decorations you can put up just for the sake of being angry. With all that the neighbours are doing, it'll only bring you down more. At least you'l be somewhere you want for Christmas. Where did DS go last Christmas cc? Good luck hun - I can see you've got a load of work ahead.;)
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

feelinggood_2

I'm awake and dressed before 9:30am, yay!!

Just wanted to send big big hugs to everyone, I hope you all have a lovely, relaxing saturday.

Mclaren, hope you enjoy the game - cricket wasn't it? Hope travelling isn't too bad getting there. You still feeling tired? x

And to everyone putting up with miserable, moody and manipulative men (ooh alliteration!) - continue to be as strong as you are and ignore them. A break away is always a good idea, I bet I'll return half sane!!

Take care everyone,
And keep you fingers crossed that my wireless network will work up north so I can get on here

Love and hugs to all that want them

P.S Miro hun, I will PM you when I next log in, hope you are okay x x x x

Horasio

Tiff wrote:

Hi cc:hello:
Hope you're ok hun. What did you fall on cc?
Great idea re sending DS to Mum in advance. As you say, she'll need to be prepared for all of you coming. Sounds like you could use the breathing space too. Happy Clearing hun!;)
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

I don't think he will be going early. He has two rooms to sort out. I am dreading tomorrow and Tuesday, alone with the moron.

I fell on the floor but where he grabbed my arm is where I got bruised.

He will be home at 10pm tonight, he is working so fair enough, but no more work till the new year and he isn't back at uni till the 8th.

He will probably go out Wednesday, home Thursday, then out till Sunday morning, so we get some peace. We leave late afternoon Sunday.

Horasio

Tiff wrote:

:hello: cc!

CCStar wrote:

Our son has been buying his friends with his money. He has a car and he is Mr D with the car. We have taken his card from him that can be used to withdraw money

Good idea to withdraw his card for now - only sensible. As for buying friends and the car situation hun, it's a common mistake among a lot of teenagers. He has to learn by his own mistakes as we all do.:o

He split from his long standing girlfriend this year but wonder if she has influenced his bad behaviour. I am not sad about her not being in his life, she wasn't his 'class' - I know that sounds snobby but you have to be a strong minded person to go out with people out of your class. If you are easily influenced, they tend to bring you down. Her BIL took weed and he obviously tried it, as she did too. He was also taking money from his accounts since 2003. It affected his personality and attitude which upset us.

He has to make his own choices hun. I think a person's heart is what counts rather than class - the feudal system's long gone for most. After all, we're given the opportunities and choices, so I believe we have to accept responsibility for our own actions rather than assume it was due to someone else in our lives being of a 'lower' class. There are people from a range of backgrounds with high moral standards and decency. As has been said before, any drug will affect someone's personality cc - nobody wants anyone they love to go down that road. But all in all, it was his choice. You can be easily influenced whatever your class cc.

I feel a bit to blame as this house has made me miserable since early on. We had a task to do it up and live here for a while but it has been a nightmare of a house, without any problems from our son. He may have picked up on that but it has been horrible and I needed more support.

That seems to be the mainstay of your problems angel - you need more support for yourself as well as for everything else. Being a homeowner carries a burden of responsibility and it's a nightmare when you move into the equivalent of the house in 'The Money Pit'.:o

I had a serious op two years ago to sort out my hormones which has made me less aggressive but a person can only take so much provocation from family, bad luck and horrible neighbours!

I'm glad the surgery was helpful hun. And you're right, a lot of provocation will make anyone snap. Are you still being monitored after the op re your hormone levels hun?

I do a review of my year and my findings about this year is my husband has failed as a husband and father by shouting at me and putting ME down when I was upset by our son. The neighbours have been sh*te. The only happy times were when we went away. As soon as I have to come home, I feel depressed.

At least you've had chances to get away from it all.:T I hope things will improve once the house is gone angel.

The neighbours have made more effort putting up lights etc. The last two years have been like Blackpool illuminations at our house.
As I feel so unhappy here, I am protesting and having NO lights at all.
I see your point hun but all of us only get them out for a couple of weeks. Don't deprive yourself of whatever decorations you can put up just for the sake of being angry. With all that the neighbours are doing, it'll only bring you down more. At least you'l be somewhere you want for Christmas. Where did DS go last Christmas cc? Good luck hun - I can see you've got a load of work ahead.;)
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

I would put them up but I now actually HATE our lights now.

It is fine seeing other people's when I am out. I am rebelling this year and I am away over Christmas anyway. Making a point I will not join in with the neighbours, it is hypocritical, they have caused me so much stress this year, and a major reason why I want to move, so why waste time and electricity on something we won't see?

We have a couple of indoor decorations in rooms we use JUST FOR US!!

Sazbo

Hi everyone :hello: Apologies for not being around much yesterday. Been feeling tired and a bit drained after the weeks events. Then I had to grit my teeth and go out among the frantic hordes of xmas shoppers:rolleyes: Didn't go to Oxford Street so avoided the worst of it. Had to get presents for friends at work, to give to them this week. Decided I wasn't going to spend a lot of money though, I'm just not going to get sucked into that any longer - over-spending on presents. It's just wasteful. So today just need to find the energy/enthusiasm to wrap them... ditto for doing laundry and other chores.

Hope you're all ok. Feelie - keep up the good work, hope you have a good xmas hun. Fingers crossed for wireless!:) Blinky - don't you be going anywhere; you give us hope!:) Bunnie - have you spoken to your husband about how you're feeling? Miro - I'm PMing you in a min. CCStar, Mclaren, Stenny, Gilly, Ethel - how are things going with you guys today? Tiffy hun have you had your catnap today? You need it after look after all of us!:D Love ya hun. Big hugs to you all xxx

Much love to all our friends especially Rosie (Yay, Leona won!), Elona, Geminilady, Sleepy, flissy, mushypeas, and you all wonderful peeps I've missed.

Have a good day,
Love Sazzx

Miroslav

geminilady wrote:

Yes i know what you mean about christmas being a family time but i try and remember that there are lots of people who spend christmas on their own so even though its just me and the boys we will still have a good time.Maybe "S" was not that close to her mum,not everyone is.lol u sound shocked at my boys ages,i am 49,quite an old mum but modern in my outlook."mummies boys "? i don't know we are close but i'v brought them up to be independant they can cook ect and as the oldest only works a couple of hours he does the housework.Hopefully it will be ok with "N" its just a trust thing,everyone brings bagage into a relationship.We both find it hard to trust because of our pasts and part of me thinks he might just be using me but if he just wanted sex why would he have been happy being a text friend for 4 yrs?.I suppose its down to low self esteem and because i always care too much, just can't believe someone i care about would feal the same about me.

Yeah, it's sad when people are on there own. I've been there and it's not very nice

Not shocked, maybe that the eldest still lives at home, but I left home as soon as I turned 16.

Sounds just like me, trusting is very hard and you question every small thing

blinky

Tiff wrote:

Good morning blinky:hello:
Nope, I've decided - you've got to stay here and suffer like the rest of us!
You're family now hun - we're a bit like the Mafia in that respect...we don't like people to leave ... and don't even think about making a run for it!http://images.google.co.uk/images?q=tbn:OZ8ROkjcjDXvTM:http://www.visualjokes.com/funny/funny%2520pictures%2520supercat.jpg

I know you'll be seeing r today hun so good luck with that.;) You know I was only joking. It's nice to have some holiday cheer angel.:T Hope you're well. Have a great day blinky.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

I knew you were joking but the offer to leave still stands...

blinky

EthelBloggs wrote:

Don't you dare!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks hun, that means a lot

Hope you are feeling better soon

Miroslav

I look forward to the PM's i've been offered

Alot of housework to do today, so just q uick post.

Flatmate is seeing 'S' today, and will probably pick her up around 9pm.

'S', in her weird way, phoned flatmate yesterday and said her credit was running out (possible, but knowing her....) and said my phone wasn't working (it is!) but asked her to ask me if I wanted to go Cinema Thurs or Fri

Now, as far as i'm aware, Thursday is the anniversary of her Mother passing and she was going to see her mother's grave but she sometimes talks of her Mother fondly and sometimes seems not bothered

She confuses me ALOT.

Flatmate insists she likes me alot, but I just don't see it.

Flatmate is gonna have to text me on her behalf today, as she's apparently out of credit.

Whatever happens, will likely be cancelled anyway.

I'm really up and down with her. Lovely girl, stinking communication skills

I'm not sure I need the hassle, but I didn't choose to have feelings