depression

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Tiff wrote:

Hi mc!
Hope your arm is okay hun. I think it would be worth pursuing mc - apart from anything else, if it had happened to an 8 year old, they could have lost an eye!
Much love
Tiff xxx

He should go ahead and sue

A woman got killed in Edinburgh and another badly injured, due to negligent workmanship.

blinky

feelinggood wrote:

Heylo again guys
I've just had a big, emotional talk with OH (could call it a row really) and he said something that I needed him to say to help me move on with my life.
One thing I've been worrying about, is that by leaving, I'll make him miserable. He told me today that I make him miserable now. So, I can't really upset him anymore, so I don't need to feel guilty about that.
I've decided to spend a week or so at my Parents house - I need space away from him to clear my head and allow myself to be a little happier.
The plan moves forward.
I am leaving him. Will get on to the IB people and sort that out.
I will carry on with my treatment even though OH doesn't want me to.
I will talk about my problems, even though he tells me not to.
I will be happy.
I've had a few very low days lately, and I'm feeling a little annoyed with the lack of help I've recieved, not only from my GP, but from other sources (Gave up waiting at A&E as I didn't get to see anyone). But, I'll carry on with it - need to go back to the doctors tomorrow to get more tablets as I'll be away over xmas.
I'm feeling okay now, I'm finally feeling 'safe' again, which is a tremendous relief, most of the thoughts and urges are past, so I feel that I can be back around you guys again.
I'm sorry for going, I hope you understand that I did it for your own sakes, and I hope no one worried - but its not a good idea for me to be posting when I'm in that danger zone.
I'm still a little unhappy, I'm still a little low, but I'm feeling hopeful. I know what needs to be done, I've just got to do it!
I'm probably heading back up north on Monday, and I'm unlikely to be online very much, but I will be thinking of you all, and happy xmas to those who are having xmas, and just have a good day on that day to all of you who aren't celebrating this year. But anyways, I'm here till I leave, so I'll say this all again.
I also want to take this opportunity to say a huge Thank You to everyone who's helped me through this time, its been a very upsetting, very stressful and very scary time, and its helped me more than I can describe knowing that I'm not alone. I'm very happy that I don't have to walk this road alone any more
Thats that, I will shut up now.
Oh, and one last thing - today is my 20th day without smoking or drinking!

Best wishes for your time away. You've been brave in making a decision to leave your OH and it sounds like it's for the best. It will lower your stress level and you can take your medication without disapproving looks.

Good luck with the IB claim as well.

Have a good Christmas and New Year.



Paul

Horasio

Tiff wrote:

Hi cc!
Sounds like you had a good vent here angel. Pardon my muzzle hun, but you seem to have so much anger in you. This would be natural after a sad 20 years. I guess (bite my head off if I'm wrong!;) ) that you don't really mean wishing you hadn't had DS. You did the right thing in putting DS back in his place.:T

When things are so low hun, everything becomes catastrophised (yes, a real psychology word guys!:rolleyes: ), and very black and white. What then happens, it's hard to keep ourselves calm because we're so angry and hurt.
You're going to be having a really hard time because of the m-i-l situation too. That's a tough call about when to go angel. If you don't go now, well, you know what may happen...can you live with that hun? Not a criticism to you in any way hun. It's just that sometimes asking ourselves the simplest of questions helps us find the answer.
You seem to be shouting out for support and love and appreciation and because you're not getting it, I think your anger jumps up. But you're a clever cc and know all this. I just want you to know that I care and am sending a Tiff hug to you.
If you feel any worse hun, go see the gp - you shouldn't have to be feeling like this. And you know the gang's always here cc.
Much Love
Tiff xxx

A GP can't change our family dynamics

I need to get rid of what is bugging me.

I need to live alone. I can't live with people.

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elona wrote:

Tiff, sweetie

When you pin your ears back and go for it - you are awesome! Agree with every word you said to Ethel and I could not have put it better.

Gilly
Please see another GP - one for whom the space between the ears is reserved for listening and thinking - not fobbing off!

CC

Just be good to yourself for a while - you deserve it.

Feeling good

Can you appeal against the assessment and get someona at CAB or disability place to help you word appeal?

Big hug to everyone - trying to find out what hair dye works on nearly 100% grey - I thought it was a rather fetching silver but DD (12) has just informed me it is white - then looked horrified when I looked upset.

Bless her she did not mean to upset me - found out that going grey early is one of the signs of early hypothyroid disorder - so hardly surprising!
She hastily pointed out that I did not have wrinkles and then fled precipitately!

Sitting here sipping a cup of soup and burning a candle in memory od DH's best friend who died in October and still has not been cremated because of confusion over next of kin. For everyone's sake I hope this gets resolved as it is so upsetting , especially for DH as the friend is younger than him.

Ethel
I do not want to sound nasty but is "weed for brains" actually going round to help and support his Mum and Dad or just using the situation as an excuse?
Judging from his behaviour the only person he cares about is himself!

I used to spend heaps dying my hair white - it sounds lovely.

Sorry to hear about the death.

Weed really f*cks people up. I am sure that is why our son is acting odd too. He doesn't smoke now but he did a year ago and think the attitude has stuck.

It really turns them into arrogent a/holes

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Sazbo wrote:

Hi Tiffy hun, I see you've got ya post-faster stripes on today

hun!;)
How you doing?

My blood pressure had come down, until having to wait in ALL DAY today for a builder to come and make repairs to the plaster on my ceilings :mad: Grrrr! Like I have nothing better to do with my time. At 10.30 this morning he said he'd be here at 12.30 and now it's nearly 3pm and stilll no sign. It's probably a 20 min job at most. Why are builders so bl00dy unreliable? Grrr.....sorry guys, end of rant. calm, calm, calm..............

Sxx

Big thing I hate

Unreliable MALE builders


Arrghhhhhhhh!

:mad: :mad: :mad:

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Tiff wrote:

Hi Guys!
Now you all know what I mean when I talk about the Tiff Chronicles!:rolleyes: :rotfl:
Got to go now but hope to look in later. Oh yes, one more thing.....

MIRO!!! What are you up to young man?
Are you ok sweetie? I know things aren't usually good when you're this quiet. I know you'll pop back and fill us in when you can hun and I hope everything's alright angel.
Come on hun - I'll open the smartie cupboard if you come back.;)
Seriously miro, you know where we are if you need us hun.

Take care and be kind to yourself everyone!
Much Love
Tiff xxx

Yes Miro your absence is conspicous

feelinggood_2

Right, just off the phone with my mum, and I am good to stay there - means she gets all her cleaning done!! Lots of jobs lined up for me to do, cleaning helps me think though, its sort of like meditation. Also had a brief chat about situ with OH, think she understands, well, is more understanding than I expected.

stenny_2

feelinggood wrote:

Right, just off the phone with my mum, and I am good to stay there - means she gets all her cleaning done!! Lots of jobs lined up for me to do, cleaning helps me think though, its sort of like meditation. Also had a brief chat about situ with OH, think she understands, well, is more understanding than I expected.

I wish you well,
Take care and you have a wonderful xmas with your mum.

:beer:

stenny_2

CCStar wrote:

I fully agree

but my soft as sh*te husband and mother won't back me!

I am the bad guy for wanting to get him on track.

I have to cook their effing meals and smile and be nice.

I have tried that approach and they walk over me

I can't take it any more

I am so tired after the long drive and my family's sh*te:(

Well go on strike!
If your Hubby won't push him then ignore your son and leave your Hubby to deal with things.

You don't have to cook anyone's meals apart from your own.
If they can't help you, then don't help them!

It's CCstar's time, just you put your feet up and let them get on with things.

stenny_2

CCStar wrote:

The trip yesterday

Felt tired because of lack of sleep but felt good for getting out.

The wind and rain was strong and the A1 and A68 got blocked by fallen lorries and accidents.

Thankfully the A19 and A1 coast road was OK coming back but felt nervous of the winds.

My MIL has lost feeling in her right arm and is scared of losing her independence like driving. She will learn to write and stuff with her left hand.

There were plenty of worse cases in the ward but she is obviously scared.

We all live a long way and it is a long drive for both sons to drive. He has friends but not sure who would help her practically, but she is fiercely independent.

Well she's in the best care now and on a road to recovery
and at least you showed face, she'll better after seeing you all.