depression

Tiff_2

EthelBloggs wrote:

You're dead right... and I'm not going to be a pushover or a doormat. He knows I wont put him on the street but the relationship is over. He's got til payday n that's it. One foot out of line between now and then and he will be out on his ear, skint or not.

You're right about weed.. some ppl can smoke it and be fine.. nicely chilled and relaxed etc... other ppl seem to turn into maniacs... seems he's one of those. I won't live with that EVER

Hi ethel - how are you hun? I know I'm labouring the point angel but you're giving yourself little clues in your posts, like , quote "He knows I won't put him out on the street..." unquote. I'm just worried in case the hairball will find a way to still be with you on the 21st! As I said hun, he knows exactly which buttons to press and will be sly enough to have you watch "It's A Wonderful Life!" with him on the 19th before he does it! Just say the word hun and Tiff'll get rid of the flea for you! :rolleyes:
Just be prepared for the "Where can I find to go so close to the holidays?" and all it's variations. Tell him there's no room at the Inn - that'll get him!:D
Hoping you and yours are well hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

CCStar wrote:

I feel Christmas is no more this year.

Our son's nasty behviour towards us in front on his mate.
My MIL health
My husband's attitude towards me when I feel upset by others.
The garage cancelling the test drive
The Bl**dy awful weather, which stopped him being able to put up the outside lights.

Too much going wrong and trying to bring me down.

Is really spoiling this Christmas build up.

Huge Tiff hugs cc
you hang in there angel! You need some you time hun so take it - you deserve it.;)
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

blinky wrote:

Normally, I hate Christmas for the same reasons - too much stress, too much hype and too much pressure to go happy. I've had too many Christmases were I have been seriously suicidal. Waking up on Christmas Day and to be distressed that you woke up while everyone around you is trying to be happy is almost undescribably bad

This year I'm actually looking forward to Christmas time. I won't be seeing 'R' on Christmas Day or Boxing Day but we are planning our own little Christmas on the 27th :snow_grin :rudolf: :xmastree: :kisses2: 'R's had such a good effect on me. :j

Big Hugs to all

Hi blinky - and cc,
I can understand - I really can. It's all right for you guys - Christmas is hard enough, but when it's your birthday too and you wake up and the first present you get, is another year onto your age, you'll know how I feel! :rotfl:
Maybe it's time to look at Christmas Future for a change instead of at Christmas Past.:o I'm glad things are going so well for you with 'r' blinky - even we can have good times coming though I bet you never thought you'd be feeling like this 4 months ago even? Good for you hun!:T
Right, that's all the positivity you're all getting for this month. If my suggestions don't work, I'll meet you all at the bridge at midnight and we'll all jump together and commit kittycide!:rolleyes: ... You guys'll have to go first though 'cos I'm scared of heights!:D
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

gillette147 wrote:

But she took the fact i've taken so long to mean "I can cope".

Hi again gilly- elona and saz are right hun (as usual!;) )
What she or any other dr you see needs to know is that now, you don't feel like you can cope anymore and that it feels worse. They can only react to how you explain yourself angel - and if it's too hard to say, write it down - many people do it that way. Good luck hun.
Much love
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

elaine373 wrote:

I have wondered lately if i have been depressed alot of my life.How does some-one know? I mean, what if they are sad alot of the time. How would they know what the norm is? Another question. I grew up with a fantastic mother who had to carry the load of her children alone.(Long story but basically we had an alcohoilic father)I was very aware of her struggle and unhappiness . I believe i sometimes set out within my marriage and life (not meaning to,) to behave how she did and to react to things how she did,which is probably what alot of us do after watching our parents behaviour for years. How does one break this cycle? I see things in my kids that i know they have copied so i am concerned that i do all i can , if i can. Is it right to muddle along or should we strive to be happy more than we are sad? IYKWIM.
Bit heavy i know but i would be grateful for any-ones opinion on this.Thanks.

Elaine hun. Come on in - if we can't help, we laugh or listen or both.;)
IMHO, there's no such thing as a perfect person - ergo no such thing as a perfect parent hun. It's the unanswerable nature versus nurture question really isn't it?
If your children are more happy than not, if they know they can come to Mum anytime, if you listen to them, if they know you love them, then you've just about done all you can hun to get it right.
If you think there's a way to be happier, give it a try angel - you've got nothing to lose and it'd be a good example for the children. Equally, the children can think later, look at what Mum has been through and she still managed to look after us - and they'll feel proud then too.
Just a Tiffy thought hun.
Best Wishes
Tiff xxx

Sazbo

elona wrote:

Big hug to everyone - trying to find out what hair dye works on nearly 100% grey - I thought it was a rather fetching silver but DD (12) has just informed me it is white - then looked horrified when I looked upset.

Bless her she did not mean to upset me - found out that going grey early is one of the signs of early hypothyroid disorder - so hardly surprising!
She hastily pointed out that I did not have wrinkles and then fled precipitately!

Sitting here sipping a cup of soup and burning a candle in memory od DH's best friend who died in October and still has not been cremated because of confusion over next of kin. For everyone's sake I hope this gets resolved as it is so upsetting , especially for DH as the friend is younger than him.

Aww, poor DD probably thought she was being helpful! Let me know how you get on re hair dye - I'm part grey, but found for me the only really effective way was having it coloured in a salon. I assume salon products are stronger and/or better quality? But in any event, it cost a small fortune - not exactly money saving:rolleyes: Got bored doing it myself and not getting great results from it, so have been trying to leave it as is, but I really can't bear the sight of it!:rolleyes::)

I too hope confusion gets sorted - must be v upsetting for your DH.

Much love
Sazx

Tiff_2

feelinggood wrote:

Just me
Thought I'd let you know that I didn't qualify for IB, so I guess I'm screwed
Hehe, back to the planning stages me supposes, guess a refuge is my only option. Heck, maybe I'll just get on a train and go to France like I always wanted, nothing to loose!
Hope you's all well, sending love and hugs and lots of other soppy stuff.

Hi feelie!
Nice to hea from you hun. You can appeal against the decision and take yourself down to CAB for advice hun. If not, then also apply for DLA. You are not screwed hun - you should always appeal. Did they say why you don't qualify? You may also be entitled to claim for Income Support depending on your situation hun. Always try and get the experts at CAB or DIAL to help you fill in the paperwork angel and don't be put off - it's very common to get a refusal at the first fence. You've nothing to lose fg - give it a try.
Much love
Tiff xxx

Sazbo

Tiff wrote:

Hey Sazzy!
You got that dead right hun!:D
Lemmeeee-at-her! I'm ready! I'm ready!
Hope all is well angel? Has your blood pressure come down yet Sazzy?
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Hi Tiffy hun, I see you've got ya post-faster stripes on today hun!;)
How you doing?

My blood pressure had come down, until having to wait in ALL DAY today for a builder to come and make repairs to the plaster on my ceilings :mad: Grrrr! Like I have nothing better to do with my time. At 10.30 this morning he said he'd be here at 12.30 and now it's nearly 3pm and stilll no sign. It's probably a 20 min job at most. Why are builders so bl00dy unreliable? Grrr.....sorry guys, end of rant. calm, calm, calm..............

Sxx

Sazbo

feelinggood wrote:

Just me
Thought I'd let you know that I didn't qualify for IB, so I guess I'm screwed
Hehe, back to the planning stages me supposes, guess a refuge is my only option. Heck, maybe I'll just get on a train and go to France like I always wanted, nothing to loose!
Hope you's all well, sending love and hugs and lots of other soppy stuff.

Hi feelie - as Elona and Tiffy have said, don't take no for an answer. Keep pushing. Much love to you hun, Sazxxx

Sazbo

blinky wrote:

Tiff how are you today?

I'm v tired this morning but at least I finish work at 3pm and I'm seeing 'R' tonight :kisses2: :blushing: :happyhear

Big hugs to all

5 minutes to go blinky hun! Have a good evening and take care. Love Sxx