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  • feelinggood_2
    feelinggood_2 Posts: 11,115 Forumite
    Doctor doesn't take me seriously. I'm just staying with her in the hope I get a referal.
    WHY WON'T ANYONE TAKE ME SERIOUSLY? what do I need to do to get help?
    Stay-at-home, attached Mummy to a 23lb 10oz, 11 month old baby boy.
  • Horasio
    Horasio Posts: 6,676 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture Combo Breaker
    feelinggood wrote:
    I don't know - I think I'm going crazy.
    I can't tell if he is manipulating me, controlling me, making me miserable or if I am imagining it. Maybe it is all in my head?
    He wants to do something, I say I'm not keen, he tries to persaude me, I say I don't want to but will if he wants to, he gets moody, ignores me, huffs, puffs, bangs doors, rolls his eyes, sighs, says I ruin everything etc, I say its alright I'll go, then he says no point, its ruined now, I beg and plead to go just so I can stop him bneing like that.
    He sounds very childish and immature tbh.

    He does have age over you which does give him an unfair advantage, mix together some self doubt and you are putty in his hands - sorry to sound harsh. You need to build your self esteem and see him for what he is, rather than some control figure.

    The bit about persuading you isn't bad, maybe he feels getting on with it will help but I don't like the nasty bits afterwards.

    Have you been to marriage counselling? I don't think he realises how you feel and his reaction to you isn't helping you at all!
    An average day in my life:hello: :eek::mad: :coffee::coffee::coffee::T :o :rotfl: :rotfl: :p :eek::mad: :beer:
    I am no expert in property but have lived in many types of homes, in many locations and can only talk from experience.
  • feelinggood_2
    feelinggood_2 Posts: 11,115 Forumite
    He wouldn't go to marriage conselling I don't think.
    Its going to be a shock for him when i leave him x
    Stay-at-home, attached Mummy to a 23lb 10oz, 11 month old baby boy.
  • Horasio
    Horasio Posts: 6,676 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture Combo Breaker
    feelinggood wrote:
    Doctor doesn't take me seriously. I'm just staying with her in the hope I get a referal.
    WHY WON'T ANYONE TAKE ME SERIOUSLY? what do I need to do to get help?
    What have you told her and in what manner? Have you told her your marriage is affected and how you feel bad about yourself?

    She will insist you try the antidepressants first and tell her why you aren't taking them.

    I do know what you mean though. Trying to convince some doctors about my hormone swings was a nightmare.
    An average day in my life:hello: :eek::mad: :coffee::coffee::coffee::T :o :rotfl: :rotfl: :p :eek::mad: :beer:
    I am no expert in property but have lived in many types of homes, in many locations and can only talk from experience.
  • Horasio
    Horasio Posts: 6,676 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture Combo Breaker
    feelinggood wrote:
    He wouldn't go to marriage conselling I don't think.
    Its going to be a shock for him when i leave him x

    Have you told him how you feel and how his reaction is making you feel? If you do, how does he react?

    If he won't help, then maybe it might be better if you do leave. I cannot tell you to do this though as it might be construed in the wrong way on this forum.

    How are things with you know who?
    An average day in my life:hello: :eek::mad: :coffee::coffee::coffee::T :o :rotfl: :rotfl: :p :eek::mad: :beer:
    I am no expert in property but have lived in many types of homes, in many locations and can only talk from experience.
  • feelinggood_2
    feelinggood_2 Posts: 11,115 Forumite
    I think she doesn't take me seriously cos i don't cry.
    My old doctor said she didn't think I was really depressed cos I made eye contact.
    I've told them everything: hypersomnia, ocd, suicial/selfharming thoughts/urges, can't do anything, scared to go out some times, dont want to go on etc. She knows my OH doesn't approve of meds, but wouldn't even give me a real reasurrance.
    Alos, these are bad ones to take if you drink - I'm a pretty heavy drinker. She didn't care about that
    Stay-at-home, attached Mummy to a 23lb 10oz, 11 month old baby boy.
  • feelinggood_2
    feelinggood_2 Posts: 11,115 Forumite
    I can't talk to him, just upsets him - he gets wound up, angry, upset and all that.
    I will write him a letter explaining all this before I leave, so he doesn't drive anyone else away
    Stay-at-home, attached Mummy to a 23lb 10oz, 11 month old baby boy.
  • Horasio
    Horasio Posts: 6,676 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture Combo Breaker
    feelinggood wrote:
    I think she doesn't take me seriously cos i don't cry.
    My old doctor said she didn't think I was really depressed cos I made eye contact.
    I've told them everything: hypersomnia, ocd, suicial/selfharming thoughts/urges, can't do anything, scared to go out some times, dont want to go on etc. She knows my OH doesn't approve of meds, but wouldn't even give me a real reasurrance.
    Alos, these are bad ones to take if you drink - I'm a pretty heavy drinker. She didn't care about that


    She sounds like a quack. I have never heard anything so dumb - you're not depressed because you give eye contact?:confused:

    Also depression can take many forms. Some of the most gregarious people I know/knew are/were depressed.

    I assume you told her you drink. Mind you alcohol is a depressant in itself.

    Can you see another doctor? Have you ever had professional counselling? Try and get referred to see one as well. It might be a wait though.

    I agree trying to get throught the GP to people who can really help can be a nightmare
    An average day in my life:hello: :eek::mad: :coffee::coffee::coffee::T :o :rotfl: :rotfl: :p :eek::mad: :beer:
    I am no expert in property but have lived in many types of homes, in many locations and can only talk from experience.
  • Horasio
    Horasio Posts: 6,676 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture Combo Breaker
    feelinggood wrote:
    I can't talk to him, just upsets him - he gets wound up, angry, upset and all that.
    I will write him a letter explaining all this before I leave, so he doesn't drive anyone else away
    Are you seriously thinking of leaving him?

    He certainly isn't being very helpful. I imagine he is frustrated but he needs to learn to listen.
    An average day in my life:hello: :eek::mad: :coffee::coffee::coffee::T :o :rotfl: :rotfl: :p :eek::mad: :beer:
    I am no expert in property but have lived in many types of homes, in many locations and can only talk from experience.
  • feelinggood_2
    feelinggood_2 Posts: 11,115 Forumite
    Maybe I'm not making things as clear to them as i need to.
    Basically, come monday, I'm going to tell here everything, and tell her that if she doesn't get me help, nah, that sounds like a threat.
    Maybe I should let myself cry, then I'd be sobbing and sobbing in there -they might take me seriously.
    Stay-at-home, attached Mummy to a 23lb 10oz, 11 month old baby boy.
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